He said he'll call again but he didn't and just disappeared
By sheanne
@sheanne (440)
Philippines
May 29, 2010 7:37am CST
Hello mylotters, my girl friend confided to me about her recent date she had. She told she had a great first date with this good looking guy. They laughed and talked a lot during their date and said that this guy kept complimenting her about her looks and kept telling something about future. The guy even dropped her home and said what a wonderful date they had and he'll call to her. Well the next day this guy send text message to her and even phone her and said they'll go for a next date. They set for another date.
The day of their date she didn't hear from him so she phoned him. This guy said that by mistake he deleted her number. He canceled their date and said he got a very important meeting in their to attend to and he'll call again to her to set for another date. But it's more than three weeks now and she didn't receive text messages or a call from him again. He just disappeared.
She wanted to call him and asked how is he, she's worried something happened to him. But she's thinking that this guy doesn't like him at all. My friend asked me what she'll gonna do, should she call him or just forget him.
Could you share any good ideas what I have to tell her?
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25 responses
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
29 May 10
Either the guy doesn't really like your friend or his alibi is true. In my opinion I think your friend should stop calling or texting the guy. If you really like a girl why would he "accidentally" delete her number? That's a lame excuse if you ask me. If I really like a girl and I accidentally deleted her number I'll make sure to find a way to get her number again. And still no text messages or call after three weeks? That's a sign for her to move on. I can be wrong. But its better for her not to wait anymore. There's a lot of guys out there.
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
29 May 10
Hi! sheanne, so what if he accidentally deleted her number. He knew where she lives, he can make a way to visit her and ask for the number again. I think he has no intention of seeing her anymore. That's the game in dating, either there's something to build a relationship or break it.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
29 May 10
since she already call him and he said he will call her back for another date and for the fact that he deleted her number as he said accidentally is not really an excuse as if that guy is really interested he will do something to contact nor see the girl again. if she will call him again the tendency is that the guy will think shes trying to forced herself to him and he might only be pressured with it as he cant just say no to the girl. if she really want then she can just send him message telling him hope his fine and if he reply then fine but if he didnt make to the point of making the first move again nor message nor call her first then forget about him as it means his not really interested.
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@sheanne (440)
• Philippines
29 May 10
I guess he's not interested at all to my friend. With his excuses especially deleting her number, he knew where my friend lives, he could visit her and asked for it again. He's not the right guy for my friend at all.
Thank you for sharing, happy mylotting.
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
29 May 10
I'm sorry to hear that your friend experienced that. In my own view, I think the guy doesn't really like your friend, maybe he did at their first date, but who knows what happened the day after their first date, the guy could have dated another girl whom he likes more than your friend, or maybe he was introduced to another girl whom he got more attached to than your friend. I think your friend should start to forget the guy and get over the first date. They have no commitment yet, so that's just normal. She was lucky to have only one date with that kind of guy. It will be more painful if the first date was followed by several dates and some additional memories, at least that one date could be easily forgotten. Tell her not to call or text the guy anymore. If the guy really likes her, he could have go to her place and inform her that the numbers on his phone were erased, but it didn't happen. Clearly, that was the guy's lame excuse to easily get out. There's still a lot of fish in the sea, tell your friend to keep fishing :) *winks* 
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@sheanne (440)
• Philippines
29 May 10
Hello january, thank you for sharing. I thought maybe there was some attraction for both of them during the first date but then this guy find someone else he most probably fancying now. I think my friend really like this guy just that he's just not into her. Surely there's lot of fish in the sea definitely I will tell her.
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
29 May 10
i think this is the answer for you. I think you are just bothering her. I mean only you must understand now. I think there is no mean to go behind her if she is not interested. I think there must be some self respect in you for you. Let her go. If she comes back it means she would like to be with you. Otherwise not. Be hard enough.
@sheanne (440)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Actually I am asking about my girl friend situation now, what should I advise to her regarding the date she had with a guy. I am not asking about myself and why should I let her go? I am not bothering her at all, she (my girl friend) asking me what she'll gonna do, if she will call or just forget about the guy. She is quite interested with the guy, what do you mean with self respect.
I guess you need to read what I have written before you start commenting so you will know the whole story.
@charylady (419)
• Philippines
30 May 10
your friend should start getting the hint that the guy is no longer interested. forget him. don't waste your time waiting. move on.
@sheanne (440)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Hello charylady, thank you for sharing. I think my friend will be able to read what you have all commented here so she should know what she'll do. The way she told me about it, I think she likes the guy a lot. But I will tell her so to forget him there's more guy she can have a date with.
@xeroeight (1060)
• Philippines
29 May 10
I guess she need to call him if the guy don't answer it, well I think the girl should stop it and wait till the guy contact her again.
@xeroeight (1060)
• Philippines
30 May 10
your welcome miss sheanne
Your right if the guy make excuses again then that guy is not worthy for the attention of your dear friend, don't worry your friend will have the chance to find the right guy for her in time.
@Honeybuttz (256)
• Philippines
31 May 10
If I am in her position, I'll give him a call and ask how is everything at his end.
If the answer is valid and kind of sincere, she can continue with her friendship with this guy, but if he sounds as if he is just making up stories or being deceitful, she should suck it up and move on.
It's not the end for her. The right man will come to her when she least expects it.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 May 10
After three weeks and he still didn't call, then he isn't interested.If a guy really likes you , he writes , he calls and most of all he Keeps the date1 tell your friend it is the a$$hole's lost and she should get out doing a hobby she Loves to do and then look around and see if there is a guy doing the same activity. He could be the guy. At least you two have something in common, the hobby!
@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
29 May 10
I think she should probably do nothing. He doesn't sound very reliable. If he wants to go on another date, he will call her. Even if he lost her phone number again, he knows where she lives since he took her home. I think something is going on with the guy that she doesn't know about, like a former girlfriend back in his life. I'd stay away unless he calls again and has a good explanation of why he hasn't been in contact.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
29 May 10
give him a call and if he dont answer leave a message and if he dont call back then move on, chalk it up as oh well his lost not her's
@baretrees (46)
• Canada
30 May 10
married?????probably too many red flags....im sorry but too many compliments too soon..DELETED her number..think about it..if the tables were turned would anyone LOSE a number....sad when guys are such jerks.....tell her to move on she deserves better!
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
31 May 10
I think this is a case of ignoring. When he though of all aspects, he must have decided to not to continue. So that he did not responded. She waited for the call and as not called, messaged, he replied that the number got deleted. First excuse. Again, repeated that he will contact later due to meetings and all. Next excuse. Also, further no more contacts means, he want to ignore your friend. As far as I am concerned, it is over.
Your follow-ups may lead to unhappy and better to go for a change and may help you to get more peace of mind later on. Or, if not bothered, don't get much involved, just wait and see whether he alls any more.
If not, once again your frined can ask, whether should we continue.
As a final confirmation, this will be good enough.
What you say?
Thank-s
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
30 May 10
For me the message was clear, he is just fooling around with your friend, so better advice your friend to stop chasing the guy. An interested guy would never be just deleting a phone number of a person he is very interested to.
He will do anything to communicate with the person whom he think is worth his time and if he was really feeling something more than just a friend. Guys like that are just making excuses. You already said that he disappeared? gone with the wind, so why should your friend call him back if the guy shows no interest. It is just easy to comment and say something nice. But action speaks louder than words my dear, and that kind of attitude is not worth it. So forget the guy to avoid a future heartache.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
30 May 10
Forget about him. There are too many ways to save a phone number. If the guy was really interested in her, he'd save the number, and cancel the meeting instead of her date.
If he really is interested in her, he'll get in touch. But typically when you women get the idea someone doesn't like you as much as you thought, it's because you are right. Move on.
@leannbrockett191988 (16)
• United States
30 May 10
Well I think that she should call him and see what is up because either he has a wife and not telling her about it and maybe the wife have found out, but if he don't answer I would tell her just to forget about him cause there is more guys that will be with her for her not just for her looks. Well I hope this helped you. thank you have a great day!
@Cactus2010 (167)
• India
30 May 10
A person can never be so busy that he can not make a phone to persons he cares about. Deleting the number by chance, surprizing. Your friend should better not waste time on people who may praise you when you are around but forget when you are not there
@pabreen (237)
• Philippines
30 May 10
I don't think this guy deserves the clean and honest attention of your friend. Advice her to forget this guy, a better person is meant for her.
@jeanieous (107)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Tell your friend not to call him. Boys are boys and they are not like us girls. We go on a date if we like that guy but guys go on a date either for fun or for knowing you more. If a guy likes the girl so much, he will do anything for her and he will never have any excuses at all. An excuse is a polite rejection. Of course, most guys are not the type to tell you they don't like to see you again instead they are going to disappear just like nothing happens.
