ungrateful people.....

There is no need to apologyse for easing your heart and mind, at least not this time ;-). I understand what you are saying, that people are not grateful if they get something. I personally try to be grateful every time i get something, you don't always get what you want but you can at least thank the person for trying. Remember during the previous christmas i got a couple of pc games from my mother, sadly they fell under the type of games i don't play. Still i was thankfull for that she at least tried to find something i would like, that one thing made a lightyear of difference. this doesn't mean that i am perfect, damn im a great example of unperfektness. I hope you all can smell the stench of ironi in that. Do you have any thoughts of reasons why people would complain about gifts and stuff they recieve?, would be interesting to hear that. I can understand if people get upset, if the giver just out of pure lazyness wraps some old stuff upp and gives it away. Its more sad if the giver really tries to find something that would please the reciever and then gets the cold shoulder.

You have So much! Fortune smiles on you! So many would give so much for a Family to say nothing of your Home and Husband. Some complain because they don't count their blessings. Others seem ungrateful, and hurtful, because thinking makes them so! See the Perfection in all Things, be Thankful and Live Happily ever After!

Well, I'm probably what you'd call one of the ungrateful ones. I did post a discussion about some things that my husband got me that I was not particularly happy with. I for one am not big on giving or getting gifts that are given for the sole reason of having a gift to open. I think that is thoughless and rude. Yes, everyone says it's the thought that counts, but giving a gift just to give "something" is not very thoughtful. Anyone can go to the local Walmart and pick up some stupid thing in a few minutes that means absolutely nothing to nobody and wrap it. Now, when someone puts a little thought and consideration into things, that's a bit different. I also was raised in a poor family and learned to be very frugal with my money. I hate to see people wasting money on something that would have been better off on the store shelf. When you don't have the money to waste on it and it means almost nothing, don't buy it just for the sake of giving a "gift".

Yeah I know what you mean. I appreciate all that has been given to me. Especially when I know it comes from someone who doesn't have much to give. That's more special to me than anything. I don't understand the complaining. It's a great irritant to me as well.

I appreciate it when a friend is comfortable enough to go on a good rant! If I could double-rate you, I would... people are indeed shallow and ungrateful, but luckily its not everyone. Hun and I don't exchange gifts... its something we couldn't afford when the kids were home. We are by no means wealthy now, so plan together for things we want and/or need, and get them as we can. Our relationship has been good all these because of that. In the long run, shallow people may get stuff, but you'll have closeness and contentment!

I agree, my husband and I don't have much either, however when we give, we give what we can. We do have had complaints about gifts and it IS hurtful, it makes us feel like we didn't try hard enough. But you know, it's not about trying to please everyone, it's about giving from the heart, and if people can't accept that, then they have no morals.

I am the same way. My husband and I don't have much and, like you, we do for our kids before we do for us. Therefore, we don't really get anything. My husband has one pair of jeans to wear, if that tells you how bad it is. I understand exactly what you are saying. I got pots for Christmas and love them. A lot of people would say that it's a horrible gift, but its not. I needed pots, so it was the perfect gift. I really was expecting anything because my husband and I were only able to buy for our kids and not that much. And I told everyone not to get for me. But my mom wasn't going to let a Christmas go by without getting me something. People should be more grateful for what they get.

I go nuts when ppl act that way..I no longer struggle like I use to but there was a time when I was below poverty level and living on the streets...I've been homeless and without so much as a $1 for a cup of coffee so I'm VERY grateful for the life I have now and yes "the thought counts" means a great deal....Ppl dont seem to stop and think about what its like for some AND more than that, they dont stop to realize that tomorrow they could lose it all!

I also came from a poor family, and for me, money does not govern or rule over me. I do my best to aprreciate almost everything, since I give more than expect from others. For me, I feel much better giving to others hoping that I have provided them some temporary relief or joy in their life. If ever I was the one to receive some, I would be greatful and thankful no matter how much it costs as long as the thought and value of giving and sharing was there..

I understand what you are talking about and I totally agree. People should be thankful for what is given to them. Sometimes we have it hard too and can't afford everything we want. And I always give to my child before myself. I wouldn't complain about anything I got because I am grateful for anything that I receive. And I believe it's the thought that counts.

For the most part I will agree with you. I think that people do need to stop being critical of other's gift giving style. * There are some exceptions. There can be inappropriate gifts given to youngsters, age inappropriate and such. Clueless Barb could have given little Johnny a game that Johnny's parents had a raving fit over...if you get my drift. Some parents may also have objections about Bratz under their trees for little Suzie for religious or ethical reasons.

I totally agree with you on this one. I had ran into at least one of those also and I could not believe what I was reading. People are really becoming more and more sad every year. Why don't they just call the people and order what they want from them for Christmas? This is the only way, it seems, that they might be grateful. Especially since Christmas is not suppose to be about them in the first place. Whatever happen to celebrating the birth of Christ?

I feel your ranting deserves recognition in a day and age where materialism is far too over-rated and true gift-giving from the heart is rarely noticed. The whining about cost, appeal, 'oooh everyone else has one too', but what about 'wow, that was very sweet you really shouldn't have', goes very unnoticed. Thank you for caring enough to say the very best about something thought of the very least . . . sharing the light and happy new year, Miss Erica Hidvegi, the Enlightenment_Advisor, B.A. Psych/M.A. Transpersonal Studies- Cnslng/Author, Artist, Photographer, Entrepreneur & Freelance extraordinaire

Hi, i know so many people like that, when they recieved a gift and they dont like it, they keep complaining, for me i hope everybody will just happy and enjoy and thankful for what they recieved.^_^

We are completely ungrateful and spoiled. All you have to do is look around the world to realize how much we all have materialistically in the United States. It's pathetic how spoiled we are. People have certainly forgotten or never been taught the adage about it being the thought that counts or the idea that NO ONE is obligated to buy you anything. Whatever gift you receive you should be thankful.

Do not worry so much. Yes I agree with you fully that the world is nowadays full of ungrrateful,dishonest people but still the world is beautiful. Always there will be people like that but people like you and me will always be there who will fight them out and always reach to our detination. I am very touched by your care and concern for the children. Thank you so much for the post.

i totally agree with you... a lot of ungrateful people in this world nowadays who don't appreciate what they have and just keep on complaining... i also don't have much... but i always learn to be grateful with what God had given to me everyday... it makes me feel happier and more peaceful...

A lot of people these days I find are arrogant and ignorant. There is a rule forthem and another for the rest of the world. These people you mention probably don't even realise how awful they are being. They are probably really self entred people who are greedy and selfish as well. If you can, search your heart and say a little prayer for these people. It can't hurt and it's better than just complaining about them. :)

I completely agree with you. Until very recently I had a very good job that basically allowed me to do what i wanted and spend pretty much as much as i wanted. It was great. I think that we all need to keep in mind that everything can change. I went from having an awesome paying job to it moving, and me having to take a job for substantially less, and having to live on a budget. We should all be greatfull of what we have cause it can all change at the drop of a hat.

I totally agree with that when i was living with my parents and they were still together my brother and i would only get what we needed cuz my dad would give my mom what ever she wanted so now that i'm on my own and know whast its like to get only the bare nessesities i'm thankful for gifts that i get and it dont matter what they are. I learned that complaining isnt going to change anything.