Have you dreamed your spouce was cheating?
By tonniek02
@tonniek02 (457)
United States
November 2, 2008 9:13pm CST
I did, In my first marriage, every so often I would have a dream that my husband was cheating on me. He would flont her right infront of me. I would wake up so angee, cause it was so real. Little did I know, my dreams were telling me something. Just before our 11th anniversery, I started having the dreams again. And this time the were real bad, and real strong. And on Valentines day he admitted there was someone else. Now, I know it wasn't the first time. I really beleive that over those 12 years that I had, had those dreams they were true. Now I don't take my dreams for granted. Now, I know that my dreams are telling me something I may have my eyes closed to at the time.
3 people like this
11 responses
@kurreeztuhh (115)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
oh no. that's hard. 12 years off the rack! i think your dreams represents your subconscious mind. maybe you have been thinking about it before and you have felt that but haven't realized that he really is cheating on you. i'm sorry about that.
i don't have a husband yet but i may say that i am currently "engaged" in such a context that we have kept promises of forever, la la la. :) but i never dreamed about him cheating on me or something like that. i'll take your experience. maybe if in time i'd dream about it, i'd confront him immediately so that we could fix things ASAP. :)
1 person likes this
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
3 Nov 08
No, I was not thinking of it. I felt like he would never to that to me. I was wrong. And that is one thing I told him before we ever married. I would not live with a cheat and I would not be hit. Those were the things that would cause me to walk. He found out, I ment it... The way I see it. If he really loved me, he wouldn't have cheated! And I am not going to fight for a love that I had already lost. And I am not going to live, wondering who he is with tonight or why isn't he home yet. Or what sickness is he going to bring home to me. The line got crossed and once crossed there is no fixing
@kurreeztuhh (115)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
oh gosh, and you even told him that??? sick huh? men are so "animalistically" inclined. (if there's such a word) they focus more on instincts than their minds. i got your point there and it's hard to live like that. good thing is that you got out but i would not say that it's "on time". 12 years is not a joke and no one would find that funny.
i hope you're fine now.
@monty_bagga82 (6)
• China
3 Nov 08
might be right for once
but just find out for how long has he been cheating on u????
and how long have u been getting these kind of dreams and how was ur behavior after u got those dreams??
i bet all my above questions r inter related
i accept every guy wants and affair with each and every gal but that doesnt mean they go along that path
and some guys who really do that can be changed
just show them that they hurt u
if he really loves u he ll never go anywhere else
but if he still does they its ur fate
i strongly suggest u not to keep on believing that ur every dream is true!!!
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I doesn't matter anymore. I divorced him and he married his cheat. But, if I had of lessoned to my dreams the first time. I would not have wasted 12 years of my life on a marriage that wasn't true. So yes, I do think very hard on my dreams and watch what is going on around me..
@monty_bagga82 (6)
• China
3 Nov 08
am sorry for that tonniek
so what about ur life after divorcing him???
did u get married to someone else or ru still single
and remember
dreams r not something u see when ur asleep
they r something u see when ur awake
just go ahead to fullfill them!!!
all the best
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Once, I dreamed that my boyfriend was cheating..and it was a very real dream. I started checking into things and he was cheating.....by by boyfriend....lol Dreams can sure be warnings!@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
3 Nov 08
That's the way I see it. Dreams sometime are a warning sign. And sometimes can save you from a big mistake
@theangel (61)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Dreaming is one way to satisfy our subconcious desires or it sometimes reveal what is on the back of our minds. I guess that all those years you've been together, you were suspecting that your husband is cheating on you, or you think about that always. Thats why it came out as a dream. Also, there are beliefs that dreaming is one way to foretell our future or to warn us about incoming incidents. So the next time you dream like that again, better keep an eye to your husband. :)
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Beleive me, I am remarried now. but I have no trust left. I love him. But I don't trust him. I don't know if I ever will. I watch everything and lesson to every word. I feel trust is something you earn, And thats what he will have to do, to get my trust. earn it. I don't give it freely anymore.
@nikkilee6583 (70)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I take almost all of my dreams to heart!!! So many times have they really happened to me. Whether it be a person cheating on me, or a car accident that was about to take place. I mean I have silly dreams at times too, that make no sense at all, but even those I try to find the "why" to it. Why is my mind thinking about this, why am I having this dream? I love to dream! I knwo so many people who dont remember there dreams the next day, and I wonder why? Why do someof us dream things so real, and some of us not remember dreaming at all? I think it's amazing. I'm sorry to hear about your husband cheating on you, but you deserve better than that if you were faithful all those years. I mean why put all your energy into someone who doesnt give back??? One door closes for another to open. Keep your chin up, and I wish you the best. :-)
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
i never actually... i hope i never have to dream about that kind of thing... that will be scary for me... so far, i trust my hubby a lot and he as well... so i hope that he will never betray my trust just as i will never betray him... take care and have a nice day...
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
3 Nov 08
i understand what you are going through i have those dreams periodically and i would wake up so mad and angry at my boyfriend. sometimes i wonder if they are true but then i try and think about something else becuase i am the type if i continue thinking about stuff like that then i end up doing something i might regret ( not cheat on him) but like break up with him until i dont think about no more.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
3 Nov 08
it is really a very long time you have spend with your hubby and how can he does it after such long time and did he realise his mistake or not?
i think it is better you dont avoid your dreams.
i had once got a dream that my husband is cheating me and the next morning i told this to my husband and he was like laughing and i was just pulling his legs for this and teasing him and i know my husband will not do this.
@candela305 (31)
• United States
3 Nov 08
A Dream is a subliminal activity that otherwise lays dormant in our brains. They may be about trust issues, insecurities, fears, goals, friends, family, but really they can be about anything. You may have been insecure about him but repressed your feelings as to give him the benefit of the doubt and your mind expressed those insecurities via your dreams...You had the answer all along but probably was to in love to accept it therefore repressed those feelings. I am sorry to hear you had to deal with a cheating spouse. And I am also glad to to know that you will take your dreams more seriously now.
