Should I tell my mother in law or not?

I would tell her, because you may use her again or she will do your daughters again. Your hair needs to be the way you want it not the way the stylist wants to do it. No matter that you have not went to school to be a styist, you know what you want and how it's suppose to be. If she's going to do hair and claims to know what she's doing then she needs to accept the fact that she may not always get it right. And take the criticism as a learning experience. I have run across many stylist that have not done my hair the way I wanted. They get caught up in what they want or like and do what they want. No matter if you pay her or not if she is going to do your hair it needs to be what you wanted. Making suggestions and letting her know it's not what you wanted is a give and take. This means that you don't have to just take what she gives and she needs to give you want you want instead of you just taking what she gives. SHe does others hair and needs to be professional about it. If you don't tell her and she does someone else's hair this way or everyone else's hair this way, she will lose customers. Someone needs to let her know. She may get upset but you won't have to endure having bad cuts again.

Hair grows back, hurt feelings take a lot longer and sometimes never heal.

Although I am usually big on being straightforward with people, I would suggest in this case to let it alone and just go to somebody else next time. It is never worthwhile to get into words with a mother in law, I think, not even a nice one. The success of her shop lies with her and her alone and you have no responsibility to try to guide here, nor do you have any obligation to patronize her shop. Others may disagree, but that is my take on it.

I would just let it go and go to a salon next time to get it done the way you want it. I had a stylist years ago who did something similar. I kept going in with different pictures, but I always came out looking the same way I went in. LOL I finally realized she cut the way she wanted and didn't much care for MY input. I quit going there and found someone who would listen.

I think you should let her know in a nice way. Let her know that you appriciate what she has done for you and that you appreciate her cutting you and your daughters hair. But let her know that she did not give you the results you were looking for.

have you thought so much if she would have been your mother, of course not. So dont think here too......because after all she is one of your dear one. Of course the way you would say so would depend how the person in front would perceive it. Generally people have aility to speak out their mind and in process they offend not one but many people. Its more of an art to express one's view. Try the 180 degree aprroach wherein you just praise what she has done and ask her what she think if the hair cut would have been of size which you have explained in your post/ I can bet she would realize her mistake and keep this in her mind for all future action. good luckm

Definitely keep your mouh shut! Just go to a different stylist next time for you and your daughter. Let her paying customers complain. If she ever asks you, don't lie. Just tell her that you wanted to see what a different stylist could do with your hair. Tell her if she doesn't think what the customer wants will work, she needs to tell them and explain why instead of just doing her own thing and making the customers mad. PS. It sounds like your MIL gave you the same haircut that I got last week that I didn't ask for. Only I can't work with mine so well unless I take extra time to flat iron it to make both sides match. One curls under and the other flips up.

You should tell her and you should do it like that Juice Newton song, Break It To You Gently.since she did your hair exactly the way you wanted, then she can follow instructions, so she just made a mistake with your daughter.

It is better to tell her the truth now! Resentments have a way of building up. Maybe that is the way she really wanted it cut, so she did it that way! I have curly hair, and almost every time I have gone to get it cut professionally, I end up crying when it is done! I can almost never do it the same way and end up waiting until it grows out.

That is what happens when you go to a family member to get your hair cut. But not always. I have a sister that has her own shop and she does my hair great. But then she knows the styles as she is still young. I think maybe your mother in law did yours and your daughters hair the way she wanted, not the way you wanted. I am sure she doesn't do that with her other clients. If she did, they would find another hairdresser and not go to her. They must be happy with her or they would change hairdressers. So I think it is only because of you being related that she did what she thought would look nioce. I, pesonally, wouldn't complain or say anything to her about it. You would be insulting her profession and that can only lead to hard feelings. Just start going to another hairdresser. If she questions why just tell her that you want to go to one that knows today's styles and you want to try something different. I don't think that would insult her and then you can keep peace in the family.

HI Travi Wow a difficult one. Do you usually have a good relationship with her. if you do then I don't think she will mind, maybe next time you can ask her opinion casually and say do you think you can do this style on me? Will it like good on me? etc these questions my ligthen her up a bit. By the way, the day you got the haircut, was it a busy day for her? Maybe going in on a slow day will help. so sorry, can't help with much. good luck

Well, to have a healthy relationship, I think you should just tell her how you feel! You shouldn't have to keep it in. Just tell her in a nice way, you know? I dunno...that is kinda complicated.

Sometimes "honesty is NOT the best policy". If you want to have a good relationship with your MIL, then let it go. Next time go to another person and if your MIL notices that your hair is cut in a different way you might say "yes it is, doesn't it look good?" and then move on to a different subject. Of course if she persists and asks why you didn't come to her, then you will have to think of a tactful answer. Do you pay her or does she do it for free? If she does it for free, you might say that you didn't want to take her time away from paying customers. Good luck!

I am sure your mother in law would get hurt if you will say something about it.Probably she thought that she was doing the right thing and was happy doing it for both of you.Just show appreciation of what she did and pretend that you like it anyway, your hair will not stay that way because it will just grow.

i don't think i would say anything but next time i would go somewhere else to have it done. do you think maybe because you are family that she decided to do it her way and not the way you wanted? kind of sounds it to me. if she does do this to someone else and they say something to her its not gonna hurt as much as it would coming from you and your daughter. noone ever cuts my hair the way i want it. i have very thin curly hair that i can do nothing with. i haven't cut my hair in almost 3 yrs and i'm afraid to now cuz its longer then it ever been and they always cut way to much off. good luck

Wow, this is quite hard for me..LOL! When she is open-minded, it will be easy to give your comment and suggestions but after knowing that she was upset, I am scared that it might ruin your relationship with her, If I am in your situation and My MIL is not very open-minded, I will just wait for a customer to complain and I will be going to a different hair stylist next time!

Hello travibabiesgirl. This is a tough question about whether to tell your mother in law that she has not cut you or your daughter's hair the way you had wanted. I must say that I am leaning toward not telling her and simply finding another hair stylist. I say this because it sounds like she was unhappy when your daughter complained. If you don't say anything and find another hair stylist, you don't have to say anything negative to her her. When/if she notices that you or daughter have a new haircut, you can then play it cool and say something like, "we thought we would try a couple of different hairstylists just for fun." It sounds like you've done what you can to get the hairstyles you want. You told her, you showed her a picture. Maybe it's time to move on to another hairstylist. Take care. I am sure you will make the best decision, travibabiesgirl.

I'm so sorry that you and your daughter got unsatisfied haircuts. As for your question,if you told her the truth,maybe your mother in raw will unhappy and get mad at you,but after all, you are doing something helpful for her and for her customers. In addition, if your mother in raw can understand that your telling is just for being good for her,she must be not angry with you. so ,i mean that you should tell her, and do not just let it go.No matter whether she would be angry with you ,at least you had done something what a daughter in raw should do . good day!

Its a tough call to make... she's your mother in law and not just a stylist you can tell the truth too and never go back to have your hair done. She has feelings and she sounds like someone who doesn't like to be told she mad a mistake. And this is what makes the situation so tricky. But at the end i don't think you should tell her you daughter and your hair too will grow back. But the pain and embarrassment she will feel will take long to heal. And if you ever go back to her after that she may feel weird cutting your hair, if you let her know she did it wrong so don't tell her. Keep it to yourself, you will look back and laugh about it one day.

I wouldn't say anything because it's a situation that's bound to get ugly. I just wouldn't go back to her for a haircut. Nobody said that because your mom is a hairstylist you have to go to her for your haircuts.