Would you rather choose a new guy or the man whom you know since childhood?

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Hi MarieJ. Serious dilemma yea? You have to ask yourself, who do you love the most? After decide, don't change anymore if you really want to have a stable relationship. Before that I feel you should try to talk your fiance as well as he has the right to know how you feel and by receiving feedback from you will able to react better. Well, I am not saying that you fall in love is a wrong thing but sometimes we people have to be responsible for every single little thing that we did. I hope you don't mind words but...take care and think twice before your decision. Anyway, times is not a criteria to decide thing. Haha.

That is indeed a very difficult situation. Since you are with the new guy everyday it would be hard for you to avoid him. Now he is the one you share yourself with most of the time because of your job so it's natural for you to feel closer to him. What if he is not your boss or happens to be a regular employee? Would you feel the same way with him? What makes you attracted to him in the first place? Is it his personal traits or character or is it his knowledge and passion for the job which you two share? Think outside of your job and consider his personal qualifications. Assess your feelings if it is really love or just admiration. Now if you think you've known your fiance that much and there is nothing wrong with him that you can't take, and know for your self his love for you won't change in the future, then why gamble? Take a month-leave and see if there's any change in your feelings without the new guy or if it only grows stronger. Then maybe it's the real thing.

Well it really is hard to choose between the two, one is much more of security and the other more of the excitement. As they say true love will only come once in our life. In a world of billion people, there is only one person that was truly meant for you. How do you know which one and how do you choose? I still have yet to find out myself. Therefore I would just have to say that you have to weigh what is much more important to you, only you yourself knows the answer. You could be marrying the wrong person or marrying the right guy that was sent to you as early as your childhood days. Or you can be dissing a new gut that was truly the one, or dissing your fiance for a no good temporary love affair.

I would not go with the new guy so fast. I would take time away to sort out my feelings. It could be just lust considering this short amount of time. I would however figure out what I want for sure before going through with the marriage. It is supposed to be forever and you don't want to have any regrets.

I'd go for the man whom I've know since childhood. First of all the time we have spent already is definitely enough to know a person and my family knows about him too. Six months is not enough to know a person, actually even 10 years is also not enough! The point is, it's very difficult to get to know one person. Choosing the first man would mean that you have gotten more knowledge about this guy than the new one. Choosing the new guy would be too risky.

new guy............ coz............ fresh.

Everyone thinks its SO romantic to marry someone from your childhood, and it might work. But sometimes it doesnt. If you dont feel like that for the guy as he does for you, and you find someone else. Yes tell him and break off the engagement. Dont let it sit there too long, 6 months or 1 if you feel stronger for them then you do your own finance then break if off for sure.

Only the person involved can answer that. You can actually feel who is your real love. To whom your heart beats, that is the guy you suppose to marry. It doesn't matter if his your childhood friend or new friend or forever firned as long as you know that you are in love with the person, you stick with person you love. You will be happy forever.

If I had strong enough feelings for someone else to even think I was in love with him, I would be doing a huge disservice to my fiance by hiding it from him. I think I would have to talk to my fiance and tell him the truth. I have learned that the truth is a LOT easier than trying to hide things. Maybe I would ask for some time to sort my feelings out. I may realize that I just gave a crush and my real love of my long time friend and fiance. Or I may realize that I am only getting married to my fiance because everyone thinks I should. In that case, it would be a disaster to marry him. He deserves the truth and I deserve to know what I really feel before committing myself to anyone.

First of all, you don't really know your supervisor. You know your fiancee as far as what kind of man he is, but the kind of man your supervisor is happens to be a man who has no trouble getting involved with someone who is engaged. If he was a respectable man he would consider you cute, but totally off limits as you are someone else's fiancee. People think that when they meet someone who is willing to disregard these things, it was "meant to be" but often times they are just happy until the person has no problem flirting with a married or engaged woman instead of you. I understand the feeling about wanting some excitement and variety. But there is something to be said being with someone who knows you and cares for you deeper than someone that just met could. You can always try to spice things up with your fiancee rather than wandering around. Whatever you decide, you will have to be honest with all parties and don't be upset if when you break it off with your fiance you become less appealing to the supervisor because its no longer forbidden. And keep in mind that you will no longer be able to work there if you choose your supervisor because many companies have relationship policies so you will be out of that too. And besides, do you know if he is really free to be in a relationship with you and doesn't have a wife, fiance, girlfriend at home - otherwise he wouldn't be working late with you he would be seeing you outside of work.

Better the devil you know than the angel you dont know. I would definately continue with my fiancee and forget about the new guy because it might be just infatuation or lust that is going between us and not true love. Maybe the new guy is married or has something from the past that i wouldnt like.

It's up to you