Is it bad to look for a job for a 17 year old like me?

@knyn23 (71)
Philippines
March 3, 2009 12:10pm CST
My mom won't let me have part time job or something. She says I don't need to go to work, we're not that rich, about above average. My Dad says, He doesn't want me working until he can't go to work anymore. Is it bad to look for a job?
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@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I don't see nothing wrong with working at 17. Most 17 year olds when in high school do take on a part time job. It teaches alot of responsibility and money managemant. I don't see why your parents won't let you. Maybe you should explain to them why you want to work. It can be a simple tutoring job if that. Good luck.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I am not sure which country you originate or which country's culture you follow, but in America teenagers often find jobs so that they can earn and save to move out of the house. I don't think that it is bad, but I think that you should express why you want a job clearly, and then I guess if you aren't sure whether you'll stay at home or not, or whether it will be allowed to leave, then well just talk to them about that too.
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@knyn23 (71)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
i'm from philippines.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Oh okay, from what I understand on this forum, filipino's (did I spell that correctly?) still live at home as a group family, even with their spouses later. Am I correct in my assumption? I do not mean to offend.
@knyn23 (71)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
yeah. it's okay. you're right, we filipinos are soooooo tooo much family oriented..
@mymytri (2030)
• India
4 Mar 09
i think Nothing wrong in doing a part time job.In some countries teenagers go to part time job.You're from philippines and i dont know your culture.Tell them slowly why you want to work and it will make you independent and active.I hope they will understand you in future.Happy posting.
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@djemba (767)
• India
3 Mar 09
Well its the same for me and i strongly feel like doing a art time job for some pocket money.I don't know if its right but my parent's opinion match totally ..I don't believe it's bad because it could make us some money at this moment of crisis and gives us some industrial exposure . But parents don't want us t because they think it'll divert our minds from our course study and eventually detriment our grades...
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@jazz_123 (211)
3 Mar 09
Hiya, no it isn't bad at all. It's independent and makes you want to earn and get out there, which is good. Perhaps you should talk to them more, and tell them that there is nothing to worry about and you just want to support yourself so you don't have to depend on them. your 17, so your old enough and capable enough, so yeah it should be okay, if you talk to them about it. hope this helps! speak soon and happy mylotting! :) xx.
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@kdinjax (25)
• United States
4 Mar 09
No it is not bad i had my first job at 16 it part time .My parents told me i had to find a job. As long as you promisr them that you will keep up with your school and stuff it should not be a problem.
• United States
4 Mar 09
I think you need to talk to your parents more about wanting to work . To me there is nothing wrong with someone your age getting a part time job. It teaches you to be independent and how to handle money . However if you are lacking in your grades the grades come first . One more thing is if you are in alot of other activities , between those , and study , a job might be too much for your right now . Maybe that is what your parents are concerned about . Remember your going to have a whole life ahead of you for working , maybe your parents are right to say , Worry about grades and enjoying being a kid first .
@prasanta (1948)
• India
14 Mar 09
I feel everyone should be encouraged to stand on his/her own feet. Your dad should realize that bad times do not come after giving notice. So, if you get a job, you must accept that to gain experience.
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Its both. I say enjoy your youth it goes by really fast and if you don't have to work then don't. Do really well at school b/c that will be over before you know it and then later in life after you did really well in school and got a job then you can repay your parents. If you really want a job then explain to your parents why you want to work. Make sure you let them know that your grades won't slip then you promise that you would quit your job if they do. Good luck.
• Pakistan
7 Mar 09
No it is not bad to look for a job for a 17 year old. God has not born us or any one as poor person. God gift us 24 golden coins in a day and night. those 24 golden coins are 24 hours a day and night. We should utilize them to earn the money or something like money. we should keep ourselves busy at every moment of time of our life. Job is a sort of keeping you busy. we should keep ourselves busy in some useful work. I think 17th year is best time of our whole life. And we should cash that time as much as we can. so I would say sorry to your dad to oppose his statement and I would like to advise you that you should work at any moment of your life if you can. wish you best of luck.
@jsitko (1169)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Hi knyn, I had my first job after school at the age of 15 with a worker's permit. It was only a few hours after school, but it put money in my pockets. Then as I turned 16 I found a different job after school that would also let me work more hours on the weekends and during school breaks. My parents were not that happy with me getting a job and just wanted me to concentrate on my school work and being a teenage. They said that I would be grown up enough real soon to have to have a job, just enjoy life now and be with your friends. They were not saying I was not grown up, but they knew that I did not really need to work and I should relax and not get too much stress too early in life. However, I talked them in to letting me get a job as long as my grades stayed up and they did. If your parents do not want yo to get a job yet, it just may be that they are thinking of you and that the responsibility of having a job, paying bills will all come too fast for you. Just relax and enjoy life and the free time you would have with your friends and social life. In a few years you will lose some of that.
@nini89 (670)
• India
10 Mar 09
Its a good idea to go for a job and you can earn something. I cant understand why your mom and dad not allowing. I think you are only the son and they have the idea that you should be well educated and get into a good job when you grow up. My son is also 17 and he doesn't want to go for a job. Now his exams got over and sitting idle at home. If you all start working then you come to know the value of the working and the financial management.Happy mylotting and have a nice day.
• United States
8 Mar 09
I did not have a job at 17, though I do not see anything wrong with it. Perhaps they are wishing for you to be more concerned with your studies. There should never be a rush to grow up. I know it sounds appealing when it seems everyone is making your choices for you, but it is a lot more tough then all let on.
@benny128 (3615)
7 Mar 09
no everyone should work from the age of 16/17 it teaches you the value of hard work. I am very surprised that your parents dont want you working as when my little ones become big ones I will be encouraging them to work and to be financially independant.
@kirei24 (251)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Of course its not bad. you just want to help your family. Its just that maybe your mom doesnt want you to to focused on something like your studies. For sure, your mother have a good reason why she doesnt want you to get a job. Try to ask her why
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I think young people should work. That way they learn that making money is not as easy as they think it is. You hve a responsibility to be there everyday, sick or not, wanting to go in or not. You also learn to manage your money and will realize quickly that when you want something it doesn't mean you can get it when you want to. You could also give your parents money for rent...or save half of your money for things you'll need later...like a house, clothes, car, etc. Your parents probably want to save you from that resposiblity for now. It's not nesscesary for you to work. But it would be good for you to go ahead and work to learn this responsibility before it's needed later and your not thrown into a siuation that you won't be ready for.
@loneleaf (165)
• China
6 Mar 09
I think your parent have their reason, if I were at your position, I should also have the impuse to do parttime job. But if we think this thing by standing at your parent's positon, I think I have the same opinion as your parent's. Every parent hope their son or daughter go through a better life than them and make their best to get their dreams come ture, so about your wonder, I want to share you the opinion is that pls respect your parent's choice and make more time on your course or promotion!
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
5 Mar 09
It sounds like your parents want to keep you as their baby forever. At 17 it is about time to try some adult activities like a part time job. Do you want to be kept forever by your parents. Maybe there is a cultural thing going on here.
• South Africa
5 Mar 09
There is nothing wrong with getting a job at 17. I worked in a bakery. You need to start getting yourself into the working world and learn to be independent etc. Go for it!
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
no it is not bad to look for a job. for me, the advantages of earning your own money are: 1. you get to appreciate and know the value of money, of learning to pay for your own car, house, bills, etc. 2. learn to be independent from our parents, when you grow older, you need to stand on your own, raise your own family and there is also a feeling of accomplishment if you were able to get a work on your own because you are qualified and good at your chosen field =)
@Jamton (118)
5 Mar 09
I think's its brilliant that you want to work at 17, I've beenw orking since I was 13, paper rounds and such like, then onto work in a supermarket, then to a call centre, and now I'm unemployed and I feel so useless. Having a job makes you feel independant, and also haveing previous expreience of a working environment is essential when looking for a job as you get older. I think you should still look for one, but try and explain to your parents why you want to work.