friends for life???

Darrell, you sound like a great friend who really treasures the things that count most. It is really hard sometimes when you are hurt so badly and the "friend" does not want to stick through through thick and thin. I SO agree with buggles. Both friends have to VALUE the friendship as precious for it to be the best. You see things a little different if you have an illness in your family and you see how people who you thought were friends dont come around or even call. Not that you wish any thing or harm to them, but it makes you really find the ones who are true friends!

you are right. the illness will bring out some real sides of "friends" that we may even be shocked by. people shy from things they sometimes do not understand. I have a few that stepped back but i am still there to help them if they should ever call on me. Again, it is just my heart. Thank you writing more you seem to be a kind soul. Hugsssssssssss Darrel

you know what, you said it right. Stop and say the saying as I truly do many times. I ask what would Jesus do and I know he would turn away from no one that was in need. Thank you for reading and writing. Darrel

ive been good.. been busy trying to get stuff done in real life so i havent been on mylot much but hopefully i will get caught up eventually lol.. i need to really hit editing on my book since its way too long but i just cant seem to get my mind on it right now.. i hope you have been doing well

Hello sweet lady... Hugssssssssssssss, so nice to see you here. smilessssssss You are right in so many ways. You know that you and I share the same mind. Most of what we do, the other has done or will do... lol. To be stabbed over and over is going to eventually destroy what could have been or once was a great friendship. Even for me, there would be a cut off point but yes, starting out with the understanding that hurts would be talked about right away will help to hold off the "festering" issues that start tiny and one on one on one becomes so huge it explodes. By that point it isnt normally the little thing at the end that truly was the issue, it was something long before that, maybe even half forgotten. As the saying goes, it isn't the last missed day that got you fired, it was the 3 before that... Hugssssssssss to you and my goodness, it really is great to see you here... let me know how you have been............. Always, D ;) and Great Pics.....

Throughoutthis reading of peoples comments, I thought about that. There IS a huge difference in friends and an aquaintance and you are very right. It is unsafe and perhaps a bit unwise to keep thise that hurt or deceive you in a "circle" of friends. But... I do believe the adgae of "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer."

Oh, I definately support that saying. If not close, at least a close watchful eye on them. It is sad though that we even have such problems as humans. I suppose it is one of our failings as a species. Namaste-Anora

I guess I could not ever do that. Friendships are precious and yes, the spreading rumors would be hard and some might say that friends wouldnt do those things but they do and it happens and you deal with it. If they have been your friend for 20 years and were "dumped" so quickly, I question how much of a friend they were. I wish you always the best. Darrel

well as what the joke says " we only need two friends, one that is fat so that somebody would make us thinner and one that is poor so that somebody would makes us richer"..and of course it is just a joke.. Seriously, I don't need a lot friends that can't be trusted..man's got to know his limitations, I'd rather have few but can stick through thick and thin.

There is somehow a difference in being hurt personally and someone hurting our family. I agree with you that in that case I would need to distance myself.Thank you for reading and for your great comment. Darrel

and i am so sorry for your hurt this way. I have not seen that point and hope i dont need to. Thank you for your rsponce here. every opinion or thought helps me see different sides.

Against all odds yes, but... if you take the chance and go all in with your bet, think of the reward if you win... and the experience if you dont.. Life lessons are there for a reason... Always, Darrel

First hugssssssssssssss to you for the kindest of words here. They mean so much to me and I have tucked them in my heart for safe keeping. Your words are true in that my heart wont allow hatred to seep in. If it ever does, it is coupled with Anger that someone had taken me to the point of hate. then begins the domino effect of the anger bringing on sadness and sadness bringing on questioning once ownself etc...I Love with a Passion so strong and there fore would hate with the same passion and so I steer clear of it. Sadly, with this heart comes those that would take advantage of it, knowing I can not hate and would not walk away. The waters are tried and tested and retried, sometimes as a child would touch a vase they wewre told not too... to see if they will get away with it again. Many hard hurts have come my way this way but still, I love them and would hold them or comfort them all over again, even at the risk of being hurt again. I have many many friends and in reality could NOT do things this way and have some truest of friends but then who helps those I walked away from in their hour of need?I simply can NOT walk away, ever. If I loved you yesterday before a hurt then I will still love you tomorrow after the hurt. There is enough hatred in the world... I don't want to add to it. The song from wayyyyy back inmy "hippie" days {lol} comes to mind. "What the world needs now, is Love sweet love, thats the only thing that there is just too little of..." If you show a Tiger Love, he may still eat you but you may have been the Only love he ever knew. And that will be your legacy. believe me, being bipolar opens up a whole world of people that can be cruel and hurtful. I take it with stride and try my best to love and give love where it is asked for. As for you, and accepting you as a lifelong friend??? That is already done beautiful lady. No matter what happened in our lifes, you have cemented a place in my heart forever. Always, Darrel

sadly, i think this is where people get hurt the worst. Some hurts are only made to feel worse because they Are committed by those we call friend. We set our friends almost at an inhuman status and then if they do hurt us we are devistated. As was mentioned by someone earlier here, they are human and make human mistakes too. Life happens to even the loyalist of friends and cause them to sometimeshurt us. The strength of our love says it all and will sustain us through the rough waters if we want it too.

I too have hurt some friends and even some loves in my life.I am thankful they found it in them to forgive me and remain my friend. Sometimes we go though places in our lives that open doors that we should have shut right away. It seeems our friends are the ones that feel it. But if the friendship is built on solid ground, it will withstand the storms.

you are so very right. We can forgive and even I know that there may come a happening that I can not look away from. But I know in my heart of hearts that I will Still want to know how they are and pray for them and that my door will still be open should they need a place to be. It's just my heart...

you are right. the hurt is there and you will be more cautious of the possibility of hurt but the friendship can still be true.To forgive is not always to forget. Darrel

Nicely written and yes the saying is true. No greater friend than the one that needs you... smilessssssssssss...

Thank you for reading this hugssssssss... Have a great day and enjoy your time here at MyLot... Always, Darrel

well put.there are times when we need to simply erase and start over. Thank you or this.

nothing wrong with that heart at all. hugssss but yes, it seems that once a friend hurts us and finds that we are still with them, they woill hurt us again at times. It really comes down to our choice and if we are still there, then we chose to be there. thank you for your responce. Darrel

You and I would get along perfectly. I am this very way and no matter what circumstances come that cause our issues, I would forgo them if they were ever in need. But if everrrrrr they tried to harm me physically or my family, I would be done. Even pacifists have their moments smilessssssssssssss... Thank you for writing... Always

I agree and I think that there very possibly, again other than physical hurting, is no permanent saying goodbye. As my Beloved taught me before she went to heaven, "There is never goodbye, Only see you later."

I fully agree that everything has a season and a reason. Thank you for writing here. Darrel

I think this screams out perfectly "I'll forgive but I will never forget." Perhaps that is a safety net we put up inside of us to protect us against the same person hurting us time and time again. Thank you for writing.