Why do men talk about their problems with everyone else.....

Women also talk about their problems with everyone else and not their husbands/boyfriends. I've seen plenty in public doing it (usually in the middle of a long baseless hubby-bash -_-) A friend and I actually asked one woman what her problem was with her husband and why he was so bad. She couldn't come up with anything concrete. I walked away after 1 minute of her nonsense all while muttering "arrogant trash" so they could hear. Now on the guys, since I'm supposed to participate in your OP question. Some men are embarrassed to admit problems to their wives, especially if their wives are judgmental or overcritical (plenty of women are -_-). Some problems men still don't want to admit to wives especially finance or something at the workplace. I do agree though husbands and wives should talk to each other about these things. Don't hide it from each other and try not to judge each other too harshly. You are there to love, cherish, support and help each other in times of need. Also its great to communicate and share your lives with each other.

I am not a man, I don't even play one on t.v. So this a guess.I think that they feel more comfortable telling a stranger or their best buddy because they won't take it the wrong way or use it against them.and they think if they twll their wife how they really feel, it will star a big fight that they would never win.

Sometimes its because if they are doing something wrong.....like affairs....ect they want to talk to someone who isnt judging them....or someone they dont have to answer too.....and if they want to ease their consciences , they cant do that with most wives when they are doing wrong .......unless they are ready to change and be honest.... It still looks like a cop out to me and failure to keep the lines of communication open.......

Hi sandgroper. Well, I personally feel that is quite odd too. Haha. However, maybe for some men, they have their own pride in front of their wife. So, sometimes maybe he just try to stay calm and endure and finally talk to others. And, he chose someone he never meet before, so maybe he is feeling that "problem" will be more secure in a stranger rather than someone close? Well, it's just my assumption. Anyway, I personally feel couple and of course husband and wife should be truthful and frank to each other.

Well I think people ask strangers because they dont know anything but what they are being told about the situation. My boyfriend talks to his friends a lot or no one at all versus me. I think its easier for people to talk to other people who they know wont judge them or agree with them. Not that I wouldnt agree but I think there is less at stake when they ask a stranger or friend. They might worry about what you would think of them.

If I have some question,I always talk with my friends who I kown through the Internet,because they can listen to me!

Haha you have a point there sandy. I think it's because the man doesn't want to elicit a bad reaction from his wife. He doesn't want her to think that he's complaining. Men try to avoid making their partner feel bad.

hi. here is my analysis on that particular instance, the man felt that you, and some in the group, are reasonable people and would look at situations with open mind, these gave him reason to trust you. and made it comfortable to talk about something personal. generally, people find it more convenient to be more honest about there feelings to strangers. why? anonymity. that their secrets are more safe with strangers. that these strangers will have no reason to harm them when they reveal certain secrets. look at what is happening on the internet. strangers chatting with each other, some first the first meeting yet on the internet would be talking about real personal matters. ideally, just like what you have with your husband, husband and wife must be open with each other. be like best friends that both can talk about anything, no secrets to keep. but many people in marriages have not really worked hard at the communications between each other, not even worked hard at establishing friendships between them. when i encounter people who talk about personal matters, i listen. but once i get the chance, i tell them my own opinion, just like your idea of open communication with the one person they are involved with. this way, they will rethink and perhaps improve their relationships especially on the communication aspect. i believe both husband and wife must really work hard towards having more open discussion, listen more to each other, be more open. thnaks, and i wish you well...Perry

I'd say that based on my experience, it's 50-50 both men and women. Both of them do this. I have a friend who's stuck between a guy and a girl who are a couple. They tell her lots of things about their relationships, but they can't be open to each other. My Mom's also experienced the same thing. A husband and wife both shares their complaints to my Mom separately, but they don't try to solve it themselves. I think one problem is that both of them have formed self-defense mechanism. Either in the past they've been judged/hurt severely or they tried being open in the past but then it didn't work out over and over again or they received bad reactions whenever they opened up...so they're now reluctant to be open to each other. The problems have piled up, so it's getting harder and harder to open up as they have so many things to cover already.