'Mate Poaching' - What is Your Say About This?

I guess this phenomenon occured maybe for one or two of these reasons: 1. women outnumbered men. So men by nature is scarce. so women's tendency is to get committed men in order to have a partner. fighting over rarity. lol 2. To get somebody who is commited and be successful with it, is a thrill. 3. Commited men are hard to get men. 4. Commited men as you had said has the ability to commit. 5. Commited men is either handsome or possessing a great personality, or else he is not in anyway commited (think about it) 6. Ladies sometimes doesn't have the choice.

As a man I would say that the result of the research is flawed. In any research there is always a margin of error. It depends among other things the people chosen to be part of the research. This factor strongly influences the result. It is highly likely that the original motive of the research was to find out why there are women who prefer married men. Therefore every subject chosen does prefer married men, but with different reasons. The conclusion should have been written in a different way, instead of making a general statement. A true relationship is not based on a pretty face.

I guess it is true...I was married for 12 years and had 2 children, when a woman moved in on my husband (now X). I thought he was as true as true could be. But I told him long before we were married, I would not live with a cheater. And I will not fight for a cheater. If the other woman wants to live with the fact he left his wife and children for her. that it would be possable that He would leave her too sometime down the road. They are still married, only due to the fact that she works the same shift and plant he works and has the same days off... so she is with him 24/7. And also on the other hand. He has to worry, how long it will be. before she is working her charm on some other married man. I gave him everything I could. And that is one thing I really beleive in...is you don't mess with a person that is taken..There are too many out there that are not. And you don't want to know what I think of weman that move in on married men...or even men that move in on married weman. To me it is a BIG BIG NO NO. They only think of themselves and never give a thought about what they are doing to what was a happy home or the children in that home

I can't speak for anybody else, but that wouldn't be for me. It would basically be like asking to be hurt. No thanks.

I don't think it's so much that women want to go after men that are in a relationship but that it's attractive to see a man who is mature enought to commit and love another woman. I think women who are ready for a committed relationship want a man who is at the same place in their life, therefore I can see how they can be attracted to man who has a 'mate'. A woman in that stage of life needs to recognize why they are attracted to a man in a functioning relationship and look for a single guy who has the same characteristics.

i read an article nearly identical to that one except it was the other way around men targeting women that are already in a relationship what crazy psycho mind games can we humans think up of next?

I have to agree with you on all the above. First of all how committed is a man if he is in a relationship and then gets involved with someone else? That isnt commitment in my book. I also would never be the other woman, I just think it is low classed and it has been proven over and over that almost always the man does not leave the wife. I love how they have a name for cheaters now .. lol

Hello! I am sure some women would like that but not me . I would want a man that is free and that would not cheat or hurt anyone else , ya know what I mean . Sure, It happens you meet someone who is in a relationship and that is hard, but it can be okay in the end for everyone.

I think there is a lot of that going on today. Women seem to be fascinated by what is not readily available to them. One of my old boyfriends would get girls commng after him the most when he told them he was in a relationship. Actually it can work both ways, men do it too. It seems they like the game of challeneg to see who is the better person. I don't like it or agree with it \, but it is out there.

I have also read about this fact oindy,and it is quite amazing as to how this matter enfolds in itself, I also have one friend who had chosen a married man to love instead of a bachelor and whe we asked her why she says he is already experience so no need to waste time on that and simply because a family man is much better to take up responsibility than a bachelor. I do not appreciate this conception because my friend failed to understand that before this man is a family man he was a bachelor and he and his wife both gave effort to make it a family so she could have found a bachelor too and start from the start itself instead of destroying the house of another to build yours. As he has left his wife he can obviously be leaving my friend too as you said but if only she could have understood that only. Like my friend I am concious that there are so many girls and woman around to think like her so hope their thinking will change a bit.

Yeah I agree with your opinion on this... I mean even if I think a committed man is physically attractive and/or I like his personality, I would never pursue him! I wouldn't want to be with the kind of guy who would leave me whenever another offer came along! This seems terribly impractical and contradictory...

While there is the whole commitment thing, I think really we are the same as men in this, its more that we want the male cause he's 'unattainable' So of course have to have him! lol none of us (ok well most of us don't...an odd select few do) look for a guy that's in a relationship, but most women have a tendency to fall for them. Not something that can be helped.

This sounds pretty dirty for someone else to do. I couldn't imagine ever trying to start anything with someone already in a relationship. You would think women would not want a man who has already betrayed someone he loved because he probably would just end up doing it again. Women who try to 'poach mates' and the men who go along with it are both wrong.