Why We aRe sO AfRAid oF rEjectiOnS?
By jhoannejoj
@jhoannejoj (963)
Philippines
March 10, 2009 4:52am CST
Last Sunday night, I and my sister watched a movie HE IS NOT THAT INTO YOU. Throughout the movie we laughed and agreed to some of the insights that the movie reflected. Its true that when our friends are dismayed of their dates who did not call nor text them, we said some excuses like maybe he's out of town that he has no signal at all or maybe he's initimated by how beautiful or successful are you. And then our friends accepted those excuses when in fact at the back of our minds, there's a truth shouting HES NOT THAT INTO YOU. We cant just deal the rejections that we try to convince ourselves with the excuses that we cant think of. Or as a friend we can not tell to their face the hurtful truth of rejections of dating and relationship brings. Funny but those are just so true.
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6 responses
@searchingwithin (31)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Rejection hurts, because we perceive it as we are a failure, and not being good enough...something must be wrong with us.
We all think that we choose our partners and the people that we desire to have relationships with consciously, by choice, when in actuality, most of the choosing is done subconsciously through many filters, which is too extensive an explanation to explain here, but I write about it on my relationship blog.
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Good point searchingwithin.. Maybe i could visit your blog. Relationship is such so broad and complex to understand. Thanks for responding.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
yeah i was and still am somehow afraid of rejections. i think this fear is the root cause why i have shied away from a lot of people even from the nicest people i have met in my life. that is why i have not much friends. wish i was not afraid before so that i have more good friends. but it is still in the past. hopefully i will still have the chance to meet those former friends that i have avoided though they tried to reach out to me many times before cause i felt that time that i am not really worthy of them.
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Of course you have a chance hotsummer to meet and rekindle old friendships and to develop a new one. Goodluck and thanks for the response.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
10 Mar 09
at some point of time in life it happens and we find some people on the way who dont like us or may be there is any reason that they would avoid or reject us and i purely believe that whatever happens it happens for good and sometimes even we dont like anyone or something which we try to be away froma nd hence the same with others too and it is absolutely on our choice we do this and all have this way and they can select and deny anyone but yes it is a little hurting when this happens but this is life and we have to move forward and continue life.
