Why few people like me are tested so much in life???

I have been reading about your problems lately. Please dont go on thinking about this all the time. All of us go through problems. For some it is more than the others. Dont worry these days will pass. When God gives us problems he also gives us the courage to face them.

Hello there subha, I know that in life, we will be facing crisis and major ones at that most of the time. However, please do find that extra strength to pick up the pieces and move on. I might not know the real situations that you are facing and it could be anything from personal finances, relationships, career right up to family problems or worst, marital ones. Let me share my life experiences so far. It's not a cup of tea, trust me. I've been going through heaven and hell and back to heaven and hell again. Not literally, though. I mean in life. And I used to wonder like you like why others are having it easy but I'm not. But on the rare surface, they are also wondering why I'm lucky and not being like them. It's true that the grass tends to look greener on the other side and it's important for one not to really succumbing to it. Please do not find it in yourself to solve them all, because problems are not going to have solutions that easy. Just take one thing at a time and here is a proverb from Eddith Wharton that I really love. It says, "If only we'd stop trying to be happy, we would have a pretty good time". I wish and pray the best for you, subha. Do take a nice breather and come back bouncing yeah.

Subha dear, If you feel free about it, you can discuss these problems here or you can PM me. Sometimes you know, we are so much into our problems that we cant have a neutral view of it. And until and unless we have a neutral opinion, we cannot get good solutions. Whenever we try to think of solutions ourselves, our views become biased and we make mistakes. Also, different people have different take on the same situation…so talk to us about specific problems and I am sure you will get some solution. And if nothing else, at least you will get to share your sorrows with your friends and believe me, that helps a lot too.

Everybody is tested in different ways, but as people get more experienced and used to drastic changes, they make little fuss about it. That doesn't mean they have fewer or no problems at all, does it? Five years from now and you won't be starting this sort of discussions, I bet. Don't expect life to be a smooth ride, it can never be one. It's very hard to settle down once and for all. Anticipate shocks and surprises, twists and turns, pains and problems, on every waking day of your life, for that is how you can transcend the obstacles without letting them completely overpower you. Even as I'm writing this, I've a lot of personal problems which I've put behind for the time being; I'm not going to take them on all at once, just one or two and try to beat it patiently. Goodluck!

I think what is important to remember is that everyone has problems and bad things that happen. Even those who appear to be quite lucky etc. They my not be problems thta are as serious but they are still worries for them. I think one person has a worry which another person will think they are being silly about and should get over it and vice versa. Something which I have learnt is that things can chnage for the good at anytime. A few weeks ago I was very depressed and could not be bothered to do anything, even things which I normally enjoy doing. Now I feel so much better and even though I know I will probably feel like that again I know that thye good times will return as well. Having these problems does not mean that you have done anything wrong. It just means that you are living your life and life has ups and downs even if the ups are not as frequent as the downs. Remember to take time out for yourself and do things that you enjoy. Make some time to relax.

.hmmm, because only few people like you can bear and pass them all.i think you should be happy for that.don't get me wrong,my friend.i think life is taking you as a strong person,can't you see it?as you said,one after the other,problems were trying to devour you.but then what?you defeated them.here's comes another one but no sweat to you...i'm amaze how you could manage them all.you know,all of us here do have problems and troubles.but not all have survive.it's just a matter of how you take it and face it.always dwell on the brighter side.a friends of mine gave me a book entitled " the secret". i've learned that the secret to be happy in life is to be happy with yourself.think positive.you are the one who decides what to feel,even in your saddest moment.if you decide to laugh eventhough it feels like crying,the choice is yours,right?my point is, life is simple.we are the once who makes it complicated.another thing i've learned is that,we are all connected to each other.that there is a law that connects us all,it's the law of attraction.if you think of problems,you attract it.if you think of happiness, you attract it.it's you who decide.

Hi subha We all have our own shares of bad times and you are having yours right now! I have had mine last year...so this goes on. I feel, living these hardships are but life. Try to live it well. I know, it hurts but it makes us stronger as well. And dear, there's no other option than to face it! Try to accept it and do your bit. You can always PM me. I will hear you out and trust me that helps. Smiles...

First of all Im sorry things arent going good for you, and there is times I feel the same way. Things have a way and ganging up on some people it seems, while to us it then seems some have things so easy. You dont say exactly what the problem is but I have learnt, there is only so much you can do to work things out and stressing 24-7 isnt going to make it better or make it go away. You do what you can and hope that all will fall into place sooner or later and hopefully sooner then later. I really try to keep in mind that there is worse off people then me. I know some say that is just a bogus statement but I use it and not to say that I still dont get to where Im saying, "Why us"? But when I start thinking about how it could be worse it does make me feel better.

i am so sorry to hear about your problems. some times it just seems the whole world is against you. some times you are lucky enough to have resolved one before the other crops up. other times they just come altogether. guess some of us are just tougher than others. i've seen quite a few cases where the person literally crawl into a corner and wait to die. they totally give up on even trying to resolve the problem. i'm glad to hear that you are not one of them. if one's life is problem-free, it kind of seem meaningless doesn't it? imagine waking up and not knowing what to do with yourself? cheers ;p

you see, you do not see the whole world. many people are there in this world who can not make upto two square meals a day. that way i think you are far too lucky. so have faith in god. also, the more number of times gold is put in the fire, the more purer it becomes. maybe all the tests in your life are to refine you. have patience

Problem are the ones that makes our life even more interesting, even though sometimes we think it never ends and the problem that we're facing will be the end of us. Actually, problem will never end until the end of time. Facing the problems, overcoming it and although we if fail to overcome our problems that what makes us human. Sometimes we see that people are free but we don't know for sure that they don't have any problems. Maybe they're hiding it or they're facing their problems in a positive way.everybody has their problems, everybody has their own fights. It's just up to us how are we going to face our problems. For me, asking the elder generations for help in my problem is one of the best way to solve problems because most of the problems have already been faced by them. So, lastly, be positive and optimistic in life.Life will be easier that way. :) smile always.

Circumstances keep on changing and same circumstances don't stay for long. We should try to face difficult circumstances calmly. When we face difficulties in our life we all tend to think that we are victimized but actually we can learn a lot from difficult circumstances. There is no need to loose hope because if you loose hope you are a looser. Fight the circumstances and see how they change with time.

I don't think anyone is free from troubles in their lives. We all have our own fair share. I like to remind myself that my problems are no greater than anyone elses. Take one step at a time. You can't fix everything or everyone all at the same time.

you play travian to much :)

i think we all have problems in life I know I do. With my illness and also worring about my family and friends. So I understand how you feel. All I know to do is stop and pray when I am having problems in my life. it seems like the best thing to do.

I don't know if you ever heard about the law of karma. Maybe you should do some research about it and it will certainly explain how to deal with your life so that it seems better than it actually is. Some people are tested because they need to go through all this so as to reach new levels in life. Everyone has their own difficulies, just try to read about he law of karma and i hope it will help you better understand :) P.s Take the problems as challenges. Fight them back :)

I too often feel the sometimes unbearable weight of problem after problem. Coming at me like sort of torturous wave of unending misery and stress. I find solace in the fact that this is all just a temporary condition and the day will come when I can finally spend eternity with my savior Jesus.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with so many bad things. But believe me everybody has bad/horrible issues they have to deal with everyday. It's those issues that make us stronger in the end. Sure you feel like it can't possibly get any worse..it may or it may not. But in the end of it you'll have conquered it. That will be something to smile about. God doesn't give us anything that we can't handle. Just have faith that there's light at the end of the tunnel. Maybe..try focusing on the good that's in your life. Take a break from all the negative. Relax, hang out with those who make you laugh and do the things you enjoy. Life is too short to constantly be worrying about all the bad.

Don't get discouraged because I believe everything that happens in our life has purpose. God gave you that problems becasue he knows you can handle it. Maybe God just wanted you to talk with him regularly. Your try to surrender everything to him and he will do the rest. Lift up to God all the problems you have. Everybody has problems, I too have. Be strong!

I think you are a strong person and maybe the meaning of your life is to be strong for other people? I don't know if you believe in God but a life full of trials and tribulation maybe only will make you stronger?