How can we keep the child alive?

i don't have any kids yet at the moment... but when i do have one in the future, i will make sure that they will enjoy their childhood and not grow up too fast... my motto is let children be children... there will be a time when they have to grow up and become adults... but until that time come, i will let my children to enjoy their childhood and grow up naturally... take care and have a nice day...

I'm 17 years old and I don't know If I'll change to a grumpy adult when i grow up but here's what I think: Technology is draining our children to a bunch of geeky(no offense) children. I missed the times when kids were all outside and playing and chasing each other especially the time when there's rain they go out and dance in the rain (in my neighborhood) There was also a time that all the kids in my block knew each other.. I know them too because I play with them games like basket ball on the streets and sometimes just watch them. If ever I create a family... I'll play with my kids..I'll buy the gizmos BUT.. I'll play with them outside like pretend that we are soldiers or knights and go fight each other and I'll create colorful water balloons and we'll throw it at each other. And if we get dirty I'd probably hose my kids down while chasing them in the backyard. I'll hear their sweet soothing giggles and see their day brightening smiles. Hope I helped.

I Love it, The child in me has been hurt, but I still love the child, and miss my own children dearly... They don't know this because of the betrayal that hurt me so deeply...

I always stressed to my son that I wanted him to get out and enjoy life. I never let him sit in front of the TV for long periods of time, just because it was easier for me. I would encourage him to go outside and play with his friends.. use his imagination. My mother did that with me and some of my best childhood memories involve using my imagination. We were poor so I did not have fancy, expensive toys - I had no choice but to use my creative mind to have fun and I did. My son had more things available to him .. like video games and TV but I put a limit on them and he always had to ask permission before he could play a video game or watch TV. We also, always, made it a habit to play games together or watch movies together. I would get down on the ground and play cars or legos with my son, we would be creative together. So many parents, these days, are too busy for their children and then when their kids are teenagers, they wonder why their kids don't listen to them or respect them. This is the key - you need to start forming REAL relationships with them when they are little and work your way into the teen years. If you do it correctly, by the time they are teens - they will still listen and respect you because it's all they know and they have no reason not to. My son is now 18 but we still do a lot of fun things together. We still pull out the board games and stay up all night playing with a table full of his friends - munching on snacks and sodas. Or we go on trips together and just enjoy life. I feel blessed that he still wants me to be an active part of his life.

Hi TL Chimes...what a pleasure it is to connect with you...so much so I asked you to be a friend...and I haven't done that in awhile. Anyway, I was so impressed by the great response you offered at my site I wanted to drop by and chat more here. When I saw this discussion I could not resist it. Like you, I am a HUGE believer in nurturing our "inner kids" and keeping them thriving! I have three favorite quotes that I try to live by in my "youthing versus aging" mindset I have. The first one is:[i][b]You are only young once...but you can remain a kid forever. The one thing I constantly do to keep my child alive is to NEVER, EVER say "I am too old...for this that or ANYTHING." I am at an age where some are talking about their "golden retirement years". Crieky...what the hay is that about? I do not ever plan to retire....and do what? I am constantly reinventing myself and will do that until I take my last breathe. My inner kid knows that and so she keeps urging me to try this or that...at least once...and she keeps me young and I love her for it. The other is: "Growing older is mandatory...growing up is an option. The third is: How old would you be if you did not know how old you are?[/b][/i]With those three saying on wall around our home my hubby and I are committed to maintaining an ageless body/timeless mind as our lifelong intention. Being that we do not have kids we like to hang around with friends who like to laugh and kibitz around as much as we do..and their kids as well. When David and I see swings I run into the playground and swing...and have him push me when I cannot fly high enough on my own. Angels in the snow, making snow people, going out on hay rides and singing carols off key are other ways our kids come out to play. Putting on music singing as loud as we can...while strumming an imaginary guitar and seeing ourselves as rock stars...yep that is great fun for all of us. We do goofy things like chase each other around the house, have pillow fights, rough and tumble with our dog...hike, bike, swim, slide down slides...whatever any kid-like, fun loving thing that strikes our mood is how we keep our kids alive. We even have pet names for our inner kids to let THEM know...that WE know...they are there. I love this topic...thanks for posting it and allowing me to introduce our inner kids to yours. May they live long and keep us young at any age. Cheers, Raia

I think what you're doing is great. If a child doesnt enjoy his/her parents company, you can be sure he/she will turn out to be one of those who grow up too fast in life, become loney, anti-social, and have some kind of problems at home and school. Moreover, if the parents ignore their kids, due to work or some other reasons, the kids will grow up in a negative way, finding more pleasure in computer games, chatting onine and other non-recreational activities, and will try to stay away from their parents, enojying only when the parents are not home. Kids need care, and its wrong to accidentally let them grow up too fast. Happy mylotting.

I have little hope of keeping the child alive for long. Maybe 6, 7 or 8 yrs…after that its difficult. I too try to spend as much time with my son as possible, going shopping together, painting or watching movies, eating our favourite junk foods and so on…but the basic thing is that we cant really escape the change in our own lifestyle. Here I am (and hubby) working regular office hours, which means that I am never at home when he comes after school. Which also means that I have never been able to take him to the park or playground. It also means that study time between us is restricted to in the evenings only and with higher classes, tempers are getting frayed more often. Around us too, more and more highrises are coming up, gobbling up whatever green is left…so where do the children go to mix with their peers? Either at somebody’s home or the school…that’s all! Education too is becoming so competitive and children are expected to know so many things, where do they get the time to just fool around?

You know what, there were times when I wish that I never grew up. I like to ponder on my childhood memories now that I am an adult. It is so nice to realize that a child's life is far better than the adults'. It is so funny because when I was a child, I always wish that I am older already so that I can do things that adult can do. But seeing things now that I am already an adult, the feeling is no longer the same. There were financial problems, emotional problems and heart problems all along. I wish now that I never grew up at all. You need not worry about a lot of things. Your parents do that for you. You only care about what to play and whom to play with. I guess, that's the nature of man. We never get satisfied. We have so many wishes. We never get contented on what we have at the moment.

I am 38 & still the kid in me is alive. I guess we just need to enjoy the simple pleasures of life. Switch off the Television & internet for few hours every day & spend time with nature & people. I just saw a buch of school kids waving at everybody, it felt great to to wave back & wistle at them. I usually sing while driving it sure is better than turning on the radio.( if there are no one accompanying me ). I play with my hair while taking bath. but the best way to keep the kid live is spending time with kids. This keeps us young, we still enjoy the so called childish pranks & is extremly refreshing to be influenced by these innocent souls. board games & a stroll in the park are my favourites too.

good for you, what you are doing for your child is great,these are the best ways to keep the child alive and prolong their childhood I think.we should really think about this problem seriously and pay more attention to this,you just start a great discussion. Happy Mylotting TLChimes

Sounds very much in line with a wonderful book called Simple Abundance. I use it to teach classes, and highly recommend it. In it she gives suggestions for how to keep your inner child alive and foster this connection with your own children (if you have them). I keep a chocolate drawer, a toy box, a hope chest for my children, and do things that foster these. Having a sick day with your child, when you're not really sick, is a way in which you can foster the idea that life is not always about all of the work-it is about the play time, and the quality time with our children. Returning to those fun things we did as children, as suggested by the author of Simple Abundance, can help us to youthen ourselves, and reverse those signs of aging that we all face far too often from the daily stress of lives. I like taking my children out during the spring/early summer months to sit in the fields near by and just enjoy the nature. It's going back to those times as childs that we could become fixated upon such things as a cricket sitting quietly chirping, a butterfly fanning its wings on a milkweed plant in front of us, etc. I support full heartedly always making time for our own inner child so that we continue to stay young so that we are there longer for our own children.