which one do you prefer marriage or career?
By mafi0831
@mafi0831 (108)
Philippines
October 9, 2009 9:30am CST
if you believe, i should say feel that you have finally found the man you want to be with forever, i have to choose marriage because career is just anywhere. you can look for a career as long as you are patient enough to look for it. unlike if you choose your career and you set aside the man whom he loves you so much, you will not know if that man can still wait for you.and you might regret it at the end and find him . nowhere. destiny knocks once and you should grab that at once,you can be married and still have a career. but you may have a successful career but you are alone. no one to share with all your success.
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@navya1987 (11)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Marriage and Career are the two which have a lot of impact our lives.Career is important to support your life and manage evrything without depending on others.It really takes time to settle in a good career and rule.Marriage is one thing in life which is very important and that relation will be existing until you exist.So marrying a person u love and share your whole life with him is a wonderful experience.So you need not leave 1 for the other.It depends on how you balance both and lead a successful life.
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@gmkk1986 (471)
• India
15 Oct 09
Its really true by balancing both aspects. Before a commitment like a marriage both ends must have good relationship first and understandings. That only leads to marriage and be successful in any thing like career, wealth, happiness etc., Its very hard stuff between people to understand and keep thing into marriage because of needs. For their needs they must be careered well before. So Balancing could be possible with a proper plan and cool thinking.
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@Phaedra_Scythe (3325)
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9 Oct 09
I wouldn't say marriage specifically, but definitely love is more important than work and careers. Sure you need money to live, but having someone to love and understand and support you is more important than anything else in the world.
@prashantsarika (5)
• India
9 Oct 09
Yes i agree with you as there is no point in just marrying without love and i would say everybody should concentrate more on carreer than marriage,because with your good career everything follows behind.so love and live happilly
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@HelloMickey (1655)
• Hong Kong
10 Oct 09
Looking back to my life, I think I better choose career, my hubby treats me very well, but I chose marriage in the past that's why I need to start my career all over again.
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@limcyjain (3516)
• India
9 Oct 09
For me both carry equal importance. If after marriage there are enough opportunities for me to pursue my carrer then i would go for it but if the culture of that home where i am to get married is such that they would hinder in the process of my career development i wont marry such a man even if he loves me. I want a fulfilling life not one which would be dependent on a person.
@mafi0831 (108)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
yeah you are right. you should consider the advantages and disadvantages before choosing one. it is hard for us career woman to be dependent on our husband after marriage. you should also talk to your boyfriend that you will still continue your career after marriage so you will be able to help each other financially. thanks for the response.have a great day.
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 09
Hi Mafi,
very interesting topic from you again.
Marriage and career are both two important tasks in our life.
If we choose to give up marriage, then we will be lonely for the whole life. No soulmate and just have friends and family members at our side. But thnen friends and family members can't always be at our side all the time, soulmate is still very important in life especially when coming to old time.
Career is also important.Having a good career,it means we will have better life for now and future.
Take me for example, I given up my career because of my marriage. Actually I have a good job previously,working in a bank(stable job),but at last I have to give up because my husband wanted us to move back to his hometown after we got married.
After full of consideration, I decided to give up my job and go for marriage.
I know that by giving away my job, it means I lost my income. Money can always be found back again,but marriage (true love) is only once in a lifetime.
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@Archie0 (5653)
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9 Oct 09
I dont think the two are the same at all, being with someone and loving them is fine, it does not necessarily have the same commitment as marriage. (Im not saying it doesnt Im saying it may not) and people dating, even living together know that they always have the option to leave whereas marriage is seen (even if just traditionally) as a more permanent situation. I think it was wise for the young man to take the scholarship, its a shame his gf couldnt go with him... that would have been ideal however I also believe that married people should follow their dreams as well they just do it as a team.
@mafi0831 (108)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
thanks for the opinion. honestly, i posted that discussion because i experienced it myself. we do have same experience. i know that i have made the right decision. i am very much happy with my family and at the same time i have a career and a business to support each other. i am just a little bit curious if there are people especially women who undergo the same situation as i am. and i found you. thanks for the response and dont worry, like me you made the right decision.have a nice day and regards to your family.
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@bibbyboy12 (188)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Well i have never been married so i cant really offer any meaningful advice but in a decision making situation I would always have to choose marriage because true love lasts forever and a career can have much less certainty on. A career means nothing if i doesnt give you happiness. A woman you can connect with and love means more than all the wealth in the world to me. Yes i know that sounds soft of effiminate but i dont care.
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@mafi0831 (108)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
hi bibbyboy, i really appreciated you took time to respond. even you are just 19, i feel that your future will be lucky to have you based on your principle in life. you are a bright boy the way you share your ideas. thanks for the opinion. have a great day.
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@JessicaSearcy (117)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I believe both are very important. Marriage and true love is something you can only find once in a lifetime sometimes. A career is very important, also. A career is needed to support you and your spouse in your marriage. I think Marriage and Career go hand in hand.
@lhai_11 (42)
• Israel
10 Oct 09
i prefer to choose career..i believe oppurtunity knocks only once..isnt it much better if the both of you accomplish everything you wanted in your life and still end up together..yes, love can make you really happy, but if you have nothing in your table, can you still think about the love??and if the guy really loves you he can wait, even if it takes forever..how can you be happy with someone else when your not happy with your own self??thinking that something is missing,theres something you have to fullfill
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@icegermany (2524)
• India
9 Oct 09
if it is a question to choose marriage or career i would surely select my marriage as it is the only major thing in life and we do marry only once and we love only person and he/she is the one who is going to be with us for the whole life and we make a family due to which we get all kind of happiness in life. career is also important but not more than a marriage and our beloved once and may be if we try a little harder in life we might get both the things in life simultanously. and you are right that if we have sucess in life and there is no one with us to celebrate that success with us then that success is not going to matterat all and nor it will bring any happiness to us and we people look forward for happiness and joy life which is a major requirement for every human and we are in search of it and we do choose our career also for our happiness and if it is not going to bring us happiness it is better we leave it and find which satify us all.
@mafi0831 (108)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
you are absolutely correct. we share the same ideas. what is the use of a successful career if you don't have someone to share with your success. thanks for the response and may you have a successful marriage and career or you do have one right now? thanks and have a nice day.
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
I think this is depend on the situation,my friend. Because not at all we can concentrate in our career due to inconsistent measure in our life. Marriage sometimes comes in the wrong place and at the wrong time...so I don't particularly answer this in detailed...Life is very flexible and I think choose career first and if the career is very successful then enter into marriage...Have a nice day!
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@jerimiyah (232)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
marriage because i can always work at home through online jobs. In the same time i can be with my husband and meet his needs and do more things that i want to do with so much time in my hands. As much a possible i can be able to spent time with him and cook and bake for him. Its good if im going to have children someday, i can get spent more time with them and take care of them if they need me. Just a call "mom?!" away.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
9 Oct 09
there is a time for every thing. from the start we go with the career.but it really does not mean what is the definition of the career i have will always be correct.
a good career can give a good married life sometime but only when it is done on time.
so i think even i am not married that the time plays a bigger role here. if you are not able to make a bright career for a high age you could not enjoy your married life if you dont go for marriage then.
so there must be a balance of time given to the both of the things.
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@getbrowser (1708)
• China
10 Oct 09
I prefer to choose career.
As a man, Choosing the marriage is really the wrong answer. As far as I know, it is not easy to find a good job for there are full of competitions in my country. You'd better pay more attention to your career other than the marriage. Let us see, one can almost never meet a happy marriage before they have runned a good career.
You can't succeed if you lay too much emphasis on marriage. This is my own idea.
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@getbrowser (1708)
• China
10 Oct 09
Yes, most women may choose marriage other than career. But as a man, it is reall important to have an career, isn't it?
@mafi0831 (108)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
thanks for the response. i consider your opinion. i posted this discussion because i have experienced before to make a decision. to choose between marriage and career. i am a woman and we have different views on that. thanks for the opinion. have a great day
@taraelocin (1138)
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10 Oct 09
I don't think there is any need to chose between marriage and career. I am married to a wonderful man and I also have a career that I love. If I only could have one of them, I'd chose marriage. As you say, it can take a long time to find the right person. But sometimes you can have the best of both worlds - why not make the most out of it.
@prakrithi (83)
• India
10 Oct 09
hello everybody over here...my opinion is to choose career first then we can plan to get married because after marriage also we shouldn become dependent on our husbands according to me...we should stand in our own feet....sometimes it becomes difficult for a gal to manage her career after marriage because shes got many responsibilities so its better to make her career fisrt then she can go for a marriage...and most important thing live everything on god,he wil look after everythin,wats good wats bad everything...so jus believe in god..
@finnyjoysarvodayite (49)
• India
10 Oct 09
i would choose career first cos that fascinates me more than a girl..if u marry..then u have lots of responsibilites- wife, her well being, children and their well being, the overall improvement of living conditions, the possible naggings of wife ...hehe..and the life issues...tat would severly affect the career if u are planning to do career after marriage...but its also true that if we are too crzy about career then time may run out and we may become too old for a marriage leading us into kinds of depression later into life...being aware of all such possibilities what i do nowadays is tat...kneel down and pray.."lord, lead me in thy way "..
have a nice day..
@mafi0831 (108)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
hahaha, i enjoy reading your comment. thanks for the response. for a man, really he will choose career because man should be the bread winner of the family so i will understand if you will choose career and im glad that in the end you also think of marriage. it is fully satisfying and happy if you are striving to work hard because you want to give the best for your family. thanks and have a nice day too
@magic9 (980)
• China
10 Oct 09
you know, I think it's not a A or B question anymore because for many people, to get married doesn't mean to give up one's career anymore. A family should be supported by both of the couples.I don't know what's going on in other places, but in my culture, women still need to work for money, for the kids milk powder. Actually such jobs can only be called jobs instead of career because most of us work for money, not work for enjoying life and interest.
@hwoarangpoy (196)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
I can give up my career for marriage. I am very hands on when it comes to my family. I can easily rebuild a career that can work around my schedule as a mother and a wife.
@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
10 Oct 09
I would most definitely pick marraige over career, but then again, that may be because Ive never really been career motivated? My idea of happiness lies in eventually becoming a stay at home Mom as a career. Which of course would involve marriage.
Not to mention I think it is more important to have love and someone you can lean on and to be good company over a good career.
But then again there are those people that will always prefer career over marraige. In the end it all depends on the person and which they value more.
@raiyandhaka (634)
• India
10 Oct 09
you rising a nice question, which may help to unmarried people to get right decision in his/her life. this question seems not for me, as i already married. but if i'm
un married yet, i would prefer 1st to build career. to marry we can catch a nice girls as we dream, if our career is light, bright and prosperous. within career build time, if i fall love to some one, i need to keep her wait until the career should be stable. if he or she love you true , he/she may wait for you . if cant wait. no need to be sad and care. some day you surely forget this pain. but if you lose your career whole life you will in suffering and life will be painful forever.so don worried, with a good career, every one can get a girl to marry, which one may better then others.
@mafi0831 (108)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
thanks for sharing your ideas. yeah you have a point.my discussion is a little bit confusing that is why there are different opinions. my discussion is all about you already have a successful career but a decision has to be made. your bf proposed to you and agreed to have your marriage next year but your boss has chosen you to have a masteral study for free but with a condition of not marrying within two years.you have to decide because it is once in a lifetime offer of the company. and you will be promoted.which one will you choose? thanks again for the opinion.have a great day
@jemaries (321)
• Saudi Arabia
10 Oct 09
Can i choose both marriage and career,they said if you're lucky to your career you will be failure to your marriage.There a lot of people when they are succesful in career,its only there focuses.And most career oriented person they dont have time to find someone or they are very choosy.And some are getting old to be married.But for me i prefer to get married first.Because when you get married to get also career together at once, and also you will have inspiration while your working because you have your family.And all the earnings is for your family and somebody will get take care of you in times you get older and sick.While your succesful in your career and you have lots of money you cant buy anybody to be your wife and husband if you will get old alone.There's nothing to share your wealth.
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