Trust

Does he routinely do things that test your faith in him and cause you to not trust him, or is this something that happened in the past? If he made a mistake in the past and has been working hard with you to repair the relationship, then I think he deserves to regain your trust. If you absolutely cannot trust him ever again, I would suggest that you can never really be happy in this relationship, no matter what you do, and you should move on. Sounds harsh, but think about your future together. How happy will you be if you always think "what if" in the back of your mind?

Hi there, We usually get what we focus on in life, and in fact it tends to expand. In addition, reality is usually the event of what we observe and focus. If you truly want to eliminate the lack of trust then you need to change your limiting beliefs. This is easy to do, especially when you know how. People think it takes a long time to change, it doesn't. The second thing you need to do once you have changed your perceived limiting beliefs is to focus on what you would really like to feel with your husband, and get yourself into alignment with that. I would suggest you flood your body with the images and experiences you have had with your partner where you trust him. One has to open our hearts to love, otherwise all that is present is FEAR, fear is an acronym for FALSe Expectation Appearing Real. Your survival instinct is your breaker switch. ie, it kicks in to prevent you from experiencing a deeper love with your partner. Good luck, check out my profile and my website.

Your so thinking, worried and expectation so much to your husband. If you trust a person you loved, no if's no but's or doubt in back of your mind just trust a person heartily so you have a peace of mind and not hurt again. I know its hard to trust again to someone when he/she broke it but give him/her a chance again but not much co'z i know he/she will be aware already not to broke the trust you give.

If you know each other for so long it means you know each other quite well so you must be knowing that whether he is that kind of a guy who can break your trust or not and most importantly you both are in a relationship for so long so it means you love each other and will be with each other right. So if you have love each other and you are happy with each other than there is no question of breaking of trust it`s just people seek love from someone else when they aren`t happy with each other but in your case that`s not the questions. So get rid of your insecurities and just make the most of your relationship.....

Well I feel when there is love in a relation nothing creeps in between... Forget about that it would definitely help your relation...Dont think about such silly things...

I know the feeling. Im struggling so hard also at the moment to trust someone i love, he aint the one who damaged my trust, but cant help it. Im in doubts most of the time and its not easy.

This is tough. I want to say I've been in your shoes . My husband and I have been married for 4 years and this year will be the 5th. However prior to our marriage, being engaged, my husband did cheat. Its painful and by far very hard to get over, and trust the person for a long time. However, it is possible. I know I was reading some of the other comments below and I don't think some people can get through this...but if you both truly love one another and you can talk through it there is hope. Try taking some marriage counseling and you'll need to let him know he will have to earn your trust back. He needs to apologize and you need to forgive...the impossible? No, just going to be hard, but life isn't easy. You have to work hard to get what you want and it has to be a team thing...if you really want your marriage to work, you'll both pull through this Hoping for the best!!!

You should always trust the person your married to. If not, see a therapist or something.

One of the most important ingredients in a happy relationship is trust. When you trust your partner, love comes with it. When you don't trust him that much, love is less. Trust can be damaged, broken and repaired numerous times. But it's hard to retrieve the original trust. We all knew that that there is no such thing as perfect relationship. No such thing as perfect partner. Loving someone, means you are bound to be hurt sooner or later. It's just a matter of time. But by through this difficult situation, the relationship would be tested,of how far it would go. Of how both partners would survive the test. Many times in our entire life we will be able to face trust issues. It may include our family, friends and partners. As long that we are willing to trust one another, we will all survive.

Have ou ever pointed this out and discussed with him? Trust is one of the important things in the relationships. IF you don't trust each other, the relationships will go bad very easily...

Trust is inevitably the most important recipe of a relationship... Maybe better communication would do the trick...

Yea, i admit its hard to trust again after you've been fooled. Once you've been fooled, you wanted to change everything between you, but still your heart is just for him. I had encountered that thing so many times, but still at the end, its him and me who'll fix it up and bring back together. In a relationship, expect the unexpected. It's an unconditional love you must learn how to handle. Both of you must be responsible, because if only one is just responsible for both of you, your relationship may collide. Be strong, learn to consider such things and learn to understand. We're not perfect, if he cheated you at once talk to him sincerely, try to control your anger, it's the anger that made everything complicated. But its not the same with the person who always cheated at you, try to look at yourself, if you love him, he must love you too. Women are made by God, to be loved by men.

to have a good relationship of course you must learn to trust..i do believe that love can always be there but trust when once break is hard to gain again..i think in your situation you should give yourself a chance to give back your trust to your husband...try to overcome those issues that bother you by talking or having an open conversation with your husband..try to settle things with him that seems bothering to you so you both could resolve things and have a better foundation of that so called love..^^

Give him the trust you think he deserves, but if/when he does something to break it, don't hold back by ripping into him, and don't give him your trust back. Ever. Trust is something that needs to be respected.

TRUST is really important in having a healthy relationship. You said you have moved on, then be firmed about it. Don't let the past ruin with what you have right now. As long as you see your husband is concentrating in loving you more and more everyday, then you can't let that ONE thing that happened in your marriage be a burden to TRUST your husband fully again. It may sound so easy but hard to do. I am in the same boat as you but I don't let that one STORM be a TROPHY of not trusting my husband any more. It takes two to develop trust in the relationship and if only one is doing the work then you can not expect that things will get better for you. Take care.

Trust is foundation of marriage.In your daily life, you should underatand and trust each other. You have overcome so many difficulties, so you must cherish your marriage. You should have faith in yourself. Don't guess widly. It will bother your life, if you do so. Besides, learn to communicate with your huaband, and remove misunderstanding.

for my opinion, trust is the most impotant thing in a relationship, if you take away the trust even for 1%, it's all end up for nothing. feelings will not grow, mind will be scattered, and you will never feel the love of your partner, if your having a hard time to trust peolple, just go away for the relationship because wihout it, it will ruin the good relationship!you dont have to try to build it, DO IT!

patience is the best medicene for every relationship.... if a rubber is pulled from one side it is to be loosened from other side... so that it wont break.... and finally... we ourselves have to decide wether we wont a partner for life time or wont to be alone

i think i can sense what you're trying to say, well, what can i advice you is - remember the nike slogan - just do it. You'll never know if you never try the things you have in your mind... after all life is all about trial and error. try to LET GO... either let go of the doubt, or let go of the trust. It's up to you but the way you put it in your story, your relationship is worth saving, so you really have to work on regaining the trust. And I hope this guy is worth your sacrifices. But remember there is no guarantee that "right thing to do" will yield the "right results"... Hard to explain. I hope you understand. You just never can tell what will happen next. JUst trying to share my point. *smile*

hai rachelg, i wanna tell u onething that u believe every one and be faithfull but always has 1%doubt on everyone sothat when something happen wrong u will not hurt that much and always ready to worst so whatever will happen in ur life will be good. best of luck for ur relation be happy and grow strongly from ur bad times.