At Death's Door...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
October 24, 2008 7:25pm CST
If one of your loved ones were to die, would you rather have them go slowly to give you time to say all the things you never did and get family there, or would you rather they go quickly so that they don’t suffer?
I’d rather have them go slowly as long as they weren’t in pain…if they were in pain, then I’d rather they go quickly. If it were me dying, I’d want the same thing…my worst fear is to die in pain. I pray I go peacefully in my sleep.
What about you, which would you prefer?
[b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~
**AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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25 responses
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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25 Oct 08
Hi twoey68,
Yes, I feel exactly like you, there is not much more to say to that.
Tamara
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I want to die like Grace and Bonnie, in my sleep.
I used to say that if there was a war, I wanted to be at ground zero when the big one fell.
I'm in so much pain now - and I have recently been in even more pain - that I do think I know what I'm saying is true.
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I am like you,I want to go at peace in my sleep.I suffer
a lot of pain now,but when it comes my time I want to go
quickly without suffering any more.I do not want my family
to see me suffer.I do not want to see them go through that.
I pray I go in my sleep at peace with everyone and quickly.
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I would like to die in my sleep I think that would be the best for me I myself don't like pain.
As for a family member I would like them to go fast because I am not very good in very sad situations I would probably be crying so much that my words wouldn't come out.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
25 Oct 08
If they were going to suffer, I would not want them to linger, but if there was a way to keep them pain-free until the end, I would want them around longer.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
2 Nov 08
I would rather have them go quickly if they are prepared. Going slowly is too painful and it encourages relative to think of mercy killings. I would not think of ending someone else's life, but there are those who would. Even if I would never get there to say good=bye, I would rather that they die quietly in their sick or go very fast. Besides I would expect that they knew they were not well and if they did not prepare or promised anything to anybody, maybe they had a good reason.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Pain, not withstanding, I would rather they go quickly and peacefully. Let's face it most of have not said what we should have said to our loved ones. Having them hold on in an effort for the family to be around is ok but making up for lost time and "I wish I had..." not going to work cause no matter how much we want there is never enough time.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
2 Nov 08
I believe you need to say the things now and not wait until the person is on deaths door to say them.
My mother in-law was mean and very critical to me until she was about ready to die. She then apologized for all the nasty things she said to me. It hurt me to no end she had to die with a clean conscious when she should have been nicer to me in the first place.
I want to say the things that need to be said now! and tell my loved one's now how I feel. Show them now that I love them and not wait until I am dying.
@Little_Stormy (6883)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I would want them to go whatever way was best for them. After watching my niece suffer, I could never be that selfish as to wish them longer just so I can say goodbye.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Dec 08
I'd like a goodbye but not if it means that the person has to suffer.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Oct 08
i sure don't want them to lie & suffer & hang on for a long time. i have lost people both ways & it's quite a shock for them to go quickly but it's horrible to see them sick for yours w/their mind gone.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
26 Oct 08
No question about it. I'd rather them not suffer any longer than they have to. Even though I'd love to say goodbye and that I love them. I have found that it is good to do this everyday and everytime I speak to someone that I care about. I let them know how I feel while they are with me.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Well i would not want them to be in pain but of course i would want them to go very slowly as to get everything they want to do to give them time to do it...I think they would know when it was time to go...If they were in lots of pain then i had rather them just die right away to avoid the suffering...
@littleowl (7157)
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25 Oct 08
Hi twoey..I would want them to go quickly if they were suffering,even if I had not said all I had wanted to because when they are on the other side they know and understand that you still loved them anyway...blessings littleowl
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I think I would prefer to go peacefully in my sleep also, I wouldn't want to have to suffer any kind of pain or illness. I think when it comes to my loved ones, I wouldn't want them to have to suffer very long, I would want them to go quickly, but if they weren't in any pain and not suffering, I would want them to go slowly, so we could spend a little more time with them and let them know how we feel. But its not up to us is it? Have a good day
@xandercordy1 (296)
• United States
25 Oct 08
I am like you. If they were in pain, with no hope of recovery, I would want them to be able to die and finally be at peace. If they weren't then I would want to say good-bye. I also worry about how I am going to die. I would like to go peacefully in my sleep as well.
