What should you do when your friend doesn't listen to you?

I always ask if someone wants my advice, why waste your time if they don't? I just ask, do you want my advice or do you just need me to listen to you? After I give advice, it's like a gift, I just let it go, it's up to them to follow it or not. Many times there are hidden reasons why a person does something so I try not to judge.

you cannot blame anyone who wouldn't listen to you, despite of all shortcomings they may have it is still their choice. all we have to do is to guide them and tell them perhaps the other side of the coin yet we cannot force them to do what we think is best and right even if it is so. the decision still lies on their hands and it's a choice that they need to chose by their own. you have done your part and it all depends on that person whether to go with your opinion or not. our definition won't be the same as they are, given the benefit of the doubt.

Friends should listen to bad or good things about themselve or about their decisions, if not then they will encounter bad experiences, we can tell them - you should learn from not only your experience but others also, because life is short and everything cannot be experienced and learnt

I have a lot of friends that they will always ask for my suggestions or advice and if ever they will not follow my word of advice to them I think it is still find because that is also what they think they are, It would still there decision matters above of all because that is there own life.....

Actually, NO! But, we all know most of us r like this. We'll listen to what people have to say, but usually still do as we want, it's nature! Granted, if r follow through goes array, then we have no room to complain when the advice could have prevented the outcome! People r people Taripre$

We shoude do more listening than speaking.It will be good for us.And I think that's why we have two ears but only one mouth.

friendship has to be a 2-way street. i am finding out the hard way that you really find out who your friends are when you need them. I was always there for my friends, but nothing bad ever happened to me, so i never knew whether they would do the s for me. Until almost five years ago when I was diagnosed with a disabling disease. Now I am in a wheelchair and need someone to go with me to the movies or out to eat, and I never see them! I used to pick them up from airports, bring them soup when they were sick, go with them to pick out cars, furniture, houses, drive them around when their cars were in the shop, etc. Now, I haven't seen some of them in about 3-4 years. Either they make stupid excuses or some of them come out and say "I just can't see you like this". I would say, take a good look at your friendships now. If you always listen to them, but they don't reciprocate, that should tell you something about how they give to others. I never saw this; I loved helping people, and was so independent that I never asked for help from anyone. Now I have no choice because I really can't go out alone. So I don't go out and I have no visitors. Everybody is too "busy". It's not about me; it's about them. They don't want to be in my life anymore because I can't do anything for them anymore.

just ignore them. some people prefer to learn on their own way, on their own, the hard way

Sometime they do and at times they don't. But I am not that type of friend who push too hard for my advise or opinion. If they need my suggestion, I won't hesitate to give it to them. It's up to them to tke it or leave it.

Advice should only be given when it is asked for. Otherwise it is considered "butting in". When I give advice, I feel that it is up to the person who is asking for it, whether they want to do it or not. I cannot control others, only my reaction to them. You seem like you feel that your way is the right way and your words must be heeded. It could be true but, as Logan Pearsall Smith said, (American Writer, 1865-1946), “The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right.” So, only give when asked and do not get riled when she does not take it. Maybe her path in life is meant to be doing just what you do not want her to do and you cannot stop it. She must learn on her own.

Just because someone asks for your opinion doesn't obligate them to follow your advice. As here in mylot, we often ask for peoples opinion, but often for different reasons. Sometimes you just want to know what other people think, and have no intention of changing your view or opinion.

Hi Masmasika, if a friend doesn't listen to you and your 100% sure that this person is a true friend, based on past actions, then you have to ask yourself two questions: a) am I saying something wrong; or b) does my friend have some problem of his own. A real friend will listen, so maybe it is time for you to listen. Regards from Germany. Umart

They say you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink. You can tell your friend what you think she should do but in the long run she will decide wha she wants to do.

You must have to listen to someone at some pointing time in your life. No matter how much you know there is always some who knows more than you. Hence if my friend will not listen to me I would seek the assistance of reputable person example a Pastor, Guidance Councillor or someone whom I know is more knowledgeable than her.

If a person's mind is closed , it is no use. Just try to be a good listener . Let her tell you how she feels and act interested. That is the best way to help her. If she asks for your advice, then she will listne, but not until then.

i guess if my friend doesnt listen to me then its her choice since in the end its her life and she can decide whatever she think that is right and although i will not give any unsolicited ones...but if she will seek mine then surely i will give her one...

well it's really her life isn't it? all we as friends can do is let her know what we think of the situation. we can't make all her decisions for her, can we? however, i try not to tell anyone 'i told you so' because it already hurts to fall. it's worse when people tell me 'i told you so' because it's like sprinkling salt on the wound. as for someone like your friend, i won't even bother giving her any advice. if she thinks she is always right, then whatever i say doesn't really matter. cheers

i have a good friend that knows more than anybody about everything. lol. if she gets to me i'll just tell her to hush & listen. she really comes uo w/some crap sometimes. when she gets outrageous i just tell her to slow down & think about what she's sating. she's very bossy.

Hi friends When my friend doesnot listen to me,i will make her undersatnd that i am really saying her for her good will.I will make her understand that i care her so much and i always wish for her well being and success.And i will make her realize that i am always there for ,when she is in troubles and always can be of her help. LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You say she. I have found that women do not want advice to fix their problems they just want someone to listen to their problems and sympathize. If the advice is unsolicited, she is free to ignore your advice as it was unasked for. You sound a bit controlling and that is might be what she is feeling. Besides, who is to say your advice is correct. All you can do is offer advice, hope that they take it, and if they do not make it clear that the subject is closed, do not come back and whine again that they still have the same problem.