Feeling unappreciated?

I completely understand what you are talking about!!! I can clean the house top to bottom (this rarely gets done completely). I mean vacuum, sweep, mop, dust, wash, polish, everything that can possibly be done. I work my tail off, break a sweat and all that good stuff. I make sure I'm just getting done when hubbers walks in so he can even see me working. What do I get in return? Hey Babe, You missed a spot. UGH That irritates me so much! We have two little boys under the age of 5. I guess he doesn't understand how messy they are just doing their everyday stuff. It takes literally all day to clean properly so I don't do it as often as I should. I have noticed that If I need that little " Oh the house looks good" I have to ask for it. Some people are just too busy to notice the little things sometimes I guess. Yes we are all Awesome!!

HI foxyfire, [i]Wow! that is very disappointing! I am wondering if she is used to a messy environment and will appreciate it better? Anyway, I have not tried that...My Parents are very sensitive about little things and they will always comment that it's look good that way and you did a great job for arranging this and that! And for my husband even simple arrangement of the closet, he will always appreciate it! I do know if my in-laws since they are not visiting here, we are the one who visits them since FIL had a bad knees already![/i]

As you know my husband and I have been having issues. We are trying to get the house ready to sell. (by the way things are getting better between us now that we have made the decision to move) Anyway - I have been working on each room after work every day. Every day I come home and clean the kitchen first as its the first room you walk into and always the messiest. Plus I have to clean to cook. So for the past couple days I have been working exclusivly on my daughters room. Getting all her old clothes together and folded for the yard sale. Toys she doesn't play with any more and all the other what nots. Every thing done. Her room looks better then the day we first finished it. Do you think I got one word from him?!?!? Helll no! Well now for your praise! You did a great job - don't worry about your mother in law once your gone she will realize how much you did for her and be sorry she wasn't more thankful.

I think we have all experienced something like this. Its always good to do good wether its appreciated or not. Sometimes when people try to take advantage of a kind nature you just have to stand up for yourself. You can do it in a nice way and still be helpful to others. I have a friend who asked for many favors. The problem is when you needed a favor she did not consider yours as important as hers. Some people only see what they want to see. Acts of kindness are like instant karma, what goes arround will come arround.

Hi Foxyfire, For starters from some of the stories re your MIL se seems to sort of person who would notice the one inch piece of shelve out of twenty spotlessly clean shelves that was missed so in her case I don't think you would ever feel appreciated, just my opinion as a total outsider looking in. For me the last time I felt unappreciated was Christmas Eve when I cokked a lovely meal for my son to fall asleep and not eat, one of my daughters having a row with her boyfriend so she lost her appetite and my other daughter ot feeling that hungry and I shouted at them that next year it would be egg and chips or cook it themselves. I was tired with all the preparations but for some reason that day I just thought 'why do I bother?' Ellie :D

I can understand how you feel. We all probably feel unappreciated from time to time. It does sound like you did quite a lot in your house and didn't get the appreciation you feel that you deserved. I am a married woman and a housewife. Sometimes I feel unappreciated by my husband because I feel like I do a lot for him like cook, clean and do his laundry. But on the other hand, he does work for a living and he is trying the best that he can and that is all I can ask for. We should probably try to appreciate what each other does as husbands and wives a little more often.

sometimes, i feel unappreciated at work... i work so hard and put my best there... but my managers seem not to notice it... but other workers who work lightly and not as hard as me get the recognitions more from my managers... i learn to just keep quiet and accept it... at the same time, i drop my speed in my workplace as well... take care and have a nice day...

Yes, I do feel unappreciated at times. Sometimes, I feel like no one sees me at all. My mom's boyfriend always points out what I am doing wrong. My boyfriend appreciates me sometimes, but sometimes, it feels like he just doesn't see all that I have to put up with. I have three cats, a mother who has been to Hell and back and cannot manage her finances, her boyfriend of 22 years who treats me like dirt and did the same to their son (my brother), a grandmother who is not always in good health, I have Asthma, allergies, four skin conditions, and a cyst on my back that will be surgically removed next week, and I have a house that I need to clean on almost a daily basis. I also work a lot online and I take care of my boyfriend's sister. I work my butt off in school and I received my AA in English, but now I am going for my BA, and sometimes I will sacrifice my own happiness just to make everyone else happy (and yes, I have been told that that is not healthy). I sometimes wonder why I am here and what I really have to offer because I feel like I never doing enough and that I need to do more since what I am doing is not enough.

I also has something to share. This is between my friends and me, we have a secret plan of giving a gift to one of my friend on her birthday. Since she also love UAAP (this stands for University Athletic Association of the Philippines, the basketball players are college student) we planned to give her free tickets to watch it. When we already bought tickets, we send her a message that we have an agenda on the day of her birthday, because the game is on the day of her birthday, we first asked her if she had something to do on that day and she said she have not. So we thought it is okay if she will be with us. When she came that day, she was happy to know that we buy tickets for her and she can watch her favorite team. But a sudden twist of fate her favorite team lost which she end up crying after the game. She can't accept the lose so she switch her anger to us, she said if we did not buy her tickets maybe she was not crying at that moment. We were shocked that we are the reason of her sadness that time, because we only want her to be happy and we don't know that her team will be losing.She quickly ran away from us after she cried. We are hurt by her action. We feel unappreciated. After a month she start sending a message and saying sorry. We already forgiven her, but I deleted her number already on my list and I don't want her to be my friend.

Hi.. two things i could understand from your topic.. 1) As Antony said in his oration, in Julius Caesar.. " The Evil that Men do live after them, the Good is oft interred in the bones" I find this incident has a similar coincidence with the above lines.. 2) O!!.. it is the indespicable work of all MIL's .. irrespective of the country.. ( perhaps She would have slept well ...lol..after pointing out that to you. Okay... what's the cocoa story..? In another discussion?

There are times on mylot I feel like that Foxy. What? I mean I still type here with a 7 rating despite all of my previous efforts and contribution. Ah well, I already accepted it as a botched inaccurate system. But still, that type of unappreciation lingers faintly. There are also times it seems I'm not responded to, but I don't put too much stock in it. Its a big place and everyone has their own business to attend to. Other than that, there's a slight unappreciation in the dating world, but that's nothing new.

You should be lucky you don't work where I work. I do such things for this company and now I hear there will be no bonus at the end of this year. In this company money is the bottom, middle and top lines and you can break your back each and every day it makes no difference. On top of everything they lie to you constantly. This is the world we live in.

I hope my DIL does not see me that way. MIL are sometimes a pain in the a_ _. I have empathy for you. Sometimes, MIL's should instead appreciate the positive - well cleaned house , etc. not nitpick and find faults. If the MIL looks at the DIL as an additional child because of the marriage, then everything will be good, but if MIL looks upon DIL as someone competing for her son's attention , then it will be a big "fight". Don't stop your industry, just go on doing what's right. I'm sure she will notice and appreciate eventually. Cheers!

I too feel unappreciated at work, we have perfect attendance award ceremonies, I have been working for that company for nine years and ervery year I am not on the list because my supervisor forgot to add my name. I am always on time, I do good quality work. Yes I feel very much unappreciated. We have temporaries, that get more recognition than me. But life goes on. I end up getting the award later.

that i feel each day at work. so i am not happy in current company. when thee is critical work to do, they look at me to perform. after I do most critical part, no appreciation and nothing.

i some times feel unappreciated when i give out a lot of advice and help people out with their problems just to never be thanked and then later on forgotten because dont need me anymore to help them with their issues.. meanwhile i was there while they cried and suffered and listened to them for days and nothing.. or worse when i think that they will return the favor and listen to mine they are too busy even though i dropped everything for them..

I know what and how you feel. I also feel it here in this house where people doesnt appreciate you instead they see you as a burden. What I usually think is that someday when im gone you'll wish that I was here. People often disregard you when you are there or present at their side.... But never the less so let it be and just go on with our life. :D

I just had an experience of being unappreciated yesterday. My girlfriend is having problems with her schoolwork and she can't seem to fit them all into her schedule. I asked her what needs to be done and I offered my help. All of a sudden she just started ranting about it and about me as well. I was really hurt of what she did because here I am offering my help and what do I get in return? I tried to keep my composure and told her that I understand right now it still hurts me but I remember what she also said last night begging me not to leave her because I'm one of the things that keeps her sanity.

Oh poor foxy! I think you should have watered mil from the top to the bottom and seen if she liked that! I know what you mean about feeling unappreciated. I did something like that but on a much much smaller scale. I cleaned some things in my apartment the other day. I have been trying to fix it up since I had it painted at the end of May. I did a mass cleaning out of my closets and rearranging of things so my s/o could have room for his things. Well, I was in the hospital in July and things kind of came to a stand still and I haven't really got back to the work at hand. Well, I've been trying to get back into it so I was putting things away last weekend when he did one of his day trips. When he came back I asked him if he noticed what I had done. Of course he didn't and I was feeling very much the way you were. So I spent the day cleaning and putting things away just to be unappreciated too!

Hi! it is true that there are people who only sees your faults and not what you have done right and whatever you do to be notice and be apprecited still its useless but dont get tired of doing those things, you'll never know deep inside they appreacite it they just dont want to show it, My husband is just like that i feel he just take for granted what im doing, even though i tried my very best but still unappreciated untill such time that we have an argumentation, I tell him how much i hate him for taking me forgranted and unappreciated for all the things that im doing and he told me it even if he did not comment or say anything it doesnt mean that he did'nt appreciate it.