My ex boyfriend called...

If there are no strings attached and your husband does not mind, I don't see a problem with accepting the cloths from him. Are they hand me down cloths or are they new. If they were new, I may have an issue with it. Hand me downs, should never be turned down. :D

Is there a particular reason you don't want to be friendly with him. It appears that you have both moved on so if your spouses are okay with you two being friends then I don't see a problem with it. The fact that he's giving you some clothes could just mean he's being nice or friendly. But I can understand not wanting to take anything from him since you don't want to be his friend. I think if you don't want to be friendly with him just be honest and let him know that you appreciate the offer to remain friends but it's best if you two aren't friends anymore and give him the reason why you don't want to be his friend.

I think it completely depends on you. if your husband do not have any problem, then where is the problem? or can one dress for a boy make all difference? you have to take judgement.

I would take the clothes. They didn't do anything wrong, the ex did, and that is why he is an ex. I wouldn't care what he things, or says afterwards, I would take the clothes, say thank you, and that is it. Things are too rough these days to be thinking about pride. This is stuff that you won't have to buy later, which would be great. If I had a little money, I would send you all the infant stuff I had as well. Lawd knows I won't need it lol!

As long as your husband wants you to remain friends with him, I don't see any reason not to accept the clothing. Are you also friends with his wife and is your husband friends with him? Obviously, he is married now and has moved on, but considers you a friend and wants to help you out. I think it is a nice gesture that he wants to give you the clothing for your new baby.

First of all I think it is silly that you are unwillingly maintaining a friendship with him, but who am I to judge. I would accept the clothes and say thank you, but try not to encourage the friendship too much in the process.

Actually your husband is alot different from mine. Mine wouldn't want me to have any contact with a ex in no way whatsoever. Well, you can always accept the clothing I mean why take away from the baby. He is only being courteous in offering the clothing if it was me I would accept with a gracious thanks. You might get alot of useful things and if not pass them on to others who might need them.

well, if you are still friend with your ex, i don't see any reason why you shouldn't accept his gifts... especially if he gives them with a good intention to you... i will receive it if i were in your position as i see nothing wrong with it... take care and have a nice day...

I think I would accept them. The cloths will come in very handy. I find it interesting that your husband asked you to remain friends with him while you do not feel the same way. It is usually the opposite.

I would accept them. Maybe he is doing this as a gesture that he wants to mend the bridges between you two and put your relationship on a friendship level. I would not refuse his helping hand.

Hello dear ersmommy. Since your hubby understands and supports your friendship with your ex-boyfriend, I think that it is ok for you to receive the clothing from him. If your hubby did not support you, then it would be a different story. So I think that I would certainly accept the clothing from him if I were in such a case. Enjoy your life, friend.

I think it is good to get over the past. If a person in their current place in life is being an asset, then let them be so. But, in this case, if you are uncomfortable then I guess your level of comfort should be respected.

I think that if you don't wish to be friends with him, you shouldn't do so because it's what your husband wants. I think you should do what you want. Now, as far as remaining friends with him and accepting the gift, that's a tough one but I would say accept it. If he is offering it as a gift, he might be offended if you deny the offer. You said it would be helpful anyway and I know that babies are pretty pricy to take care of so I would imagine every little bit helps. I'm really not sure what you should do in your particular situation though. You seem to have been friends after the fact for so long, even though you say you don't want to be all that friendly with him. I guess it is entirely up to you on that one. Congrats on the baby btw.

i don't think you will be doing something wrong if you accept some clothes from your ex as you are still friends. he is only giving you a gift that's all. i think that you should accept this gift , he is only being helpful that's all.

I would probably just say no thanks because I don't accept gifts from anyone I don't consider a friend and this includes family . If we are not friends then I don't want anything to do with what they have to offer because you said you do not care to keep in contact with him , it would be making a point that you don't need him in your life and you can do without his gifts . I have found that often people feel they can buy your friendship with gifts and figure that if they buy you something then you won't say anything to them if they have upset you , as if gifts could make up for how you are feeling . Although you said you don't have much what they buy is not going to make that big of a difference as you son will still have clothes to wear . Ohters that you are closer to will buy for your son . It is up to you what to decide and if you really want the offer then take it but if you would like to cut ties this would be a way to start . Take Care .

first of all if i was in your place i might have never kept a contact with him and thnking of accepting clothes is really far of to think. i think that may be a contact like this may come in between the husband wife relation one or the other day and cause problems, which i cant take a risk of and its better i dont have any contacts. past is past and we have to secure our future atleast. its my way of thinking and i dont know how far you will agree with this.

I am really wonder how you renew a frienship which you thought broken. You alos comments below he is liar. then what makes you to continue? is there any particular reason or attraction?your husband may be a perect gentle man

When my ex and I split, he stayed in my home as a roomate. Even after he got with someone else. Of course it was a little odd when I let his new wife move into my home for a short period, but we were friends, had a child together, and they were in need. Him I can handle, but thankfully she didn't last long at all. We got back together shortly afterwards. We had intended on staying friends, should have known it would work out the way it did. If we had not gotten back together, and had no children together, we would still have remained friends. If someone wants to stay in touch, and even be helpful, that is a really good thing. Most people can't handle it, which I just don't understand. You shared part of your life with them, why cut them out just because you are no longer together?

I would not accept them....I would also not be able to be friends with a guy i broke up with....whatever the reason may be..:-)

First handsoff to your husband who is really a man who really believes in you. Secondly you can always accept the gift that your ex-boy friend gives you with an open mind without any kind of different feeling. If you really mean him as ex then it is something easy and an ordinary thing to accept the clothing or whatever your ex-boy friend along with his wife offers you.