remarks about fat people

Hello Hatley. This is a good discussion. For my many years being a slim guy, I never for once tend to look down on overweight or obese people. And I don't have a right to say that they are all lazy and do not know that they are fat and all. I think that's just degrading remarks and it certainly says a lot about those who insult fat people because it clearly shows how low-level those persons are. I have some lady colleagues here who complain to me that no matter what they try, they still can't slim down. I do know as what they have told me that these are more towards genes and hereditary. And also because they have a low metabolism. But that doesn't mean that they don't exercise and take care of their meals and all that. So, it is not fair for people to comment someone as fat and calling him or her as lazy. However, it is alright to give encouragement to them, but as long as the person is willing to hear it. If he or she is happy to remain as they are, then I see no problem of me still being friends with them, no matter what their sizes are. Have a good one there, sweetie.

It is definitely NOT ok to claim all overweight people as lazy! They could have thyroid or metabolic problems. They could have food allergies which make it hard to eat a balanced diet. They could have an eating disorder that makes them binge or overeat. They could have an extremely busy lifestyle and just can't make the best food choices. They could have injuries (that's me!) which make physical activity really hard or virtually impossible. They could have put on lots of weight in the past due to bad eating habits, but now eat great, but not losing the weight. There are 1001 reasons why someone might be overweight, with nothing to do with poor diet or laziness, so no one should judge, this overweight person might be fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Speaking about anyone who is not perfect with disdain is truly ignorant. Show me someone who is perfect please. People who put others down obviously have self esteem issues themselves and need to go round belittling other people to make themselves feel better. A person who is fat might not know how to lose weight, may have tried and had no success. It's a well known fact that diets don't work and simply eating less and exercising more is hard to do.

I agree with you completely. These remarks are just as rude as it would be if I said all thin people that make rude remarks about others have no brain and should be made do grade school over again, in the hope that they would at least learn something about emapthy and good manners

It makes me so angry when people are rude to overweight people. I do not agree that all overweight people are that way because their lazy, that could'nt be further from the truth. It's hard to claim that they are blind to the fact that the're overweight, after all they live with themselves. I'm of the opinion if your not gonna be a part of the solution dont be a part of the problem.Instead of critising.. encourage, and support... Or just SHUT UP. Keep your opinions to yourself unless asked. Fat or not everyone has the right to just be, so let them.

It is a common misconception that all fat people are lazy. Some people are fat because of their genes. Some may have some health problems which may prevent them from exercising. I can understand how difficult is to lose weight.

Those focused on other peoples problems only just dont want to take a look at themselves. Ya maybe someone is a little chubby but that person has been through some events like boyfriends trying to bring them down or there environment overall negatively effected there daily habits, but someone who happened to be born with a high metabolism and has also been through a few things well they just got lucky that there weight wasnt effected because its in their jeans to have a high metabolism, however there ego must be bruised because they spend their life pointing out people who are a few pounds overweight, it keeps them from falling off their high horse.

Unfortunately more people than not are extremely closed minded and it doesn't just go for weight, it goes for other challenges that others may face. I was recently mocked badly about my phobia on another forum and it hurt but I'll just have to think that one they its all going to come back and bite them. I have still a lot of weight to lose but have lost a lot already.. fortunately I am no longer heavy enough for people to make fun of my weight but I still have a long way to go before I can shop in typical clothing stores. But NO people who are overweight are NOT lazy. Many of them have a medical problem, maybe on steroids or have emotional issues which can drive them to eat which does NOT make them lazy, so people need to seriously wake up. Everyone has issues of their own so why in the world would they judge someone else who may have a different issue?

I completly agree. I am overweight myself. I hate people that judge others because of weight problems. Espically those that say stuff like this. I have had a weight problem since childhood. I have tried and I am still trying to lose weight but it's not always easy

I hate people judging other people and criticizing them as if they are not human and dont have feelings! We cant judge everyone and we truly dont know how much effort they have exerted to try to help themselves.

For one is no ones right to judge me,yeah I'm over weight,so what,yes I know I'm overweight,ggez like I need to hear about it all the darn time.Some people don't wanna change it,but alot of us do.Like me I think I ave tried about everything to lose it,but not much really helps and summer is coming so I hope this is my year to get thin.I don't go around judging or see poster about thin people why should they do that to us?They shouldn't just makes us feel worse like we have the plague or something,we are still people with feeling and people need to remember that.

I used to be one of those thin people who would think of fat people "how did you ever GET like that?" Or I would think how "it isn't that hard to do something about it", or whatever. I NEVER would say anything at all and certainly nothing like what you are describing- that is simply rude. But, I admit I thought some of it. I did say used to be. Not too long ago, I 'suddenly' found myself 30 pounds over what I had always weighed and straining the seams on pants 3 sizes larger than usual. 30 pounds is nothing compared to some, I know, but it was alot for me. And even with just 30 pounds I was beginning to look fat to others as well. I realized that becoming overweight was actually very easy. I gained and grew to a size 10 and thought, "oh I should probably think about maybe doing something" but I didn't and even became comfortable with the size 10- large for me. Then I became a size 12 and I thought "oh, I should think about maybe doing something" but I didn't and again even became comfortable with that size. Then I became a 14...you get the picture, though with each bigger size I became a tiny bit less comfortable. Then I read the book Eat to Live- it was revolutionary for me. I am now a firm believer that almost every single disease can be cured or prevented by diet alone...weightloss is secondary but inevitable with the proper diet. But even though I*knew* it, it was still SO hard to start to make those changes- I can only begin to imagine how much more difficult it would have been had I been 50, 75, 100 pounds or more overweight...I was only dealing with 30 and it was one of the hardest things I've done!! I now have a new appreciation for what goes on emotionally. And I also realized that every fat person is at a different stage...maybe they have lost 100 pounds so far, sure they still weigh 300, but if you only knew how far they've come! Or, maybe that candy bar they are eating is their one poor food choice for the day and they have eaten more fruits and veggies by noon than most thin people eat all day. Or, maybe they are still gaining, still saying "maybe I should do something." Regardless it's no one else's business and certainly rudeness is never called for. I remind myself often that "There, but for the grace of God, go I" because getting to the point of being overweight really is that easy and getting back out really is that hard.

I definately think it is wrong to make such comments, I happen to weight more than I should, and I work out several times a week. I am probably in better shape than most skinny people, I can work out for hours, am very strong, and very flexible, I am 42 years old, it has just gotten harder for me to lose weight as I got older, I dare anyone to call me lazy.

I think there is an appalling lack of respect for people in many different areas now days. There is a difference between constructive critism, or helpful advice, and rude, condesending statements. I don't know if people think it will help an overweight person if they make fun of them? That it will spur them on to try harder, or what. All it really does it lower an already low self esteem for most people. I'm sorry if you have to deal with this often. I just don't understand some people.

A lot of people are over weight, not by their own hand but because of a medical problem. There are many side affects to medications, or a thyroid problem that make people put on weight.

to start wiTH i do not like people who make fun of other peoples fattness in any way. you never know some could be genuinely ill so fat. No i would not say all fat people are lazy not at all. some of them have a lot of energy in them.

I think that it is extremely hard to keep thin and takes a lot of willpower. Some people have been brought up in an environment where certain foods are seen as treats and that has made them crave unhealthy foods. Other people have metabolism problems, addiction to salt/sugar, thyroid problems or other medical problems which make it hard for them to control their diet, lose weight or exercise more. I think it is unfair for people to point the finger and make these rude comments. They should just think themselves lucky that they remain thin.

HA! I'm FAT and let me tell ya WHY.... I Work TOO much and I don't have time to cook healthy food in my own home. I'm always grabbing something in a drive-thru and eating it in my van in between jobs! If I had time to BE LAZY and stay at home, I might actually be able to create a menu of heathy meals and make them for myself... and excercize too! Ok, it's after midnight and I'm very sleepy...This is the time that I post a comment with whatever comes to my mind without thinking what it sounds like, and someone gets mad. So let me say I'm sorry right now just in case.

I don't think that there is MANY fat people that cannot see that they are fat, but there are a few, such as the people on programs on TV that are so fat that they cannot move of the bed yet they say "I did not think I was THAT big" wtf? you couldn't get off the bed :o I was shocked to say the least. I also don't think that all fat people are lazy as some are fat due to medical problems and others are fat as they eat the wrong foods and if you are eating cake after cake after cake no exercise is going to get rid of it. But some people are just lazy, that is not just fat people. I am thin and I have started going to the gym as I would consider myself lazy.

How ridiculous! What are people thinking? Correction they definitely must not be thinking AT ALL. Being lazy has nothing to do with whether you are thin or fat, young or old, educated or not. I dislike the idea that one has to do with the other! It has also been my experience that body size has little to do with personality, not much to do with friendliness or lack thereof, and it is a terrible reason for people to make assumptions about others. From the point of view of a thin person, we do not like it when others make jokes about thin people having eating disorders or being sick, or having hormone imbalances and similar comments. It is just the same as some of the horrid remarks made about people who might be overweight. It would be my hope that people stop doing this to each other because it doesn't solve anything and hurts everybody in the long run.