Do you have a habit of saying "It's okay" even though you know it's not?

I have that habit too. It's not that we already forgive them, but I guess when the other person says sorry, that's the easiest answer that comes to mind. Cheers!

hello rhan! i think we are the same...but i don't think it as a habit coz there are also times that i as able to really express what i feel... but most of the time,because i don't like arguments, i don't like much talks or don't like to make things big, i just said its okay...even if its really not...huh! sometimes i will say, i don't mind but deep inside im hurting...hehe sometimes i feel like its not good, but sometimes it is... but i guess sometimes we need to find the courage to say what we really feel but in a nice way...coz how will they know what we really feel if we don't say it? right? have a nice day!

I always try to speak my mind no matter what. However I do think that sometimes, no matter how much we want to speak out, we slip into the automatic response saying that it is ok. Sometimes we don't want to start trouble or have to go into details about what ails us, other times we just say it without thinking.

hi rhan04 oh indeed yes. Someone will ask me with some concern, are you alright? And my leg might be killing me with every step' but I will still say, It's okay, when really I am feeling more like yelling ouch , ouch. I guess I just do not like sympathy pouring over me and just making it all worse.T also have wimped out when I used to have a fight with my hubby with that same old It's okay, just forget it. What I really wanted to say was, please please do write down what you draw out of our account, you are always forgetting to do it, and now again we are overdrawn,damn and darn. I am a widow now, but again I find myself doing that. for example, one of the residents accidentally bumped into me and caused me to drop my package. Again he asked are you okay? Of course I was not as my stuff was dumped out all over the floor, and the jerk just stood there, me" It's okay when what I should have said was, well do not just stand there, help me pick all this stuff up. Why won't those of us who do this ever learn to say the truth?

Not sometimes, I always say that! Probably because I don't want trubles with persons, and it is also easier way to escape from problems. I just don't like when I keep my anger inside of me.

I admit I also have this habit. I think it's better for me to be this way. I have been used to this and I mainly think that by not saying anything, I could get along with things and with other people. It's like a defense mechanism for us, don't you think so? But at some point I know I have my limitations, like when it is already too much and when there is a need to stand up for what I know is right. I would not say "it's okay" if it is already unacceptable.

Well I am called the OK man by my friends and relatives.It comes automatically from my mouth to any situation.At times I feel it is OK what the others do and many times to it is telling to myself to calm me down.

I don't have the habit of saying 'it's ok' just for the ske of saking. I am an emotional person. If somebody hurts me badly and apologize for it, I won't say 'it is ok' just for the sake of saying it. I will say that to people who does small mistakes to me by mistake. I say 'it is ok' to my partner sometimes when he apologizes, but by that time I would have made my mind to forget about it.

No,I don't have this habit.I got rid of it a few years ago when I saw that bad feelings kept inside come out sooner or later.I remember him talking about his ex-girlfriend,what he liked about her,wondering if I would look better with brown hair,searching her in me.I was hurt.He kept talking and talking.Then I said loud it was enough of that and I told him I didn't want to be compared with other women in his life,and I just shut the door and left.Then he understood what was wrong.People don't get it.If you say it's OK, it means it's OK.Learn these words like:"I don't like it,don't do that,you hurt me,I'm sad,you did wrong."

Hi rhan04 Same with me. I can't think what other responses should I say? Actually, I still thinking and feel hurt when he apologized, so the safest and best thing to say is "It's okay".. But after that, I will continue and say, "Actually it's not okay. I don't like....." For me, better to argue but with no emotion. I don't mind to argue. With this way, I express myself and give him clue what's wrong. If he can't respect it, better to end that relationshiop. As long as we are not emotional and express ourselves politely, I'm sure it is okay to argue Good luck in your relationship!

Sometimes it is better to agree on something than to have an argument. I also feel the same most of the time. I hate arguments. And to avoid that I just say okay on whatever my partner is saying. I felt as if that would settle everything.

well not me though, i say then and there and yea i dont keep things like revenge in my head,i can easily forgive people after a couple of hours,i can get angry faster than anyone and finish my anger on something,even though till now i have not avenged for anything that long to remember, after all we are humans and we tend to make mistake and also it a duty to forgiveness.

i do too have the habit of saying "its okay" eben though i know im not, but its my way of saying i could handle whatever it is. and sometimes i do say that for those who ask i know would worry if i didnt respond a positive way.

I have that habit its like telling yourself that it really is okay but deep inside it really isn't. I guess with that lie, i can go on. It may be a lie but it also its a little push to still keep going. "Never give up" as the saying goes and for me i always say... there will come a time that i will laugh at all the pains that i endure now and until that day comes, i will stay strong

Hi rhan, I also have this habit, but I want to change it.... its not too honest and the other peron will be offended later if we keep a grudge even though we said its okay at that time.... so I think its really bad habit and I am trying to come out of it, trying to tell how I feel instead of saying its okay, usually I will do this at my work place.....

Hello rhan04, Whenever I am not okay, I just keep quiet. I won't say a word and I prefer to be alone, by myself. My husband knows me very well and whenever we argue and I don't say a word, he knows that I am not alright *laughs* I think that is the best way to stop an argument and to cool down myself.

I have that habit too, my friend. That words will give us less arguments if we say it. Because our partners or friend will understand that you agree when asking an apology or any alibi in what particular mistakes they do...Have a nice day!

Yeah. I have to say it sometimes because I don't want to talk about it just yet..

No, not really. I used to do this, but my face or voice always gave me away and it couldn't have been clearer from my expression that it was not okay. So I gave up on it and just say what I really feel or mean. I just want to get it off my chest and then things can get better!

I'm going to say unfortunately i have this habit too. For the same reasons you said. I even have this habit when strangers or family or friends do things that are not okay. I just don't like confrontation and probably won't be able to handle it if I did confront. I wonder how you fix this habit and still have the desirable outcome?