Do you think it's a good idea to tell your Partner how many lovers you had?

Depends on the person. Sorry for the generic comment but I'm WAAAAAY behind on my friends posts but want everyone to get their pennies, so here I am. Hi and Happy Holidays if we don't cross each others paths before then.

I dont see anything wrong in sharing with your partners how many you have previously been dating. There is a difference in people and how they act, but this might also depend on the culture where your from.

Oh gosh no. It's a horrible idea to tell them how many partners you have had in the past. Really how is it their business unless you have something to tell or share with them. But really I don't think they need to know the exact number. Just if you are carrying something etc. But you should also use protection if it is necessary. For me personally I don't want to know who my fiance has slepted with. I don't need to know. It's not going to change anything on how I feel about him. And really I think that it would probably just upset the person.

This topic reminds me of one of my roommates in high school.She always talked to us about her love story which we didn't even asked her.Oh,God,the stories were really long and boring and they made us asleep every time. The love thing is just the thing between the two.No normal peaple is really interesed in other's love thing,but your wanting he or she to share your happpiness or relieve your sorrow and comfort you is not included.

It depends on your partner's attitude. If he/she is matured enough to understand and take it easy then no problem. Or else it's better to keep it secrect for the happy relationship. It's no-way wise to spoil the present and future because of the unsuccessful past.

yeah, i think so..at least you know if he is an experienced lover.(lol).. I mean if he got like 100 past relationships i think u should know..

I think it's a wonderful idea. It's important that we know about eachother's past. I have only ever been with one person before my husband, and he knew that was more of a fling than a relationship. I know my hhusband has been married and divorced three times, and who else he dated before, after, and between. We are not upset or jealous, we just want to know the truth. He's got a past in that department, I do not. That does not make a different to either of us.

The past is best left in the past.

I don't think this is a good idea, my friend. It is better to be a secret to avoid both of you not hurt. Because if reveal all your lovers in the past it means you want to get notice about those sweet days with those past lovers that perhaps unacceptable to each of you...

I think it is a bad idea, it can make the other person feel jealous or inadequate. It also isn't very important. Of course it doesn't effect me since after my horrible rebound date (1 date and kiss on cheek) I got the bright idea to date my best friend Sejal's older brother Bhav.....two people who know everything about me. Cool in a slightly scary way.

If at all you are married and you both have trust in yourselves then it wouldnt be a problem coz every one isn't so perfect and get their true love in the first attempt itself but it greatly depends on your partner. when coming to your new partner then it would be better if you dont specify him all your past coz it might have an negative impact on the current proceedings of your rlation ship.gud day.

I don't think it is a good idea to tell your current partner how many partners you have had in the past this will make him/her think or feel that you are comparing him/her with the one you have previously unless both parties are very open minded and can accept the real fact than it won't be a big problem (I think)

If you cant be open and honest about your past then how can you hope for a future. Bad idea to keep this from someone you think might be a lasting thing. If a person cant except who you really are and what you have done in the past then you need to find someone who can.

well actually it's alright to tell your partner about it... so that he/she can understand you... and build a trusting relationship.

No, I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell your partner about all your previous romances. For one, growing up and falling in love till getting married is a continuous process…it does not happen overnight. You start having crushes from school level itself and its but natural that by the time you find your soulmate, you have had many affairs and dates…its only because something or the other did not ring true that you could not settle down…it can be the same with your partner too. Secondly, why dig up the past if its truly gone? The present belongs to you and your partner and its in your hands to build a happy future from the present…the past should not have any influence on your relation.

If my lover asked how many lovers I had had, in the past, I would ask her if she really wanted to know, because if she did, I would tell her the truth. I wouldn't lie to her at all. Whatever has happened in the past, is gone and cannot be undone - it is gone and will never return. Therefore my past relationships are nothing to do with the present. As it happens, my wife knows all about my past relationships and has always been fine with it. And I know about hers, and it makes no difference to our present life together now. It never has, and we've been together now nearly 24 years. - Derek

Oh boy. Well, personally, I don't think there is any reason to bring this up. However, if your partner would then, I suppose honesty would be the best policy! Usually, lies come out one way or the other anyway and I think honesty is one of the if not the most important thing in any relationship. I still think though, that there isn't really any benefit that can come from the answer! If anything, I would think it might cause arguements or at the least an uncomfortable feeling!

Hey momma! I don't really think it is necessary to go into detail about how many lovers that you have had! I don't even know if I know myself and I surely don't want to discuss it with my partner! And I don't want to know how many he's had either! We've had roundabout discussions about our pasts, but not in full detail! What's in the past should stay in the past! It isn't going to change and it certainly isn't important in the realationship that you are in now!

Hello 34momma, I am honest with my partner. I would tell them things they want to know. Even if it is about a past. It's better that I will be the one to tell him, than my partner would find out about it through another person. And it's up to him if he can accept me and my past or not. Take care and have fun mylotting red_amethyst

For me it is really ok, cause that is one indication of me already moved on with the past relationship and that is also one indication of me being honest and faithful to my partner. Trust is one key of a successful relationship, then how can we trust each other if we do not know about their past. Telling those past relationship will also make our partners feel good. Cause by that, they will feel comfortable and will think that they are really the only one in your heart at present. This is only my opinion, just like what i always said. People have different kinds of thinking. Have a great day ahead!