Do you get along with your Sister-in-law
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
October 27, 2008 10:46pm CST
I have 2 sister-in-laws (well technically 4 but the younger two are 9 and 6 LOL) and I get along with one of them.
The other one I could really do without. Here is why: you tell her something and she tattles to her Dad or her Dad tells her things and uses her as a spy.
Today, she really ticked me off. In another post I mention how my BILs actions cost us a lot of money. Apparently her Dad called her and explained the situation, she calls my MIL up and starts saying stuff like "I don't think A is the reason that money was lost, I think it has to do with something B did before", etc, etc. My MIL was on the phone with my husband at the office while the recruiter was explaining the issue, talked to the recruiter and had the statement that caused the problem read to her. So I guess she doesn't believe her own mother either. On top of that, she says that brother A is straight and he isn't doing XYZ anymore, etc and should be left alone. WTF? He is at one of the top party schools in the US and we know he parties but yet is 100% clean? yeah, right....
Is your SIL like this? If so, do you even bother with her? I may shoot her a nasty email...haven't decided.
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20 responses
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
28 Oct 08
I do not have or had a sister in law like that.
I think that writing an email will help you vent but will not solve the problem, People who think like that will go on on their merry way and she will find a way to blame some stuff on you based on the email you wrote her.
I will say in all honesty let it go, write a letter to vent and delete or throw it to the trash, people like your sister in law will never change.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
28 Oct 08
I know she will never change. She always seems like she might, but she just reverts. She just has to be the snitch for her Dad. Really bothers me though that she has to go talk behind people backs (which is the same thing her Dad does).
@melissa19 (5)
• Jamaica
28 Oct 08
well i know at times kids can be like headache. but am not going to discourage u from not being apart of that family because i think you do love that guy to put up with all that nonsense from is sister, so i am going to say hold the faith and bear on just a little while longer, remember she is just a child she does not understand the works of life yet. well for me all my sil are older than me and we get a long well.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
28 Oct 08
She lives way out of state, miles away. She is the only one I have a problem with. She doesn't' have the "child" excuse either, she is 25. She is just petty!
@chengbeb (285)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
Luckily though I don't have that type of sister-in-law. My SIL is only 18 and we get along so well with each other. The only problem I have in this family is my brother-in-laws wife. She is such a b***h. She would constantly find a way so that my MIL and I would get into an argument and not talk with each other. She would always try to find fault in me so that my husbands whole family would be disgusted or upset about me. In these situations my dear...don't do anything at all. There is always karma..."what goes around comes around" and if you're not doing anything bad she'll definitely get what she deserves.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
hello sedel1027,
I don't know if I am lucky for I don't have sister-in-law. My wife has only one brother and no sister. So I am not experiencing such problem. I heard a lot from my friends and coworkers that they too are having problems with their in-laws. Maybe, it's just better if you'll not mind them anymore. I know it's hard to do it for I am not in your shoes it's just easy for me to say, but I guess it's the best. Or better not to tell any from your other sis-in-law. Better yet, do not live with them if that is the case, to avoid complications. Or maybe, you can confront her to stop doing that to you.
@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
I have no problem with my sister in law, in fact, whenever we have family affair, I always ask her ideas and assistance to make things go smooth. Your SIL is searching for attention, it seemed that her brother was stolen from her. She is annoying in everything just to put blames on other and get the attention she missed. Try to study her weaknesses and start your friendship from there.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
28 Oct 08
That isn't her problem. Her problem is that she has to be the perfect daughter to her Dad and in doing so, she just has turned into the family snitch. No one really likes her and she lives miles and miles away. I have no interest in her friendship.
@gunboundlolo (8)
• United States
28 Oct 08
sister in law are like a good way to scoialize w new peopl=S
@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
28 Oct 08
I had a very difficult time letting my best brother go (I have 2 and really loved and bonded with one soooo well) with his wife when they married. We would meet about once a year and again things would stir up and we would part angry. After over 5 years, we met again and somehow things worked out and we are actually friends now. Of course my brother is a little distant with me and I have learned to live with that, but with her at least, I am happy never thought it would work out this way but I am happy and relieved and I am sure my brother is too. With these in law issues, most men always feel so burdened and confused as to how to keep both sides happy!
@msmell (1378)
• Australia
28 Oct 08
My ex-hubby had 6 sisters and I still see all of them and get along with them fantastically even after being divorced from him 9 years but the partner that I am with now his brother is married to this THING that I refuse to talk too! she is just a 2 faced cow can't stand her!
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
28 Oct 08
Not really, my husband came from a fmaily that was very critical and so I don't really talk to my SIL's much. But his siblings do a lot of talking to their Dad on things they shouldn't..For instance, our finances..He tells one of his siblings and then they tell their Dad..His Dad has heart problems and doesn't need to worry aobut us..So I tell him to say nothing our what we are going through..
@Dragonofgold (509)
• Canada
28 Oct 08
I have one I like, one I love and one I HATE. I make knice at all the get togethers and invite the favourite over all the time and the middle one over sometimes. My husband and I avoid the SIL who acts the way yours does and we avoid the MIL who adds fuel to her fire, same as the the situation you face. Life is much more serene for us that way.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
i don't have problems with my sister-in-law.. we are in good terms..it's just that we aren't that close.. she's a quiet type of person, i can't be myself whenever i am with her.. i can't confide my problems with her.. i hope someday we would be able to do shopping together, share our secrets, etc..
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
28 Oct 08
My wife and my sister get along beautifully. My wife has a knack of making a person feel special and has many fans. A lot of her students keep ringing her up every day for advice. My sister trusts my wife and turns to her to duscuss all matters. it is a different thing that my wife takes my advice for evry thing and can't take a decision unless I concur.
@lavender88 (192)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 08
My SIL are ok and we get along fine. It's best not to get upset with them or your life will not be in peace.Its not easy but try your best... Good luck
@jvillanueva (2)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
I have 2 SIL's and I love them both. One is of the same age as I am and the youngest is 23 years old. We get along together really well. Admittedly, there are times when we have misunderstandings. But that wouldn't stand in the way of our relationship and of the closeness we've maintained.
@pokemainiac2 (86)
• Australia
28 Oct 08
You're just like Homer Simpson and his sister in laws, Patty and Selmer. I don't really like my sister in-law much because she is always annoying. When you play a game of basketball with her, she always cheats and gets away with it and she blames you for everything. I don't see her much anyway so i don't really care.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
28 Oct 08
I have a SIL from hell. She would have an entire conversation with me without looking at me. Eventually it got to the point where if I would ask her a question, she would look at my husband to answer it, never even acknowledging me. She finally got to the point where she told my husband that she didn't like his wife and that she wanted nothing to do with me and would not talk to me anymore. So he said ok, shove it, stay away then and we haven't talked to her in 3 years. It has been a lovely 3 years except for the fact that my MIL is still hating me to my face! They are of a different religion than my husband and myself and they just quite literally think that I turned him over to the dark side (lutheran/nazarene). So, i feel for you. If only it could be as peaceful on the SIL as it is for me right now...I will hope for you ok!!!
@jordan04n (463)
• United States
28 Oct 08
...once we got along really well...then she decided she wanted to run the lives of both of my daughters....I can't trust her....she has 3 boys and has no clue....I have no need for a back stabber...
@magicslate (373)
• Philippines
28 Oct 08
i only have one sister-in-law, and i love her. i think we get along pretty well. in fact, we are chatting on YM right now as i type. hehe.
@nilugo (348)
• Singapore
28 Oct 08
I have SIL whom I get along but sometimes she tends to be abit bossy. Now whenever she is like that I tend to ignore her, then she becomes normal again. Early on marriage, she was really annoying as she was trying show that she did everything for her brother and I cannot do anything right, but she has changed alot now, thankfully. And now I actually like her.
