A little doubt about Mylot Friendship :)

My list of friends is starting to get out of hand. I will only accept a friends request from someone that has actually posted something either against one of my discussions or in a comment on something that I too have commented about. I rarely ask to be someone's friend now unless I want to send them a PM. This may seem harsh, but I don't see the point of having a friends list if everyone is on it! They might as well do away with the category then. I must stress that there is a big difference between being on someone's friends list and being friendly. We should all aim to be the latter. Even if it is a struggle sometimes.

I usually add those who responded my discussion and those whose discussions appeal to me. Anyway, I think it's not a bad thing to be requested as a friend of others. After all, more choices, more chances to find a real friend.

This does seem to happen at times, and I have also noticed an increase of this lately. Basically these recent members are simply browsing through the site and selecting as many people as possible in order to build a quick friends list in the hope that this will create a huge response to any discussions that they submit.

Hi subha, I do come across this quite some time. I find that many of them just to indulge in starting new discussions but never like to add any comment for any responses. They even find no interest in responding other people’s discussions. After some time they will even disappear themselves totally. I did delete some of those avatars, which had remained inactive for months long, with rating below 10. I always appreciate all mylotters who are steady and persistently stay here though they might leave for a short period for some other business.

I accept all friends' requests. We were new members before. If at that time others denied our requests because of this reason. Would you feel disappointed? So no matter who he/she is, I add them all to my friends.

Well for a start India has the 2nd highest amount of users from a certain country only just behind America. So maybe these users have joined Mylot and looked for fellow country members and have found you that way.

I used to accept everyone right off the bat, but, lately, I haven't been accepting friends requests from people who have not yet made a post. I am getting a little pickier about my friends. In the past, I used to get a lot of requests from people with only 0 posts who only wanted to add me to their spam list.

I get requests a lot myself. I usally accept all of them also. I also wonder why there are no discussions under there name.

Yes, your are right, i'am just one user that want you add me.Iam totally a fresh in mylot, so there is definitely much for me to learn, and you the best one to learn from. So would you accept my request??

I see no harm in adding new friends, and if I see a discussion I really like , I will ask that person as well. I just think it gives you more choices, for variety of disucssions.

I have never been requested to be on someones friends list. should I be sad that I don't have any friends? But then again I haven't posted that many responses on the board either. Maybe I am not sociable enough in the my lot community. Now that I think about it I have one good friend in real life and that is about all I can handle. If I get too many my lot friends a may go crazy. Or I may feel needed and my opinion may be worthy. By the way I love the site I usually just read what other people think.

hello! subha12, i am a new comer ,i found you in mylot , and noticed that you are very active here , you always start a new dicussion and reply for other's discussion , so iam glad to add you to my friend list , thank you for accepting my request.

hi i am new 2 this .. pls help me how 2 get mopre money here and also tel me some tips 4 easy money ya .. i ythink ur from chennai .. is tat so

i think user rating 0 can send the request of friend to every one

en, that's a interesting question. I think, they find you when looking through the posts. Though they have not posted any disscusions or repsonses, they are free to read others' threads. If you responded some disscussions, they might find you. Also, you have a high rating, more than 5500, and that might attract some newbies' eyeball. I still remember I always chose the members with high ratings when I was a newbie. At least, you are a poplular mylot guy! That's great! Have a nice day!

I don't find it very hard,.. when i saw your profile page it is superb!!!

May be. Do you have problems being a friend apart from being a Mylot friend? You have been here at mylot for quite a long time.Ur rating is over 5000.. so may be people look for someone to guide them.. Or may be your interests match with their interests and they want to be updated when you start a new discussion. Being new to mylot they may look for a friend over here. and since you are very popular here.. so they must have chosen you. Even i look for profiles of girls and i do add them if our interests match.. So am i doing something wrong? Its not to worry yaar.. no one is gonna harm you here. Hardly anyone knows about you in reality..

yes, I have noticed this lately too - wondering if it is a new trend. IT struck me oddly that they would be so new as to have not yet participated in a discussion but are making friend requests. I am a little paranoid that they want the "friendship" in order to spam my account.

Does the users that have a rating of 0 have a profile and if they do what is on it? You could always ask them why they wanted to add you.

I guess I am lucky as allof the people who asked to be my friends are posting and have a lot of really great discussionsso I do not know what to say.I just approve and do not really check either.