If your partner cheated on you ,would you want to know ?

I would want to know who I should throw my slippers at! Seriously,I tend to take such things radically and the fact itself would be enough,no details needed. I would probably be enraged and puzzled if someone forgave me for doing such a thing,I'm not perfect and I would understand my punishment. If someone cheated on you or you cheated on someone, it might be possible to build your relationship back depending on faith and trust,but trust would be thing I've lost. Of course,things change if you have children of if you have true and deep feelings and are a forgiving person but if you're young and have no kids and are ho headed... Why take disrespect? Would you forgive someone who cheated on you?

Well, good relationship is based on trust. I absolutely want to know if my partner is cheating on me. Why I want to know? Because I want to have true relationship with my partner. I know truth is hurting sometime, but it is needed when to build solid relationship. By knowing the truth, I can start finding the root of evil, why my partner is cheating on me! Why it is happening to me. Is it 100% my partner fault or there is a part of my own mistake? And then I'll go to the hard part: listen and understand why my partner is cheating on me! I know this is not an easy job. It is very difficult to understand a person that is hurting! I need to have a certain level emotional maturity to do that. Then, after we can see clearly what the problem behind that cheating, we then start finding a solution in order my partner not doing the same thing in the future. The important key to solve the relationship problem here is forgiveness. I know nobody is perfect, that is why we need to forgive one another. And I also nee to forgive my partner with all my heart in order we can continue having and building a better the relationship.

Yes, I would, so I could try and fix it. Are all cheating spouses meant to be tossed out? No. A marriage can be saved if both are willing to look at the reasons why and move on. Why can I say that? I have been there. We got counseling and found out such things about my spouse's past that I never knew that caused such pain and a need to feel wanted.

If my husband was cheating on me I'd like to know. I think it would hurt me more though than anything if I went on with our lives and I knew nothing of him cheating on me. Although, I know that it would hurt me as well if I found out if he was cheating on me. I don't know what I would do if I found out he was cheating on me. I know that I would want a seperation for a while to see what would need to be done. Maybe go through some counseling or something and if that did not work out, then I might would want to have a divorce.

Goodness me what a thought because I know he would not makes me more confident with my answer,I would not want to know,as long as things stay as good as they are I would not want to know.If that was to happen it would kill me,and going through another break up would be to much for me.My first husband was unfaitthful on a regular basis and he had to go in the end because I hated him.I could never hate my husband I am married to now or could I they say the line between love and hate is really thin.I suppose if it was just one mistake you could talk it through and work it out or the trust just might disappear over night so I still think I would not want to know.Some one I knew along time ago was aware her husband was cheating on her but chose to ignore it because life was sweet as she called it.plenty of money and good holidays she got one hell of a shock when he eventually decided to leave her.

yes, i wanna know who's been messing up with my man. In fact, I'd even burn down the house of the girl. Well, at least I'd want to. I guess ignoring it means you're denying the fact that there is a problem going on. I mean, most of us stumble upon the truth but we just get up and brush ourselves clean like nothing happened. For me, that won't help us grow.

Yes, i would want to knwo if my partner cheated on me. It would hurt to know the truth. But I would rather knwo the truth. Than have someone lie to me. With cheating can bring along worse things. Such as disease......some curable. But others deadly. I have kids I wish to see grow up.

I prefer not to know. If I get to know the truth my marriage would end up there and then because I don't know if i will have the strength to forgive my wife. So I' d prefer to remain in the dark and not knowing what went really on. (c) ronaldinu 2009 - the more people I meet-the more I love my dog

wew. well, i hope my partner doesnt cheat on me. but of course if he does, i hope that he would admit it by himself rather than me knowing it. and i knew it by my own means. it would be a fight. haha

I would want to know if I had been cheated on. In this day and age what you don't know CAN kill you!!! I want people around me that I can trust. If the man in my life decided to stray, he can just keep strayed. I had a fiance cheat on me and we broke up over it. I tossed his sorry a$$ out. He married the woman two months later, because she had a house and two cars. He contacted me a few years ago wanting me back...and I told him where to go. I am not second choice!!! I am faithful as an old dog...I wouldn't dream of cheating on my BF, and of course I haven't. I don't care for the details of an affair, it's bad enough that the man didn't have enough respect for me to stay true to me...and with that lack of respect he also can figure that he has totally lost my trust. With out that trust I don't want the man in my home ever again.

Actually, in this case what you dont know can kill you. Or at least make you ill. Perhaps permantely. Im talking about V D. I would not want my life or health being taken for granted because someone selfish could not control themself. If they are fooling around it better be because they are thinking of leaving. They'd best be sure about it too coz they sure would not be alloewed back.

yes, i would want to know. don't like to be made a fool of.

Hi there! I would want to know the truth from my partner. I have heard about these sayings too. Yes it would be better not to get hurt but as another saying goes, there's no secret that's kept untold. Eventually truth will come out and it would hurt me more if I hadn't find about it sooner or from another person. It's like double cheating on me. Cheating because of another affair and cheating for not telling the truth. I would rather accept and get over it as soon as possible. And get over with the relationship too. Ciao!

Yup, I wouldn't want to be part of that myth that said that the spouse/partner is always the last one to know. I want to know about the other party, when and how the whole affair started, how long ago - the sooner I know, the easier for me to take action (if I want to). I suppose I would confront my spouse, punch him out - I'm not sure what action I'd take; seriously I've not thought about this.

in this case, i would like to know... ignorance is not a bliss to me anymore when it comes to cheating... i take cheating very seriously as it is similar like a betrayal... a betrayal of my trust... and if my hubby does this to me, don't expect me to ever trust him again for the rest of my life even if i can still accept him back and forgive him... take care and have a nice day...

I would want to know. And yes what you don't know can kill you. Too many diseases out there. And protection doesn't help all diseases such as herpes. Which there is no cure for either.

If my husband cheated, he** yes I'd want to know. I'd want to know if it was once or more and if it was still going on, how long had it been going on. He is taking a chance of giving me and std, that is information I need to know! I'd have to be tested for everything and he would need to be as well. If, and I mean if I forgave him I don't know that I would. I still have the right to know if I need to worry about anything. Is my marriage ending? Should I end it? Just because he's sleeping with someone else doesn't mean she is just sleeping with him, or did she have anything to begin with. Trust and respect would certainly be an issue.

There is a saying that truth will set you free. So knowing the whole truth is importance especially if something is fishy with your partner. In a relationship it is important that there is honesty and fidelity. It is good to open up the doubts and changes you notice with your partner.

Yes and no. Yes because my husband could now have a STD, like aids, and I wouldn't want to catch it. No, because it would kill me. And if it didn't kill me then I would kill him for cheating on me.

Yes I do believe that "ignorance is bliss" and "what you don’t know cant kill you BUT on a case to case basis. There are things we need not be ignorant about as that could kill us or might just put as in a very bad situation. There is also a saying that "Ignorance of the law does not excuse anyone" is it not? Now as to "what you don't know can't kill me" I can't apply that when it comes to a partner cheating on me. I would rather say "I should know what I should know because if I happen to know that from someone else I'll kill you!" I'm glad I have a good husband who in our 23 years of marriage has been faithful to me. I'm really very glad because I can't take being cheated sitting down. I could perhaps beat the mistress till her face becomes that of a dog and my husband... he can no longer enter our house or I'd shoot him! Ha!ha!ha!