Don't you just hate rude people?
By ahgong
@ahgong (10064)
Singapore
February 9, 2009 7:00pm CST
The worst kinds are the ones you have to work with.
There was a recent change in the roles of some of the team members I am working with.
And this new fella that was reassigned to take over one of the team members role came in the first day.
And he sent out a mail asking for access tot he resources.
Now, as it was nearing the end of last year, beginning this year, I was clearing my vacation dues. And the changes are in the other team, so I am not aware of it till I came back to work. So naturally, I would not know the existence of this new fella. Let's call him Joe.
Well, out of the blue, I was sent a mail with a one liner from Joe.
"Give me access to the resources"
I was thinking, who in the world are you?
So I wrote back, "Who are you?".
Joe replied "New web master".
I was thinking, you are the new guy. You have not been formally introduced, be it in person on through email. And you send a one liner expect me to know who you are?
With the days that follow, more similar rude emails follow.
This guy obviously did not do his homework and is not familiar with the systems under his care. And he is sending out emails to the people who are not suppose to be involved with the technical details of stuff. Giving an impression that nothing is being done at the back end!
I really feel like strangling this butt hole! 
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21 responses
@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 09
Hmm, rude people - I really have no time to entertain them. Because I've I do stop & confront them, I'd either be plain blunt or super sarcastic. So either the blunt or the sharp end hurts, so they can choose whichever treatment they like. But normally I don't waste my time on them as I have better things to do. Think of it this way, the definition of getting angry - being responsible for other people's fault? In your case - a caveman with minimal communication ability? Haha
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
12 Feb 09
Ha ha ha ha ha... I like your definition of the butt hole. a caveman with minimal communication ability indeed!
Well, other than the two methods you mentioned, there is not much else I can do.
So I have to grit my teeth and deal with this fella as it is a job requirement.
Well, other than the two methods you mentioned, there is not much else I can do.
So I have to grit my teeth and deal with this fella as it is a job requirement.1 person likes this
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
10 Feb 09
Hello ahgong! I don't hate rude people, I feel sorry for them. I have met one rude girl here in mylot. I have my 10 star here but when the girl started to respond to my discussion, it went down from 96 to 86. She replied to one of my discussions and she's using cursing words. I just told her that I respect and accept her opinion but then I found out that she's been following my activity and she even commented to one response I have to one of my friends. I don't know why she's like that. I didn't do anything bad to here. All I can say is wish her luck. I know she's trying to pull me down. I really feel sorry for her for being so insecure..
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
10 Feb 09
yes, you're right..maybe she just jealous of what I have achieved here for a short period of time..thank you for the response chanel girl..
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
10 Feb 09
yes, you're right..she's still active here. I suspect that she's following all my activity and rate me negative..well, God bless her..
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@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
10 Feb 09
Oh my goodness! There is no excuse for that kind of behavior - especially somewhere where there is a team atmosphere. Is there any way you can speak with this person and explain email conduct? I think there are business classes which teach cell phone and email conduct - maybe you can enroll this person.
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@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I'm glad you appreciated my input but it was real! There really are classes and seminars for these people... So maybe you can't enroll this person and you say you're not a supervisor but you're still a person! I find it hard to believe that a company would want such ill manners in their workforce. It just doesn't make for good business.
@jodie_warner06 (30)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I can not stand rude people, I just want to be like what the eff is your problem!? The other day, fully dressed I went to Ross and Old Navy and as I was crossing the LARGE parking lot a guy yelled at me to "put more clothes on!" Referring to me being fat. I know Im fat, no one has to tell me...Im well aware and I had just started my diet! I cried all the way home silently behind my oversized sunglasses...at first I didnt even know he was talking to me since I WAS fully dressed and NOTHING was hanging out! But I looked around and there were no other people in the parking lot...and he did what makes me the maddest...he called me "girl". I HATE being called girl! Im a freakin woman, a lady, a anything that refers to a grown female, NOT a girl!
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
10 Feb 09
Wow... that was mean~!
If I were you, I would have retorted back, "Put your glasses on" and give him the international finger!
Or told him to go look in the mirror!
He should have minded his own business!
Otherwise, I would have noted his car number down and reported him to the police for harrassment!
Do not mind them. I too am a very big sized man. And am loving my size no matter what others tell me. What that man said is not important. What is important is your spouse (assumimg you are married) loves you for who you are. Nothing else matters.
@jodie_warner06 (30)
• United States
10 Feb 09
Well...see, Im not married. I had a common law marriage that lasted 3 months got pregnant, and he left me for a girl two years younger than me and much thinner...meaning she was barely 18. Now they have a kid together too...making his count 3 kids and hes only 26-27 years old! So Ive been trying this whole trying to feel sexy and pretty thing despite what happened between my ex and I...and trying to lose weight, but those types of things just reinforces why he left me for her :( Thats all I could think about that day was how awful my body must look for a stranger to say something to me. IDK how Im ever going to find a good man at my size.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
11 Feb 09
Now now now... don't go crying all the time when you look at the mirror.
What matters about a person is not his or her size. What matters is how confident he or she is about herself!
A person who carries herself with a lot of confidence is much much more attractive than some one who is not.
So, don't let that rude bugger affect your mood.
You are who you are and you are happy about it. What can he do about it?
Once you are confident about yourself, you will feel good. And when you feel good, you will start to be able to achieve everything you are setting out to do. 
@lovelyrita (53)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
well my friend, as sad as it may seem there are always people like that in every job you get, in all the offices in the world, in all the organizations in this planet! sad to think but true, there will always be a bad tomato if not a bunch. sometimes i wonder is it so hard to put one's self into another's shoes? i think that if people would think that way then there would be less rude people in the world....
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@lovelyrita (53)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
look around you. are there nice people that surround you? they could have done really simple things like give you paper clips (they gave them to you coz they thought my it's hard not to have those little thingamajigs when you do need them)or another office mate asking you for lunch (because it's a bit tough to eat alone)or your friend saying hi to you (thinking it would be nice to say hi and that he thought of you today). you could only do so much counting. but who wants to keep count? what matters is that you DO put yourself in another's shoes and hope that you influence the person next to you. = )
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
oh yes... i also dislike rude people... i usually ignore them and pretend that they do not exist... those people just not worth of my time and i don't want to have anything to do with them... if they can't speak to me nicely, why should i entertain them??? it will be my loss... and i have better things to do with my time rather than to entertain those rude people... take care and have a nice day...
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
11 Feb 09
Like I said in an earlier post, it is easy to do that if you do not have to deal with him again.
Problem arises when you have to deal with him on a daily basis.
That is where the frustration starts.
Will see how things go. If he is rude beyond tolerance, he will be chided accordingly!
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I find it very humorous how people can be so rude in an email. Then you meet them in person, and it is a totally different personality. I don't think that people realize how they come off in an email, or online in general.
Rude people do get on my last nerve though. Whether it be at work, with family or friends, or even while I am shopping and it is someone I don't even know.
My worst pet peeve, is when I say pardon me to someone who is actually the one who is in the way, and they reply with uh-huh. I think, you're agreeing with me. You should be saying, No I'm sorry - Excuse me. That is the worst reply that you can give someone when they say Pardon Me in my opinion.
Ok, sorry I had to vent. Thanks for starting this discussion, and have a good evening. Hopefully, Joe being an IT guy will figure out his email manners!
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
13 Feb 09
I know exactly what you mean.
There are also those who will walk like they frigging own the road. And when they knock into you, they will give you a rude stare expecting you to apologize to them instead. The nerve of some people eh?
Well, Joe had better be learning fast. If not, it is going to be a difficult uphill task trying to work with him on future projects.
@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I don't like rude people either. I rather have them be polite. I don't want them to turn into traitors either.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
10 Feb 09
lol =D Take learn to give and take ^_^ He does not know u are the senior in the company and he has offended u.. hehe ^_^ Be it, unknowingly or on purpose, u will know more about him in days to come.. hehe ^_^
New guys to the company are always like especially when they think that they are the specialist in some areas of work and thus that gives them the attitude to treat everybody with no respect.. haha =D But overtime, he will regret it and by time, it will be your turn to show him, what respect is all about ^_^
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
I hate rude people. Especially those who are so rude to the elderly people. I hate seeing someone who lost respect to their elders. It really sends fire on my body. They never thought that we will all go there- being old.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
10 Feb 09
Where did your company find such a rude fellow to be a web master ? He need to attend 'manner class' before he is put into that position, lol!! Rude people is very irritating , i can understand your situation completely, it will be very stressful for you daily.
cheer!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I don't like rude people either. It's even worse in a business environment. Sometimes people are very insensitive when it comes to communicating with others and it makes it hard for us who care about the way we come across or are taken by someone else. It's also hard to deal with when you think that someone is not qualified or has no idea the job they have been given.Just hang in there. Maybe he'll come sround. If not..you may have to strangle him..lol..j/k..
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@jshekhar (1562)
• India
10 Feb 09
There are people who are outwardly rude and whom you just hate from the very first sight. However, there are people who have been treated very rudely all their life by their colleagues, friends and even parents. Thus, they treat everyone else rudely. I do not really hate these kind of people, but I sympathize with them.
All said, I still believe that you are not supposed to treat others rudely if you have been treated that way, because you are not helping matters this way.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
11 Feb 09
Well, there are rude people. And there are professional people.
Those who think being rude will get things done are wrong.
Dealing with rude people amicably is more professional. And is what we are paid for in the first place.
There is a place and time for everything. I am sure there will be some one who will put this rude fella in his proper place. But I am definitely not the one to do it.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
oh. presko. lol
you should've stranggled him when you got the chance - wait. let me rephrase that.
whenever you have a chance. LOL.
well, sometimes you're the dog. sometimes, you're th hydrant. but whenever cases like this happens. i would be really sarcastic to that person in every encounter. just to give him/her the taste of his/her own medicine.
just don't stoop down to his level. not, at all, worth it.
kind of reminds me of our supervisor. beechee. lol
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
10 Feb 09
how in heck did he get the job if you guys under him are supposed to train him how to do it? doesn't sound fair at all. He actually sounds like a jerk. New bosses..good ones anyway usually introduce themselves and tell you a bit about them and their expectations as well as inquire about you. Sounds like your in for a fun experience...good luck with this one.
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I try not to hate people, but rude people make it hard for me not to. I work in a restaurant, and people get rude with us all the time over CHICKEN! For God's sake people, if you are going to get rude with someone, do it over something a little more important in life than a chicken sandwich! These people irritate the hell out of me. Do they not realize that there are other more important things in life? I would say that 99% of the people I deal with from day-to-day at work are actually a pleasure to deal with. As a general rule, I have a lot of fun at work, but it is that ONE PERCENT of people that make my job harder than it really has to be.
I actually make a conscientious effort to try not to be rude to people when I am out and about each day, and I try my best not to be rude to people here on MyLot, although I do not always succeed here on MyLot no matter how hard I try...
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I really do not like rude and ignorant people. I wish that people would just have respect for others. There is not need for certain actions by people. I believe that I want to treat others as I would like them to treat me.
I would just try to ignore and move on to something else when it comes to the matter you have brought up.
@Maggiezhou0223 (85)
• China
10 Feb 09
ah that's really sucks...And yeah,i hate rude people,they're really annoying,but there are lots of people like this Joe,so i guess i am used to face people him
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