Bullies at school

I was the student being bullied and after several tries at getting help I finally took matters into my own hands. I fought back and beat the heck out of the person. I had to do it several more times to several more people before they finally figured out that I had had enough of their garbage. I also beat up the bully picking on my best friend and several that where picking on my brother. I was not a fighter in the sense that I went looking to do this but I got to the point where if no one was going to help me stop the problem I was going to do what I had to to make it stop. By high school I had a reputation for being a tough kid and people stopped picking on me. The reputation came with problems as well if there was trouble at school I was the first person teacher looked to as being the cause but that I could handle for the sake of not having to deal with the other kids. I finally dropped out of school at 16 and went to work full time finishing my schooling through night school. That also had it's up side by the time I was 17 I had credit, my truck was valued at $10 000, I never had to ask my parents if I could go out I just had to tell them where I was going and make sure if I was drinking I had a rid home. I had a great group of guys watching over me (I worked road construction) and I was making $15 an hour at 17 years old, I was safety supervisor and senor lead hand by 18. Things worked out great for me.

Well sweety I have been in that position many times with my 14 year old son as he was badly bullied all through primary school and still gets some bullying now - he is really sensitive and doesn't fight back but one of these days someone is going to push him too far and as he is 6ft and quite strong I dread to think of what could happen if he ever snaps and attacks one of these bullies! I have also experienced one teacher who despite talking to her about him at the age of 7 being bullied by 11 year olds at least 5 times and her telling me she had sorted it did absolutley nothing. Luckily i had and still do have a great relationship with the head teacher and went to see her - she had the situation sorted in less than half an hour! I would never allow any teacher to fob me off when it came to the safety of my children! I pity anyone who tried to bully my 6 year old daughter - I think they would regret it big time as she is very strong and self confident! xx

I always tell my kids to tell a teacher. If I found out that the teacher was doing nothing about it then I would go into the school and go right to the principal and make shur that they handle the problem. The thing is today is that the parents of the child have to teach them that being a bully is wrong and hurtfull and if they are not doing that then the child dosnt know that it is wrong.

no matter where you go, wheter in school or in the market, there will always be bullies around. if you have come across bullies on your own, i would suggest that you would not get into a fight with these bullies because you will eventully lose because they have the motivation to bully you around, this is why they became bullies in the first place. my recommendations would be just stay away from them and ignore them in your life. if you want to be a good samaritan, tell them to change and become a good person. you might never know, they will listen to you and start to change their characters.

I would have to encorage your child to walk away. I would report it to a school counselor. There are no bullying laws in most schools. Most schools also have an anoymous phone lines to call for instances like this as well. Too many times when children try to defend themselves they wind up being the one that gets in trouble for taking up for themself. That is why I would encourage walking away.

You go to the school and demand to see the headmistress/master and DEMAND that these brats be brought in ONE AT A TIME to explain themselves..Bullies work in pairs or groups yet when on their own they crumble! Dont stand for this nonsense as it can affect your child's confidence in him/herself and their school work. It needs to be mentioned that the teacher did nothing about the situation too and that IF YOUR CHILD comes home once more with a complaint about been bullied by these kids you will take it further. Dont stop till its sorted please! I have walked into a classroom after a teacher refused to acknowledge my child been bullied and caused a commotion of note! It was sorted out in the heads office with one bully at a time!

At first, I tell them to walk away and tell a teacher...but if a teacher repeatedly didn't do anything about it, I'd tell my kids to sock them right back. It's happened before...but not at school...but another child my son's age at the apartment complex that we stay at.

I have yet to prepare myself for this as my daughter is almost 6 and will be going into grade 1, at a different school. I was bullied from grades 7-9 and it had a huge negative impact on my life, even today I still suffer from it. However I never told anyone, I was too ashamed... but I am sure if I was able to stand up for myself it would have lessened quite a bit. That would probably be the advice I would give my kids and yes I would notify the school as well. What an unfortunate situation.

I would encourage my kids to talk to an adult they trust at school but if things wouldnt change, I would definitely want my child to be able to stand up for him or herself. I think its very important to do so. Bullying can affect children long term.

Wow did you hit a topic that is on my list right now. I do not have my 2 children, they live in Maine. However my son has a Bully, fortunately I can talk to him and tell him ways out of it peacefully. Alternatives, how to handle them. I believe my daughter has them too and she was talking how girls are making fun of her "friend" and she wants to be homeschooled and is turning away from tradition. Bullies unfortunately are even a part of our lives no matter what age it is. Humor is the quickest way to make them go down and the quickest way to bring one up. Just so you know my son did not tell me he has a bully, I know by how he speaks. Good luck on your issue. I honestly feel humor and a good sense of oneself is the best way to handle this situation. Oh yes, I love you, I am proud of you, and it is ok to be who you are. Ainge

When my son was in Grade one, which was last year at a different school, there was a bigger kid in his class. I was picking up my son from school one day and seen this kid picking up my son's winter boots, hat and mittens and throwing them outside. I walked outside and informed the boy that if I ever seen him doing this again that I was going to let his princible know what a little jerk he was being and also let him know that I was going to tell his teacher about it as soon as I get back into the school. I told my son's teacher about it and she dealt with it the next day. When I picked my son up the next day she told me that was not an act of bullying! I was in shock! Meanwhile before I went to pick up my son his school called asking me if I touched that fat kid and I told the principle that I never touched him in any way and that I just told him never to do it again or I would be talking to you about it. He then told me I handled it the wrong way. I'm protective for my son but I can only see myself doing this through elementary school. I think when he gets to Junior High I'll step in to some extent but he's going to have to learn to fight for himself like I did.

My son was a premie and there fore a very small boy for his age. Well he came home on day from school with a black eye and told me that this one kid is a bully and was always picking on him. What I did probably wasnt right but I went to the school and looked for the biggest kid I could find it turns out that this kid was a grade higher than my child and I paid this kid to take care of the bully and convince the bully that my child is off limits. This worked great all year long and he even stepped in if any one was attempting to bully my child. If the boy I paid were to ever get in to trouble I would step in and explain but he was smart and never got caught. It worked for me.

I tell my children if they are bring bullied to stand up for themselves' that is what bullies want is to walk all over the weak ones. If that does not work I want them to be sure to tell me. I understand that kids will be kids. But bulling can be taken to far. Then if it is something that will not stop I would want to talk to the childs parent. I have never had to deal with that. And hope that my children or I don't.

The reason why sometimes bullies get away with what they're doing is that either the teacher will just talk to the kids or just ignore it. I've been there. When I was a kid, I get bullied a lot; the worst thing is that one of the bullies is actually our history teacher's son. I tried telling the teacher but they just don't listen and will just tell the ba*(st*ds to stop it. After that, they don't care anymore. Sometimes, you have to teach kids when enough is enough. Diplomacy has its limits, too.

I have dealt with this all through school and I always walked away from them. they would bully me on the bus also. My daughter has been bullied in school a couple of times and she walked away and told the teacher and the principal. That did no good so I talked to the parents. One of the parents was very understanding and the other parent gave me a cussing and defended their child. No wander that child bullies in school. The parent was no better. I have always told my daughter to walk away but if there is a time where she is in trouble for help, to defend herself. I also called the school and talked to the principal about the situation and he called the bully girls in the office.

yes my son has been constantly bullied,and fortunately it has now stopped.i went to the school and spoke with the headmaster,and i do not mince words when it comes to things like bulling.i was not satisfied with what he said to me ,so i got onto the education departmaent and told them that it is the schools duty to protect my son,and if it continues,i would take them to court.(a child was awarded money for being constantly bullied,which i had seen i t.v prior to speaking with the education department)so i knew i had that to back me up.well the education department contacted the school and guess what ,no more bullies.i think you need to be strong with the school and demand that your child needs to be protected,and i would contact the education department if you are not satisfied with the school.cheers sue

Hello, I think it depends on the ages of the kids involved. Obviously you need to tell a teacher if they are very young. By middle school, it gets a bit complicated as many kids don't want to be labeled tattletales and sadly with the violence we see in today's society, it can have serious consequences to take things into your own hands. Its a difficult situation which needs to be handled on a case per case basis.

I've been through this! I was bullied in school and when it began to happen to my boys I tried the "tell a teacher" and it just got worse. After getting no results from talking to the teacher, I went to the principal. No dice. So I called the parents and told them our children were having problems. Only one set of parents refused to talk and my boys became friends with a couple of the bullies, who became a lot nicer after playing at our house a few times. I also made a complaint to the school board but that was before the bully problem became so public to nothing was done. A lot of bullies are like that because they have problems but some are just plain mean. I chewed out a boy in my son's scout troup and got into trouble for it, almost got sued. Parents are the worst part of dealing with a bully sometimes. You just have to take matters into your own hands in a civilized way--after formally going through all the channels to cover your behind--and support your child. That will give him/her the confidence they need to work through it while you take the brunt of it. After awhile they'll learn to deal with it in productive, civilized ways instead of getting shoved around and ending up an emotional mess.

My son was bullied a couple of weeks ago, for standing up for himself and me. The child that did this to him was hitting my son with a stick and almost poked his eye out. I was pretty upset, and when I talked to the principal all she told me was that they should stay away from each other. And I flipped out, I said this is uncalled for and you as the principal should take actions for the child that is doing this. And still nothing has been done. And this isn't the first time this child has done this, he has done this to another friend of mines child too. We both complained and nothing is still be done. We have even tried to talk to the mother of the child, and we get yelled at and the door slammed in our faces. So we think it all starts at home, or does it?

i am still a student, i hav not being bullied but hav seen tis cases b4...i think e best way is 2 walk away ,if they continue then argue back....if really no choice, fighting back also a good way....ppl always like 2 bully those tat look quiet or those not being accepted by most classmates...if anyone do not wanna being bullied juz make sure u r liked by e class.....finding teacher 2 solve e problem i don think is a gd way, tis will make e bullies think u r afraid of them, is a coward,only noe how to complain...other ppl also may look down on u, tis will make u hard 2 find friends n u will not be happy in school