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Why don't you want her to get a degree? That seems quite silly. What does she want to do? If she wants to go to law school, she should go. If you don't want her to, then she shouldn't be with you. She should allow anyone to stand in the way of her dreams.

Excuse me if I overstep my bounds here but why are you refusing to let her complete her studies? That sounds a bit sexist to me. I, like her father, think it would be a good idea for her to finish law school. It is harder to go back to school later than it is to continue to finish. She will be able to make more money and have a better career if she finishes now. God willing you will be married a very long time. You both need to get your education taken care of first. I wish I had finished school. Why can you not be married while she is finishing school? Many people here are. Has she checked into grants, scholarships or school loans. I realize it is expensive to get through school. I have several lawyers and doctors in my family. I think that you would both have a better future if you complete your education. Check out what financial help there is at school as well as some of the legal bar associations.

It is mainly your girlfriends decision. Tell her you respect whatever she decides on and you will back her up on it. It is her choice if she wants to go to law school or not. If not she should tell her father what she feels about going to law school. Maybe her dad would understand if she explains further what and why she doesn't want to go to law school.

WHy dont you want your partner to finish law school. I think it is crazy not to support someone in this field this isn't an easy field to get into, if she has the education and already started this study who are you too say she is not allowed, i think her dad want's what is best for her and you should too. That extra money coming into the house would have to be helpful wouldn't it?? Living in Australia things are very different i know but i find it hard to understand why you wouldn't want her to become a lawyer. Here this is regarded as a very respected occupation and i think she should go for it..... why cant you marry and let her become a lawyer, you can be a wife and a business woman at the same time.

Personally, I think the decision is your girlfriend's and not yours or her father's. She should decide what she wants to do. But if I were her, I'd stay in school. There's plenty of time later for relationships. Many women who interrupt their school for relationships end up with families and may never get back to school. Many women end up resenting men who "make" them quit school.

good day.. first you ask her what she REALLY wants. and then decide from then on. If she decides against taking law then well and good, you just have to muster the courage to tell her dad. BUT if she didn't want to because of you then that's a different story. For me you can have both worlds since she's gonna be supported by her father then no problem. She can get married and study at the same time can't she?

I think your girlfriend should make the best decision for herself. I think she should also think about your future together. She needs to weigh out all possibilities and do the thing that will satisfy her the most. If she chooses to be with you and go to law school, she needs to be prepared for the cost and the time she will be away from you also. I think her dad needs to let her make the decision though. You may have to back her up if she chooses school though. That is a very hard choice to make, especially since it is so hard to get a good job these days without schooling.

First of all, it should be her decision regarding law school. Does she want to go to law school? If so, and her father is planning to pay for it, I think you should support her decision. Why can't you get married and have her still go to law school? My parents got married four months before my father started law school and had a child during that time - me. My Dad worked full time and went to school full time. It is a challenge to do but it can be done. From your post, you said that you refused to let her continue in law school. Excuse me, but what right do you have to tell her what to do? If she wants to go to law school and someone else is going to pay for it, I think you are being a bit controlling. If you love her, you will treat her as an equal and you will support her desires. This is not the 13th century and women have rights just as men do. Holding her back from her dream, if it is her dream, is only going to hurt your relationship in the long run because she will come to resent you for forcing her to choose between you and her dream. That could cause massive problems for you and could even lead to divorce later on. If you love her, then you need to talk to her about what she wants and realistically sit down and make decisions together. No matter what culture you live in, in today's world, most women are not going to be held back for long no matter how she was raised or what your culture is.

julyteen you should be helping your girl friend to get this education. all women should have some sort of career besides just getting married.For one thing in this day and age we need two pay checks to survive.She will be able to help you and both of you working will make living so much easier. since her dad is willing to pay for this why should you be against it? Is it your ego. You two need to work out all these different things] before you ever get married.In my eyes, this is not that difficult a situation as her education wont cost you a thing, and with it she can be a great help to you.If you are wo rking and she is going to school it should not be that great a burden on your marriage. you should be happy for her not upset with this. Forget that male ego, that is old fashioned anyway.here in the US a girl does not need permission from her boy friend to do anything. she is not his possession, she is a person.

i think it's just a matter of priority. You weigh both sides what is really important right now. If your girlfried wishes to continue her law school, then let her go. Wedding may or may not be the priority right now. If you can still move on with your lives, without the marriage, I guess you can wait for her to graduate. Anyway, it's her dad that will shoulder everything in her schooling so you don't have to worry about her school. Now if you decided to get wed now or next year, you may have a talk with her dad and you may opt to get wed and continue school. KEEP SMILING = NEIL

well first off this a decision that your girlfriend has to make on her own. neither you or her dad should influence her choice becuase she has to do what is going to make her happy and benefit her in the long run. and even though that it is terrible that she lost her brother she will never fill his shoes no matter what she decides to do with her life. she has to choose her own path.

Hi julyteen, I think you should respect the choice of your girlfriend.If she would like continuing her law school,please do not stop her.

how old are you? both of you? i assume you're on the right age to decide on matters. having a relationship especially thinking of marriage is a "very personal" decision. first is you must settle matters between the two of you. if you're decided to marry, then nothing should go on your way. on the other hand, there could be a win-win situation here. i don't think marrying can hinder her from going to law school. it's just a metter of planning and communicating to all parties.

this is indeed a hard decicion :-) you have two options ... frist let study your gf her lawschool ( nice earnings afterwards and possibility to give and not only recieve , even if given with love from your part ) or stay with your decicion who i'm sure you have taken after a good deep talk between the two fo you :-) but at the end there is only one person who can REALLY deciede :-) and that's your gf nobody else ;-) because we are talking about HER future here hu ;-):-)... yours trully crhisone

it depends totally on you. in this case you have to only take the call. if you think its better to make career first, then its so. But ask her to do things what she feels is right. it should not be the case later you are blamed

Well if you're prepared to wait, she'd better go to law school. That kinda roots her for a successful career. How long is the course? Have you guys decided anything yet? More importantly, does SHE want to go?

Yeah. I al;so ask you the question that dude asked in the first response. Why don't you want her to get a degree. It would be good for both of you, and since her dad is offering to pay for her college, maybe you should rethink your strategy. Having a degree would be really good for any person, and it's not like, its going against her own will. What really is your argument for her not getting a degree?? Dude , a wedding can be done anytime. But once you think about the lost time for doing something important, you will feel really bad about it.. bourne

The question is, what does your girlfriend want, not what her Dad or you want. If she wants to go on with her education she should. For you to make that decision for her or to try to reason her out of going is wrong. Who is trying to control her, you or her dad? She asked for your permission ???? You ARE kidding right? Maybe you have self-esteem issues and are afraid she will somehow be better than you or outgrow you if she gets an education. Why would she even ASK you about going if she didn't want to go??? The fact that she would let ANYONE make that decision for her is wrong. Best of luck to her.

let her to take the degree.. it will be very important to both of you in the future.. it wont take more time... if she's less than 30 years of age.. its very ok to study more i think, after 30 years also ok. but according to my opinion people male and female should finish studying before their 30...

...hi there...think positive towards your situation...think of your future...it's good that your scaling the advantages and disadvatages if she pursue law course...just keep it positive...