the older you get the less you make friends

True, the older you get, the narrower your social horizone becomes, that obvously leaves you with fewer and fewer firends-your peers also die off and you really find yourself without your real childhood friends.

I don't know, I still am rather outgoing. Of course I still have the same best friend I have had for 30 years now. I still have some friends from Jr. High. I stil have a couple of friends from 20 years ago. A couple for the past 15 years. My intimate circle is made up of about 8 people who know me well and only one who has been added in the past 10 years. So I guess come to think of it that is true. Lots of supplemental 'friends', people I know, go to dinner with, hang out with ocassionaly. Some people that my husband knows and has made friends with. But close friends....hmmmmm.....I think you might be right.

it is true with age you lose out on friend. its the common scenario although there are exceptions. its due to the fact that people get more judgmental with age. also there are less energy and all.

yes we all have friends, even though they may not be that close. i do know that friends tend to drift apart as they age. it's also a whole lot easier to make friend when we are young. during those younger days, we make friends without agenda. we don't make friends because they are from the same social class. it's so much easier to make friends without conditions. also, when we are younger, all we care about is enjoy ourselves. we don't have much responsibilities and certainly couldn't care less about fulfilling them.

dont worry about and do keep up with old friends as you can never have to many. also keep up with hobbies so when the kids leave you will still have plenty to do and will not have the empty nest syndrome. lol.

When we have grown up and get older, all our friends will have their own life,either busying with work or have got married and got their own family,that's why we are getting less friends. I think when we get less friends,it's time for us to focus on career and family. It's time for us to build both of these.

I beg to differ, you can still make friends as you get older, you just have to have that friendly personality, you have to listen, and you have to be there for people.

I think that as we get older we get more selective as to who we call a friend and who we choose to spend our time with. As we get older, we get wiser also. We have to balance our lives and our time with family, friends, jobs, church and community.

My explanation would be, because older people have matured priorities. Like some of them have their own families, that is why they are saving their quality time on them than of friends, and some of their friends also have their different priorities so sometimes they go out two times or five times in a year. Those friends of them are what they had known for a very long time since they were young. Some of the older ones likes to stay inside their houses and just rest so they have no time on socializing. That is what i observed with my parents.

Hi. After reading the topic of your discussion I realized that it is indeed true. I am known to be able to get along nicely with anybody in my friend circle but since my high school I have never felt for new friends. Most of the interaction with newer people is work oriented.

I know what your saying. Growing up and in my teen years I had so many friends. That area in our lives when time does not mean anything when all we are required and expected to do is to go to school and than have fun. I started drifting apart from many of my friends when I had become pregnant with my son in my later teen years.I was having a kid and none of them were so our values and our definition of fun changed. While they were partying it up on weekends having their own fun I was experiencing a whole different type of fun (hearing my son's first words and experiencing his first steps)and also a lot more responsibility. my son is now 7 years old. I am a single mom. I have very few people who I consider friends and cannot even remember the last time I was actually out when the street lights have came on, lol. I find that time now just does not allow for friends and hanging out. I am quite content with where I am at with my life but must admit at times it can be lonely

As we get older our friendships change. We have other priorities to ten to besides going out with our friends. We have family to take care of and to share those leisure times with. But we still need our friends because we can't always just be with our families. We need some other outside interests too. I was best friends with my hubby but now that we have broken up I am finding that I don't have enough friends. Mind you, I moved to another city and don't know very many people here yet, but I do talk to some of my old friends by email and phone. I miss having my friends close by and need to make some more. I don't have any young kids anymore, as they are now adults, so I don't have the responsibilities I used to have and have more time for friends, but now I need more friends to fill in some of my down time from work.

kids have nothing better to do but hang out with friends and play. adults end up having to much responsibility as soon as they marry and reproduce that there is no time to hang out with friends, just to hang out with each other and relax with their family is all that is on their mind. i am sure u and ur hubby each have ur hobbies to escape to when u get sick of one another's face to take a break from one another. when ur kids leave, u can eventually join senior citizen clubs and hang out with other old people playing cards, checkers, backgammon, and sometimes such facilities take the group on trips on buses to vegas, and other places to keep old people busy in their old age. there are lots of places for old people nowadays to keep old people busy with various activities.

I also noticed that. It´s not that you make less friends. It´s that you make collegues. Friends are people with who you laugh and cry. When you get older you just find people to laugh with. it´s hard in any age to make real friends. But seems that when you get older people don´t want real relationships. They seem superficial.

I think I have as many friends now as I've ever had. I just don't hang out with them nearly as much. But I still love and care about them, and I know that they feel the same and that if I needed them, they would be there, so they are still friends. I guess it depends on how you define "Friends."

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. When I was working at an office, I had all kind of friends. My hubby and I would get together with girls and their significant others and go do things: bowling, cookouts, dinner out, etc. I am now on disability and don't go out alot and don't work outside the home. My friends have really dwindled. lol My husband works at a factory but I think guys are different in regards to friends and doing couple like things outside of work. Mostly we just stay home or do things together and we haven't driven each other crazy....yet! lol Have a great day! Char :-)

I have observed recently that a lot of the friends I have made over the last 10 years are not as reliable as the core friends I started with. So my point would be that although it is harder to find the opportunity to meet new friends as you get older, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Better to pay attention to your true friends!!!

Hello easymoney, Yes the older you get you less friends because the friends you have now are your close friends I know it a busy world and people have to work rather then live in each other pockets. we get together one a month and have fun chatting and having drinks. Tamara

i think i hit different periods in my life when i want to simply sit in silence....and others when i want to go 50 places and make lots of noise. sounds like your hubby and children filled up your life and you don't have time for hanging out. are you feeling lonely for going out with friends? sounds like he takes up a big portion of your heart!

well it is because new interests arrive and people starts to know more things that weren't available for them before, for example, in 100 years before people didn't speak about computing, now we got the people who likes to play games in computers and the ones who prefer reading a good book or going to talk in a café. So, in synhtesis, the more you know, the more things in common or not in common you can get with the other person, so more likes or dislikes...Therefore, better or worse relations.