"Regifting"
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
United States
December 12, 2008 11:04am CST
Do you regift? You know, the practice of giving someone a gift that recieved from someone else previously. Do you box it up, rewrap it and give it to someone else?
Personally I can't stand this way of giving gifts. I think that gifts are given with the thought and good intentions to the receiver, and therefore should be treated with respect, even if you don't like it. If you don't like it, donate it, or just deal with it...don't give it to someone else, like you purchased it just for them. What are you ideas and feelings about regifting?
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@general1star (149)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I agree and disagree with you as well. I have regifted on a couple of occasions. My sister gave me a gift once and I really liked it. I had a close friend that liked it even more and always admired it when she came over. After about a year of this (vocal) admiration every time she came over her birthday came around. I was out of gift ideas as we have been friends many years. So I wrapped it and gave it to her.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
That scenario is also different than "just regifting". Your friend knew where the gift had come from. It was something she admired. You weren't out of line at all. Great response, thank you.
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@cassandralynn (1084)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I have only re-gifted one thing in my whole life and it was a nice handbag I never did use because it was more like some type of disco bag for night clubbing and I don't go to disco night clubs anymore or when I did I wouldn't carry anything that flashy, but it was a pretty bag, so I gave it to a friend as a gift who liked glittery handbags . But if I get a gift I know I won't use then I usually hold on to it until I find somebody to give it to, somebody who could use it or who likes it.I don't re-gift it, I'll just give it away. But it's rare because I enjoy most gifts that I get :)
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Great response. Giving it away is different than giving it as a gift that you picked out specifically for that person.
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@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I receive a lot of presents that just aren't me. Jewlery, perfume, coach bags stuff like that. It is not cheap stuff and I don't use it and it collects dusts, what a waste of money.
So I have two options,
1. Sell it
2. Regift it
Which choice is better?
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I can see your reasoning, especially where your mother is concerned. Perhaps you could give her a list of the things you need and want, that way she would know for sure what to get for you so you wouldn't have to regift or sell the gifts. Just a suggestion. Thanks for your response.
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@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. The biggest calpert is my mother. I don't wear jewlery, I have worn the same necklace since I was 13, that is over 20 years, I am not going to take it off now. I don't wear makeup, I don't carry a purse (that is what my back pocket is for).
The perfect gift for me is Legos. I love Legos! I may be female but I don't have very many female traits. I was raised by my father with 4 brothers, I am who I am.
But my mother who missed most of my childhood does not know these things and I don't want to hurt her feelings, so I say thank you, I love it, because that is what she expects. Well that and I am scared she will go away again and not come back.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
12 Dec 08
No I do not do this and would never dream of it. I feel the same way you do about it. I buy things from stores and I search dilengently for each and every person as to what I believe and kknow they would like to have or what I've been told they need or want. I believe this to be the correct way of doing it and the best.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I share your sentimate moondancer. But, I guess that so many people are doing it, we will never know if we are on the receiving end of "regift", lol.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
13 Dec 08
This is what I myself do. When I'm given something I have never thought if it was a regift or not. I'm just happy to be thought of, as many times in my youth I never recieved anything or just one small thing for Christmas. Therefore I'm really happy to get anything and to be thought of.
I do have part of my family that instead of going out to buy gifts they have a thing where they take things from their home and write someones name on it and then after given someone else has a chance to aquire the item from them just by saying I'd like to have.....(whatever they can get that they wish for from another. They only ask once and trade once. It's a fun game I'm told but have never done it myself. I spend a small fortune of gifts every year and am so glad I have it to give as I use to not be able to get things when my children were younger.
@busyB4 (874)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I have regifted, not often as most that would give me a gift are people who know me well and know what type of things I like . I have gotten a gift though that I would not use and have felt someone else would like it so I have given it to them.
I think the worst one I have heard of is someone selling it on Ebay and the giver is big in Ebay too and knew that they just gave that gift!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I wouldn't regift to anyone unless I knew that the person I got it from didn't mind and the person I was giving it to liked it. I guess in that sense it would be more of a hand me down then a gift, but then I guess I wouldn't regift.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
No that isn't regifting, because you are asking permission from the giver to pass the gift onto someone else. You are simply giving away something you can't use or don't want...not necessarily as a gift. Thanks for your reply.
@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
12 Dec 08
HI there: sorry to "butt in" here (G)!! someone responded to one of my topics
the other day because they thought I was ( you) LOL! up to that time I had
never even seen ( your name) and here you are: HELLO!!! as you can see
I'm DreamWeaverJan...Oh my! This is just too funny, we should become friends
and really confuse our ( mylot friends more) LOL!!!
Ok back to the regifting topic; I've done regifting in the past usually it
was something that I really couldn't use like certain perfumes and stuff I have
very very sensitive skin, Yeah I'm a wuss...but even then I never let the person
know that gave me the gift you know what I mean??
anyway nice to meet you creativedreamweaver I like your name!!!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!
oh this is really confuse people now! At least you have butterflies and I have
a purple/black cat avatar...
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
That is hilarious. I have seen your's once or twice and though "cool". I sent you a friend request, because I accidently denied yours...it was a mouse error, I swear. We should confuse our friends. I've been on myLot for over two year, but took a six month break. Great to meet you and hope to seeing more of you.
Back to the regifting...I can see your point, especially with the perfumes. I guess that would be okay. I'm thinking of gifts on a more personal level though.
Merry Christmas.
@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Hi there: Glad to be your friend now too, Yeah I'm sure we'll cross paths again
in some topics here and there...
That's ok I do those boo boo's all the time myself!!!
You have a great holiday now and I'll be seeing you around!!!
Us "Dreamweaver's" have to stick together now, if I come across that topic of
mine I'll send it to you LOL!! The one that thought I was you...ROTFL!!!
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Not cool. Regifting is just wrong, unless, it is someone that you can't stand, then regift all that you want to.
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Sure I regift if its something nice that I don't really need or will use. Why not give it to someone else? If I don't want to regift it I'll sell it at a garage sale or donate it to the thrift store. But yes, I've regifted several times.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Dontating it is a big difference between giving it to another person and having them think that you got it for them. I will donate unwanted items rather than regift them. Thanks for your honest reply.
@teshavill (278)
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
Hi! NOpe.I don't regift.I have this thinking that when someone gave you a gift,most likely that person gave it whole-heartedly,probably spent hours roaming in a mall just to look for the best gift for you,spending lots of hours baking something to give you,probably hand-made a novelty item which is also laboriousSo why won't I cherish that gift?I have known that one of my friends is just regifting the fruitcake I gave him which was baked and specially prepared for all my friends.Though we know when you gave something and reaches them,they have all the rights what to do with it but it still hurt when I've learned he just regifted it Huhu.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Yes, it does hurt the "givers" feelings. I am sorry yours were hurt. I do spend hours finding the "perfect" gift, and I feel I know my friends and family well enough to know what they want or need. Thanks for the response.
@ShanLhey (164)
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
A lot of instances but let me elaborate first.
I really give value to what is given to me as gift. If is given by my love ones I could keep it and put it to my cabinet just to make sure it wont lost and protect from any dust.
I want to show to the one who gave it to me that the things they're giving to me were kept and being cared by me.
If the gift I received came from prizes, I would share it to my friends that wasnt able to receive a prize.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Prizes are fine. They are not given to you by another person...a friend or family member. It is fine to give prizes away to others. Thanks for your response. I appreciate it.
@LuvBr0wn13s (765)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I re-gift. When I give a gift to someone I hope that they enjoy it, but it is theirs to do with as they please. As a matter of fact I received a gift this year from a friend of mine. She gave it to me after I got out of the hospital from having a miscarriage. Quite frankly, this is an event that I wish not to commemorate in anyway. The gift is a lovely crystal candy dish that I am sure someone I choose to give it to will just love!
I had a funny situation come up one year where the same gift got passed around to about 4 different women in my family. It was one of those little houses that you put in a christmas village seetup. It is now a gag that gets regifted every year to someone else. I suppose it depends on how you feel about things when you give them to people. I want them to know the thought behind it. No matter what happens to the object, the thought is still with them.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
That's cute about the little house. I'm sorry I disagree about the thought being behind the gift, if it was already given to you by someone else. Don't regift it, give to them by letting them know that you recieved it and won't use it. Just my opinion. Thanks a lot of sharing your point of view. I really appreciate it.
@goodtogo (149)
• Pakistan
13 Dec 08
nice topic :), well i some times re gift ,but personally i dont like this but the thing is the people i regift to ,they are doing the same practice with me :)
so its just a formality ... but to those i really love and care about and want to give them gifts from my heart ,i usually go and buy for them ..
some times its also a amtter of money involved ,so ...we prefer not to invest and just regift..
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Thank you. I can see the point in money, especially the way the economy is right now. But I'd still rather my family and friends know that I didn't have much money to spend on them, than to give them a gift that someone else gave me. I appreciate your honest response though and your opinion.
@tuckerbabies (106)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I think regifting is ok, sometimes. There are rules for everything, including regifting. There are also websites to tell how to regift items, such as regiftable.com. When you KNOW somebody spent time thinking about the perfect gift for you, you wouldn't want to give it away because you'll actually like it. Many times people buy the same present for everyone just to make it easier on themselves. I personally try to give people the things they would like or can use. Telling somebody you'd rather have something else and asking them to exchange it is like sending a kid to clean their room again because they didn't do a good enough job the first time. I think it's more rude then regifting.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Good point about being rude in telling them you want them to exchange the gift. That is very rude. I think if you exchange the gift it is okay...you are still getting something for you. Thanks for the website, I will check it out. Also thanks for your reply.
@LCHBheart (167)
• Singapore
13 Dec 08
It depends on the gift. If it's something like an unopened original Louis Vuitton bag, I don't think any of my girlfriends are going to complain.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I won't complain, lol. Thanks for the response.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I have only done this a few times. The gifts weren't from family members but were regifted to them. This way nobody really felt badly about it. Never would I tell a person that I wasn't happy with what I received. One of my clients just gave me a slow cooker recipe book that she received. She said she loved the book but wouldn't really use it and gifted it to me. I told her I would make something from the book and bring it to her. That way she could tell her friend that she tried a few of the recipes and that she enjoyed it.
I would not regift something that a family member gave me. I find use for it sooner or later.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
That was nice of you. She didn't really regift it to you, but rather gave it to you. It's good you wouldn't regift a family members gift as well. I would be terrible hurt if one of my family members did that. I spend a lot of time thinking of and looking for the best gift. Thanks for your response.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Thanks cher for your honest respone. While I don't agree with it, I respect your choice. Again thank you for your reply, I appreciate it.
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
12 Dec 08
No, I don't rewrap gifts. I feel bad that is horrible. I like picking out gifts anyway and it should come from the heart. Rewrapping is not really from the heart is it?
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
You are so right. I put my heart and love into every gift I buy. I try to make sure it is something the person will like and will use. I couldn't regift. Thanks for the response.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I'll re gift, even if it's like I brought it, after all I'm giving up something that was of value, if i hadn't gotten something to re gift I would have gotten something of value to me. Most of the time I just put it in the closet and then give it to someone who can use it, not disguised, just something I can't or won't use.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I think that's okay...to just give it to someone who can use it or needs it...but not as a gift with the impression that you yourself bought it for them. There is fine line here. Thanks for your reply.
@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
13 Dec 08
"Naughty", lol. Yep, I don't think it is entirly right either. Thanks for your input.