Do loving and hating comes together in a relationship?

Hi amy! Do you mean to say that love and hate are two sides of the same coin? I think it is true to some extent that if we hate someone and keep thinking about him/her, we are loving him/her in the negative sense and we love someone it means that our feelings are positive towards him/her. It depdens how much we stress our mind for the sake of a particular person.

Yes, I believe love and hate can be together in a relationship! But I don't know if I'm right. This likes many couples in our country. For example, the wife want the husband eat something good for health or give up some bad habit. But the husband thinks it okay and ignore wife's advice. Then, the wife will complain about it. If nothing improved, they may argue about it. And if it keeps same, finally they will hate each other, and find they cannot bear this kind of live. But in another word, it happens because love. The wife want to bring husband the healthy life style. So...how strange! Anyway, enjoy mylotting!

i dont know,how can we love and hate someone at the same time?is that so called love? a girl broke up with her boyfriend cuz she thought he was going to break up with her.she did it maybe just to save her face.everyone's selfish in love,i dont know is it's so called love....

I wouldn't go quite that far. Love is certainly important for a relationship. I don't think, hate comes into it. Of course there are arguments and disagreements - they are important for any relationship as you need to have your own opinion and nobody can always be happy. But I don't think I could ever hate my husband even though sometimes I wonder what he is thinking!!!

Yes. thats the part of Life. They go together hand in hand. Take care

Yes. A relationship takes work, and anyone that tells you that it should just be smooth or its not meant to be, has never been in a grown up relationship.

Yes I agree with you 100% I just hate fighting at all with my husband or anyone for that matter.I do believe it does come together in a relationship but I guess it is also what makes our relationships stronger as well.

Yes, it is they are twin as they make any relationship sweeter and bitter. Though, it may sounds like an opposite they are the two factors which test every partner limit of temperaments and appreciation for each other. To love includes loving the the not so perfect qualities and so on...

Hating is such a strong word for me. I would prefer to use LQ (Lover's Quarrel). Its a common thing in a relationship. Hating happens when a relationship is broken. LQ can be resolved. I don't believe in the saying though, but believe that a strong relationship doesn't have to be perfect all the times. Quarrellings and misunderstandings happens which adds spices and passion to every relationships.

Good day to you. With reference to your question, my answer is yes. Hate and love constitute both in a relationship. These are the feelings that you feel that add spice to a relationship. Aside from that, as I observed, you will not value the meaning of love, if you dont feel the hate. Since, as the saying goes, the more you hate, the more you love. Sometimes, you dont really hate the person, it is just, its your defense mechanism to hide your true feelings. However, though, hate and love constitutes a relationship, it is not healthy for a relationship if the hate prevails. As hate should develop into love and it should make the relationship stronger.

I don't think the loving and hating comes together in a relationship.I think the loving always comes earlier than the hating.See ,when people fall in love at first,they see their lover partners are all good thing.The long you get along with them,the more you know them.There're always something that make you unhappy or disappoint and here comes the hating.

I also agree with you. They say that the wall between love and hate is so small that you would not notice making us hate the people we love when they hurt us. We easily feel that we hate them when they hurt us and easily also do we forget and loving them again. it is as if you're stepping your one foot to 1 line and crosses back again with the other foot. Or atleast that's how I feel it. So I think, Loving and hating do come together in a relationship

Well, I don't know if the term really is "hating". When in a relationship, it's not all about love. There are times when couples get in a fight or have misunderstanding, big or small. But I don't think the proper term is hating. Because once in love, the love is really unconditional. Loving everything about the person even the negative traits. Maybe the better term is miscommunication, which can result to bitterness and hurt feelings.

Hey friend, you've got it right. Love, just like life, is full of imperfections. If you love someone, you need to accept this fact that you'll sometimes hate him'her for some reasons. I've been through that many times but I always keep in mind that those things that made me hate him are only ways to love him even more. There is no such thing as perfect happiness so you'd better live with the rules. It will also be boring if there will be absence of quarrels and fights. Right? ;-)

I am sorry Amyson, but I must disagree with you. I have been VERY happily married for almost 50 years and I would say that in all that time I have NEVER had need to hate anything in my husband or in our relationship and I know he would say the same thing. Our love has grown over the years and we are each other's best friend. Admittedly there are things I have disliked over the years, but they were never a problem. I accepted some things as part of him, and he accepted my little idiosyncrasies as part of me - but the dislike was NEVER aimed at the person. I can honestly say that HATRED has NEVER been part of our life together.

Yes. I agree with you. Love and hate comes together in a relationship. Individuals are different in many ways. When two persons love each other and/or marry, certain qualities in them are liked more by the partner. At the same time certain qualities are most hated too. We talk about it and convince and be convinced about the minus points, explanations are given and finally an understanding takes place between them.

That is part and parcel of every relationship as the more we find some ugly traits in one partner, the more one tend to hate them and it tend to change when both partner decides to make an adjustment to please each other. The other way would be to learn to love the defects in a partner as nobody is perfect even the uglier parts of her/his attitudes as when two person decided to be a couple they should learn to accept each partner imperfections united by common goal and that is love which is a universal bond between each other learning to accept each other unique individual traits is the key to long lasting relationship.

Yeah I agree with that. There are times I am with my boyfriend he he does things that absolutely drive me crazy! And yet there are times dyring those moments that I cant help but think those are some of the reasons I love him in the first place.

Hi, Yes, I do Believe It . Have a nice day :)

I am sorry my friend. I can't agree that love and hate comes together in a relationship. If you love someone then how will you hate him/her in any circumstances? I think if we love someone deeply then we can't hate him/her, even if he/she does a big mistake. When hate comes out for someone, love automatically sublimes away, is'nt true my friend? Why your are not asking you heart this question? And please don't use your brain regarding this question. Hope you will not mind due to my comment. Last but not the least, everybody's point of view is not same. Thank you.