Are you tolerant of those that are ill?

i was like you mainly becuz im very stong and never ask for help. I have little tolerance for those that can't seem to get out of their tracks so to speak. then I dealt with my mother...oh my god it was so hard....she used to be such a strong lady and then I was faced with dealing with the craziest things....did it but it was'mt easy at all. she was not in her right mind and I cared for her for 8 months....not easy at all. If it is really just the flu or stomach ache then I just try to do all I can for the person....could be me next.

I am so like you on this one. I can care for my kids when they are ill but if anyone else is I almost get angry wanting them to hurry up and get better. I also can't cope with sick, it makes me retch and if someone is sick near me I want to be too. The major employers in the area I live are care homes, but I just could not do that sort of work. I also admire people that do. I will give practical help, paperworks, lifts to places etc. cooking, reading to them but I find it very hard to nurse. Ellie :D

I am emetophobic (phobic of puke) so that right there should answer the question (shivers at the thought!!!!)

I have to say that I am - unless they try to be all brave and stoic - then I get angry with them and tell them off! lol I know I am not sick but with being able to do very little my partner and kids have to do a lot for me and although not overly fussing around me I could not wish for better people to take care of me! I Thank God that I have the love of my partner and kids every day as well as that of my friends and extended family! I know if the situation were reversed I would perhaps struggle doing so much but I would be patient and loving - at least I am pretty sure I would! xxx

Yes I am. I really like helping people in general. Now if they are being really grumpy and rude to me my temper gets a bit short and I need a break. I've never had to really give hands on care so I can't really say for sure. I'm squeimish at blood though. This being said... I could never be a nurse.

I'm not very tolerant of those that are sick and whine about it. I hate whiners. I'm more likely to tell them to suck it up or as my mom used to tell us when we were whiny and sick "well then die quietly and dont leave a mess" For those that are sick and not being big whiners about it I tolerate them. If its contagious I'd prefer that they go home so i dont get sick as well.

I can do it for a love one but not other people, but I do not feel guilty about because we all have our strengths and it is a big world and everything is needed, my forte is a counsellor and a writer, and teacher, I listen to people's problems, I write stories about the underdog and I inspire people and I bring joy to many people's lives. My boyfriend is an accountant he helps people with their taxes and the financial reporting of their business, he is also a painter and paints beautiful pictures for people to admire. Everyone has something to give back to society and we need them all to make this world go around.

Well, it depends on how you would define "tolerance." If you mean whether I realize their illness is something they cannot help and therefore do not judge them in any way because of it or hold it against them, then yes, I am tolerant in that regard. However, if you mean tolerant as in whether I have the emotional ability it takes to deal with their problems on a daily basis like a nurse or a medical doctor or even a psychologist, then I have to say there is no way I could ever succeed in such a profession. I would probably go crazy, not to mention utterly depressed (I imagine it is extremely depressing work at times). I would definitely try to help and encourage a close friend or family member, in any way that I can (although I am not too good at it as it is emotionally draining for me), but anything beyond that would be too much of a burden on my life... Don't get me wrong, I am a nice person (unless you're rude to me), and a good friend... I try to treat people as I would want to be treated... but caregiver is just not in my genes, I'm afraid...

Fortunately for my husband, yes! We have been married for almost 8 years and during practically all of those 8 years he has had one problem or another that needed my attention and care. I don't mind that much but this year it has gotten to be a bit much from Flu and pnemonia in January then a fall and a hurt ankle for another two months, then his shoulder became "frozen" now his hand is all swollen up. I am going on a two week trip to visit my daughter mid May just to get a break from it all! Am I being selfish? I love him very much and I hate leaving him with so many problems but if I waited until he was even 90% better, I am sure something else would happen to him that would put my plans off. I haven't seen my daughter for 15 years and she needs me too.

It's easier to look after ore family members than others. It's the familiarity that gives that empathizing feelibng and allows you to want to do something for them.

i have to admit that i'm not too. i'm very impatient in these type of situations. i do not really notice sometimes what's wrong in the family and when i do, i don't keep on checking from time to time. i'm definitely not proud of this fact. of course, this usually applies to older kids and my hubby but since my kids are all young, i definitely am much more patient than my hubby you could say. like you, my heart does go out to them. but i find it tough to care for them too. i wouldn't really know what to do, basically i would be panicking you could say.

I would have to say it has been a skill of mine for many years now. I started when I was 14, my first job was taking care of a parapoligic and her husband who had disability's as well. I worked for her off and on till I was pregnant with my second child. Then after my thrid child I became a certified nurses aid. I very much enjoyed the work most day's. It really is a thankless job often times. Except a litte unknown secret for all those that wonder how can a person do that job so long. The gifts I recieved in return often out weighed the job. I was hugged every nite. I was a aid for well over 10 years. I helped many people pass on to the next life. But when it came time to help my mom pass, that is when I quite doing that kind of work. I spent a year caring for her, watching her fade right before my eyes. In her last month I quite my job, and went to live there, caring for her full time. Since she has passed about 10 years now, I have not gone back to care giving. Although With my dad I have helped out a few times as well. I guess I would have to say I am good at it, just not so willing to do it now.

Hello There. I do understand you. For me, I can stay with ill-family members or friends. WIth others, I can only stay for a while and talk to them but not really in the process of taking care of them for a long time. In the family, no one is really sick except me lolz. That is why I really admire nurses and caregivers who can really truly deeply take care of other people when they are really really sick. I am a sicko at times and I really appreciate the nurses there taking care of me. :) Cheers!

I am very tolerant of those that are ill. I have been in a situation that required me to become caregiver and I did it with what I hope was an abundance of compassion and kindness. I met many professional caregivers who couldn't give a rats a** about their patient and they have no business holding the jobs that they have. That said, it's those kinds of people that are a little more emotionally equipped to deal with the situation as a profession. People who can't keep their hearts out of the equation are less likely to do it for a career. Not all, but most.

Yes, I am. I have taken care of my grandma, after her stroke and my son that has CP. They both needed alot of care and I think did pretty good with dealing with both of them.

I have a problem caring for people who are ill and not looking after themselves and expecting me to wait on them and feel sorry for them. For instance if you are too sick to work, you should stay in bed till you are well or at least rest...not have a day off and expect to have your every whim catered to. If someone is genuinely ill I will care for them, if an adult is throwing up or making other messes, I would expect them to clean up. I would clean upo my own mess if I was ill.....heck, I live alone, no-one else cleans it up.

I won't mind helping those who are ill. Rather I would feel pleasure that I am worth it that I can render my help to others. To do selfless service is I think is like true prayers to God.

I would never make a good nurse either...at least not with people..LOL. Heck I get intolerant when I'm sick let alone someone else. I have no problem acting like a nurse or healer with my kitties when they are sick...I've even gone out of my way to give them steambaths when they were congested. I unfortunately didn't have much of a choice when my mother was alive and I was her caregiver. No I didn't neglect her and did take care of her but she was a very difficult person to deal with in the first place. She didn't want outside help at all. Then granted she was very ill, but she was also like a boy cry wolf...any little thing that bothered her she acted like it was a major catastrophe--yeesh, so my tolerance level was real low

Those I dont mind tending to and I will also assist with someone who is aged and unable to help themselves sufficiently but not for long. I would much rather not to have to do any of this however. I do not deal well with illness but if I have to assist someone in need of care depending on the level of care needed I will assist. I draw the line where blood is concerned. Thats not my line at all.

LOL- my husband gives me the hardest time about this. I am trained as nurse and did my job well. I take care of my kids when they are sick. But, when he is sick...? He whines all the time how come I don't take care of him...? I guess I figure when I am sick, I get up and go about doing what I have to do. He can too. lol.