I Am Sorry, You Have To Leave.

you might have really felt very bad isnt it? after helping and then facing all this and breaking your friendship its really bad and i think you might have never expected this. but tell me why did your friend take food to her husband when she had fought with him and howcome after getting married also she was dating other guy.

She is already abusing you. I guess, it is time that you assert to her that you are no longer comfortable having her around. Try changing your keys and locks, by doing so this will cue her that you are no longer happy having her around. And if she asks, then tell her all your reasons in a business-manner.

I haven't been in this situation, thankfully. I feel for you! How rude, selfish and inconsiderate can a person get???!! Thank goodness you told her she had to leave!

I thank God, I have never had such kind of experience. That would be very disgusting and probably if that happens to me I will not only drive her out of my house but I would first bang the phone on her head before I drive her out.

I once let a friend stay with me because she had nowhere to go after the breakdown of her relationship with the guy she was living with. I had a boyfriend at the time, who didn't live with me but spent a lot of time in my house. Anyway, cut a long story short i worked long shifts and one day i went home and found them in bed together - and to top it off, in MY bed!!! Needless to say i asked both of them to leave! xxx

woow awfull cousin!! well start putting some bills on her face!! then they run by themself out of there

that's the reason why i never let anybody to stay in my house... i just don't want trouble and i prefer to stay just with my hubby... i had been taking advantage of people before due to my kindness and i don't want that to happen again... take care and have a nice day...

It happens. I always try be tolerant. However, some ridicular behaviors will really be hard to stand. It is her fault anyway. Don' torture yourslef by somebody's sin. Do whatever u wanna do. Try to say no. I guess you are too kind to do it. Sometimes, me too

Hi Chevee, Yes I had a friend who had no way to go because her mother threw her out, I felt sorry for her she was not really a friend she was just someone I knew. She move in and it was alright until I went away on a week break with my best friend, I rang my husband up to ask how things were and my husband ask me if I give the girl permission to order good from my shopping book, so I told him not let her order anything. When I came home I told her that she will have to leave as I don't like liers, we had so much troulbe trying to get her out and eventually her boyfriend picked her up and I haven't seen her since. That was a few years ago. Tamara

Yep! My cousin did me the same way! Only she gave my 13 year old pot and when I found this out, crap hit the fan. I basically packed all of her stuff, changed my locks- she had a key, and called her at work and chewed her butt out! She didn't steal from me - but I considered what she did real low!

I never had experience letting someone live in my house. But yes there are some relatives of mine too that are starting to abused my kindness whenever i help them. I feel sorry for you for having a cousin like that. She has no right to treat you that way after all the things youve done for her. She should at least paid for your phone bills before she left. My mom once had to deal with my dads sister when they are still living close to us. She always asked for help to the point where i notice shes getting demanding. I told my mom to talk to her that she also has a family to take care of but then it end up to a big argument. Until now i still dont like her at all. I do understand what you were going through. I guess sometimes we have to think twice first if ever the person we will help is someone who knows how to value the good things we did for them before you started to let them live with you.

I knw yaa. I can understand about this. Ya its happened with me also once. Som ecousin of mine came to my house saying that he has broken up with his girl and stuff like that and needed some time alone from that city and all. Well i was like ok . kool. Stay here some time . Though i go 2 college from 7 a.m to 5.pm . i am there in the college. Guess what. I come back after a 12 hr college and guess what i get? No food at home. Dammit i didnt even feel like going down to get it. I was soo tired. Well then mroe and more things started hapepning. I wa strying to be nice and then one day he breaks my ps2 and says it well down my mistake.sorry and just went 2 take a bath . which ended for 2 hrs and i can bet . When he came out.All my bathrrom stuff were almost over . Dont know what he was doing and all. He then broke my comp . Always kept on eating food. Was feeding him like crazy and then day it fliped my head when iwas supoosed to come back like at 5 and he went out at 4.30 pm and he told me he will come in the night and he took the house keys with him. Well i told him a simple sense come back him for like 5 mins and get lost forever. dammit i hate people like thes.e Just becasue we try to help them They will just do anything. Well anyways happy mylotting :)

you can tell her you situation, and let her known, she maybe leave voluntarily. but if she know this and still stay, you can only send her out directly...

Wow, I am sorry to hear that. Some people just take advantage of people and take other's kindness for granted. Luckily I have yet to encounter such problem, mainly because I am still young and don't own a house.

Wow, it's astonishing that this could happen. My parents once had a relative who came to stay for a couple of months that stretched into 6. He took over a room in our house and was okay, just seemed to be staying indefinitely. These kind of things are hard to handle because they're relatives.

[i]Hi Chevee, wow..that is very rude! It's really hard to trust easily even to relatives! ANyway, I haven't experienced that since I have no relatives who stays with us before and not even now! If ever I will have in the future, maybe I will discussed what are my expectations to her since I learned from this post![/i]

well it never came to that point, because our relative (my aunt) left on her own. but it wasnt about the house and what she wasnt doing, because that's a given. we know that we can't rely to her when it comes to household things. but what i hated is, she is acting as if she owns the house. she started being indifferent towards me. she doesnt talk to me, she would do tantrums. i mean, come on.. you're an adult. she saying bad things about me to my sister, my brother and other aunts which made me look like a b*tch to them. that i can take, i can be pretty b*tchy sometimes. i tried reasoning to her because i don't want my mom to be disappointed because that's her sister but at the same time, i don't want to tolerate her attitude towards me. so, i talked to her. when she can't take it, i told her to go... she didn't initially. but when i start to look carefully into her and my mom returned, she left. she still tells bad things about me to my aunts. i dont care anymore... :)

it's your right to send your cousin out...

Yes, I have. Several years ago, I had my niece and her husband staying with us. She had a new born baby and another child and I felt sorry for her. She had just moved to FL and didn't have a place to live so we let her stay with us. They didn't clean up after themselves and we cought them smoking in the bedroom even after we told them no smoking in the house. We finally told them they couldn't stay any longer. The ended up moving back to NY where her parents live.

Yes, I had to kick my brother in law and his girlfriend out of our apartment once. Mostly because of the girlfriend though. I was actually letting my husband's whole family stay with us. When him and his girl friend got kicked out, she tried to get me in trouble by letting the aparment manager know that they were all staying there. It didn't get me in trouble though, only the rest of his family. I had to tell them they all had to go, since the manager now knew about them. He sooo should have left that girl. lol