Marriage is just a waste of time!

I cannot answer your question if loves lasts or not, but I must agree with you, about the whole marriage thing. I think it is just a piece of paper to make it official. I am not married myself but am together with my guy for over 7 years now. We do have a registred partnership which is similar to marriage, but that is only for tax purposes.

Well when you find someone that you really love you will rethink abt it agn... not even talking abt what kind of good things you can take out from it ... even on taxes lol cant believe i said that lolol but its true..

I don't think it's a waste of time. Don't you ever want to spend your life with someone you love for as long as you live? I think there's a nice feeling when you're married because it gives you dreams and aspirations. Maybe you should try considering another point of view about marriage.

I disagree with you. People who enter marriage do so because they have faith in their marriage (that it can work). Yes, love fluctuates, but if you're committed with each other, then you'll make it work no matter what you're feeling. After all, loving means HARD WORK. Loving doesn't mean you'll depend on your feelings to be able to do good things to your partner. I agree with Kwenge. Marriage is SO SWEET!!! I must say that marrying my hubby's one of the BEST decisions I've taken in my entire life. Marriage is more than just putting a name or a piece of paper. It's a solemn vow between a husband and a wife that both of you are going to be together no matter what. If some people prefer not to get married, so be it. I won't judge them, but the same thing applies to married couples. Why should you think it's a waste of time? Both parties (those who get married or just live together) enjoy their relationship and they believe it can last...why do you have to call it a waste of time?

Hehe there is no 100% freedom in the world. Marriage, to some extent, means loyalty, responsibility and obiligation. Guess that's why more women than men in a relationship wanna get married, coz the man is normally the one could take control of the relationship. Marriage is a wedLOCK, you can choose to keep relationship with you loved one, if she also enjoys that :)

Hey violence, I totally disagree with you! Marriage is the sweetest thing u can ever get on earth. It started looooong before Cain n Abel were born. Nobody is forced to marry some1 but the love between two people makes them take that step. For women there is nothing fullfilling as marrying the person of your dreams and having children with him hence a happy family. Nobody forces you to be tied together with a person as you say. Me, I want to get married ASAP lol............

I see your point. I would have been fine with just living together however my husband is military and so that wouldn't work out due to the rules and all. I have to be married to him to get to go with him if I want and only by being married do I get my health insurance through him and it has increased his pay also. Then there are all the tax benefits. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but I would love him weather we were married or not. I didn't change my name either which some people think is not right but I like my name. I decided I'd change it if we actually had children. And also my dad said he's pay for my first marriage and my first divorce so I'm not worried. lol

i dont think marriage is a waste of time, if totally inlove with someone and want to tie the knot then go for it i think, i love my partner and i want to get married to him, not straight away as we dont have the money and i understand and accept that and happy with that but i know one day i would love to walk down and marry him

The definition of marriage is the contract of sacred union between a man and woman. Therefore we are solemnizing the union between the two and they will promise to live together forever with the guidance of God. It also makes us free of a certain sin. Example living with someone without marriage is considered to be a sin. People might simply think of freedom but freedom won't be defined as "do everything you wanted to do without caring about others." It has its own limitations so the fact that marriage is considered to restrict ones capability to do something against God's will. I hope you understand my point! Thank you!

Part of me agrees with you. I've personally, with my own two eyes, I've seen trainwreck marriages of friends and family. Most followed by a very brutal divorce/separation. Then there are cases I've seen online, and plenty of them are out there. I should just make a round and post all of the garbage for everyone to see, there's a lot of it. Maybe then some people will get why violence has his opinion and why I remain cynical when it comes to relationships/marriage. Another part though, I've seen some pretty good marriages. They have their reasons but for the most part they are happy and loving. Still, not every marriage is so lucky. There should be at least some care taken when going into relationships and some people are content not getting married but just living together or not even being in a long-term relationship.

Oh, you are WAY too young to be so bitter!! Marriage is for the legal benefits of things from medical insurance to inheritance through probate. Our laws are based on legal concepts, and a marriage license is a contract. Put them together and you have a thing called security. Love does exist, and it really can last, if it allowed to grow and not poisoned by selfishness. By now nearly everyone here knows that Hun and I have been married for nearly 44 years, and our best friends have been married almost as long. My Pop was married for 28 years--- twice! If a person feels 'forced to be tied to a person', then they don't know love. I just hope the person they are with isn't being hurt too badly by that attitude.

Hi iloveviolence22. Regarding your post, I am not quite agree with you. Haha. Love does last, why not? However, only true love will last. I mean love is a must exist between couple but also between parents and children or even friendship! They do last, I mean so far for me. Back to why people have to get married. Well, I am quite agree that couple of nowadays are living together, so getting marry doesn't make much changes. And, totally agree that marriage it's just a name of husband and wife. However, after all, in any relationship, is the love that determine everything. But, I am not quite agree that the saying of marriage is a waste of time and it meant to tie your behalf. Marriage is sometimes special for any couple. As I said, marriage does not bring too much of changes for truly in love couple that will die for each other. But we live in a life that we have to make some commitment for get agreement. For example, if a couple doesn't get married, they are not legally to share any property which under his/her couple name. It's just like that. And, husband and wife is not a title to tie each other, definitely NOT! Haha. I mean, why do they have to? No such thing. My parents still have their own freedom and it's so flexible for their time, no problem at all. Anyway, this is only my point of view..

All I can say is marriage is very important, it is a SACRAMENT and A COVENANT MADE BETWEEN A woman and a man and is therefore BLESSED BY GOD, and a person who is not ready to receive the sacrament of marriage is still IMMATURE, and an IMMATURE PERSON does not love or fully love his partner(BOY and GIRL)... Marriage is not a waste of time but the person is the one making things a waste of time. An analogy "Do you believe Love is blind? It is not the Love but the person itself." Do you get my point? I am not yet finish with my explanation, because I need to go for now...

I think if you want to have a good feeling of family,you can get married,if you want to have someone tell you dad you can get married,if you want to be taken care of by other people you can get married,if you like it you can do it,if you donnot like it you can keep alone,each is your choose,different person has different mind,best wishes.

To me marriage is a stronger commitment. We have vowed before our family, friends and god that we are in this for the long haul. I think we try a little harder to make it work. Just my view though. I dont think it is for everyone.

hi! i dont think marriage is waste of time if you love each other very much.but the problem comes when it comes to divorce.we see even in marriages where there was deep love between the couples ending in divorces.Divorce can sap u both mentally and financially.

i think the first time people who get marride just for one reason:they love each other so they want to be together forever.However,with the develping of society,many people have changed their minds of marrige.the meaning of marrige has changed a lot.In my oppinion,marrige not only base on love but also responsibility.if you dont want to get married wiht another person,it just reflect that you dont love her/he enough to sacrifice yourself to take the resonpibility.it is a certification to promise a happiness life.

I agree, I think marriage is so ingrained in our societal morals and norms that we associate getting married with committing ourselves to 'the one'. People can be completely happy and in love without marriage, if anything marriage can be seen as a manipulation tool by one or both partners to quell insecurity and stake claim on another person. Marriage can be an expression of loyalty and love, but it is not needed in order to maintain a good, long lasting relationship. Some people might say it prevents or makes difficult the ability to leave the relationship and to those people I say this : 'You obviously have more demanding psychological issues going on inside your mind if you are one to use marriage as a way to hold on to that person and make sure they don't stray'. Marriage is like a way to bypass any trust completely and have the law protect you instead.

i dont hink marriag is a wate of time however having been married and things are rough i know that it would be much esier to just live together less complicated if things do not work out.

Dear I am not completely agree with you. We are just human not an animal. It is depend our circumstances what they saying. Sometimes it is right decision but sometimes we have to do it.