can't understand this feeling????
By jona06
@jona06 (78)
December 17, 2007 11:21pm CST
i don't like him anymore....i'm tired of him... he have asked me if he can court me...and i've said yes.....but now, 8 months have passed and still he is waiting for my answer.....
but i don't see any sincerity in him....and i can't really understand if he truly loves me or just playing over me....
people....i need your advices.....pls
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15 responses
@makatas (1098)
• Greece
18 Dec 07
If you are not interested in him, just tell him.Try to imagine what it would feel like for you, to be waiting for a response from the one you love and never get any.Wouldnt that be bad? Dont do to others what you wouldnt like to happen at you.
Or, if you still cant decide, try to have a sincere conversation with him to sort things out.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
18 Dec 07
One has to be very careful in choosing a partner. Unlike one changes shirt (clothes) one cannot change the partners because it hurts deeply and bad memories do not get erased. That is why I always say one's family is very important in giving the requried strength and courage to take right decision. Once a decision is taken do not go back on it, if you go back on it, then it becomes a habit and your mind will not allow you to take a firm decision anytime not only on this issue but on all other issues pertaining to your life.
You are the best judge. You know him, his behaviour, his mentality, his sincerity. I feel you should go by intuition and impulses. I hope god gives you strength to take a right decision.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Dec 07
hi friend,
you are so very right! I really appreciate your view point.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
18 Dec 07
hi jona... love is a very strange feeling and it is very hard to understand... my advice is not to rush and follow what your heart says... you don't want to choose the wrong guy to be your partner... i don't know how you feel after 8 months of courtship with him... but just take it slowly and if you think that he is not the one, then look for another one... good luck...
@bong_domingo (878)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
is there really no trace of sincerity in those 8 months of of courtship? :-)
@bong_domingo (878)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
maybe you just need to give it some time..... i mean for yourself to find out how you feel about this guy :-)
@bluebugz_8 (17)
• Philippines
4 Jan 08
"i don't like him anymore....i'm tired of him" i'd like to pick up these lines from you....if thats what you feel maybe it's time for you to tell him the truth, and besides its getting far already, maybe he's expecting something from you...and if you take it any longer he will be more hurt..it's not too late so go tell him girl..
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
If that's how you feel right now, what kind of relationship do you think you will have, if ever you say yes to him? You obviously don't love him. Tell him that, so he can move on and you can move on.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
19 Dec 07
If you don't feel that much love and you feel say a great deal of doubt, maybe even apathy, then something maybe wrong with the relationship/situation as it stands. You're better off confronting him about it and taking this seriously. Other than that you may have to move on and forget about it. Live your life.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
18 Dec 07
well i think yuo need to give some time to your relation.since marriage is a very sacred thing.one needs to be very careful while chooing a partner,since a correct can do wonders for each toher and on the other hand a wrong partner can just reverse the case.dont ask for anybody's help in this case.since its just you who can judge the best since its your emotion.you need to go by your heart and not by your mind in this case.listen to your instinct.if you think he is sincere and trustworthy and repects you then probably you can give him one more chance.however if not then you can move ahead in your direction.look its really tough for any one of us to tell whether he loves you or not.so you need to think and then decide.take youre own times since its one of the most crucial decisions of your life.all the best to you.
@bumblebee34 (190)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
i also have that kind of situatuion.. i end up being alone
i also like this guy but then i wasnt sure if he really liked me, later i found out he was back with his old gf..
sad..
@mythical01 (184)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
maybe u dont really give him a chance...
in that 8 months u should say to him earlier that u dont have feeling for him...
u should say to him that u dont want him.... as early as now.. and if he dont give up then its his fault!!!
hehehehe... cno ba tlga yan!!!!