Fight in a relationship

I think fighting is need in a relationship because if there wasn't any fighting then there is something wrong with it. I fight with my girlfriend all the time and our relationship is stronger than ever. If you never fight than good for you but there is probably something wrong in your relationship.

Yeah I have to say on this subject don't listen to your friend and try not to fight in the relationship. I mean yes you are going to have disagreements that is without saying but you don't have to make a fight to show that you have a good relationship. My fiancee and I have been together for about five years now and we have not made fighting a big part of our relationship we just try to enjoy each other and not make each other mad lol. My advice is if you want your relationship to be colorful love your partner like you will never be able to love them again and like today is the last day you will ever have to show them.

Well now, I think that being able to agree to disagree, to be able to have a constructive debate is in turn with a "fight". Rather than a fight that may entail raised voices, shouting hurtful things, possible physical violence. There Is a difference. I feel that it is important, in a relationship to be able to agree to disagree, to be able to hold a debate and still live together harmoniously. It is healthy in that it lets your true colors shine. Meaning your own individual opinions and points of view. I feel that it is important to remain your own individual while in a relationship and this part of yourself allows that but it doesn't mean that two people have to come out with tongues lashing and or fists flying, you know? It means being able to discuss a difference of opinion, accepting the person for the way they are, think and believe, even admiring them for their individuality and being able to remain united is the ability to agree to disagree. Often times, in a relationship, when the word fight is used people automatically assume things are sour, where as a "fight" can be a chance to get to know your partner better, an opportunity to let your mind be known etc, all with respect towards each other, accepting the fact that people have a difference of opinion, being able to not only voice yourself but knowing that you can, that your thoughts and feelings will be accepted as being part of what makes up you, without harsh words, name calling or spewing out hurtful things. Often times a "fight" will occur in a relationship because one has expectations that are not being met. This then fuels irritation, there fore, the ability to discuss the "difference of opinion" with the utmost respect,, allows the ability to voice your thoughts, including expectations. Throughout a discussion this allows the chance for the other to voice their opinion, thoughts and feelings. Bringing to the floor, their way of seeing things as well. That way there will be no room for blind expectations, which can fuel the fights that can become rather nasty. I think it id good to have a fight with your partner but one that is based on respect that each of us are our own individual, that which makes us unique, as well as consideration for how the other feels so to construct the choice of words in a way that will not and does not intend to hurt the other person intentionally.

fight is common in any relationship but that should fight should be solved within us easily & make it forget & move on with life as usual. fight should be there in life but it should spoil any relationship as relations are more important in life.

HI, I dont think it is necessary to fight once you are in relationship... but sometime ppl love to taste something a little different in relationship. to me, I hate fighting and I hate that feeling too... so it is better to focus on love, how to love ur partner more and how to show him/her how u feel is a lot better to fight. fighting is unhealthy relationship... good luck

I really don't think that fights are necessary in a elationship...yes, they will tend to happen due to differences in opinion but this is a fact of life, not everyone is going to get along all the time...my hubby & I have the odd spat but never anything major, we'll both say our peace then let esch other cool down & then we discuss the situation...I guess I can say that we don't fight per say but rather disagree.

No, I don't think you have to fight in order to have a close and exciting relationship. I do think that it is important to communicate especially if one or the other is having a problem and to be honest and open about our feelings. In doing so that can sometimes lead to arguments or disagreements which ultimately will or should bring us closer. If they are held in then it can be bad for a relationship, I think. Still, if those issues don't exist then I think it would be silly to start a fight just for entertainment.

It is not necessary for a fight to strengthen the relationship. Probably your friend just heard that no perfect relationship at all. Or maybe he/she got bored with the so good relationship. So it maybe depend on the personalities of the people involved or the compatibility issues. Fights were never planned. If you have a harmonious relationship, just let it be. Never put a relationship into a test.

First few months of our relationship every thing run so smooth, so perfect. But, there's something missing, a fight/ argument. We thought we never gonna fight just like other couples do but you never feel how deep your relationship is if you don't experience any issue. When we had our first fight i was not able to handle it and easily give up though i know i still want her(Good thing she knows to handle the our relationship). As we experience more fight we were able to know more each other realize how important our this relationship is. Fighting make our relationship stronger and deepen our love. In every fight we had we become more wise in handling the situation. Issues and fight can spice up too. We won't reach this far we never experienced extreme issues. I can compare it to my previous relationships which didn't last long, we never had an argument and it is totally boring.

Hello hestylim, Fights are not something that is necessary in a relationship, but if you think you can have a smooth relationship, then you should give it a little thought. Their doesn't exist a relationship with no fights at all. You can't always agree to your partner, somewhere or the other a difference will arise. No fights at all, could envelop an air of suspicion at times. Now, this doesn't mean we must plan a fight, but just be yourself and keep the relationship going and i am sure sometime or the other, you might have a small fight over something. Fights, after getting resolved makes you learn little more things about your partner, whether small or big, but you both would get to know more about yourselves this way. Fights are a part of a relationship actually, but sometimes fights get worse, you would want to avoid such large fights. So just be yourself, if nothing happens it's fine, and if something happens, it's only natural. Just don't let trust issues arise, coz when trust is the root to a fight, things mostly get worse. So stay a healthy relationship.

I think the person who told you that only meant that a little misunderstanding is just okay. I must agree that some arguments may add color to a relationship. Often times, you would only learn someone's true feelings when he or she is at the peak of anger. But the best part about misunderstandings in a relationship is when couple start to mend. This is the time that couples would be able to understand each other more and know their individual differences.

It does not follow that way, would you just initiate some arguments just to make a relationship colorful & exciting? If it's a nonsense stuff that would just worsen the bond.

My be is part of every relationship that enclosed with life .Without that you will know to each other.Then you can't live without that.

There is no need to have a fight to have a sane relationship with someone. The fact to discuss about what you think on a daily basis is supposed to avoid that. Sometimes a fight is necessary but this is more of an opportunity to .. hum, well, more discussing. People that fight all the time probably do not have a very healthy relationship with their partners.

i heard the same thing as well that a little turbulence in your relationship adds spices to it... in some sense, it is very true... also, the turbulence can strengthen the relationship as well if we manage to go through it together with our partner... i don't believe with a relationship that always go smooth all the times because life is unpredictable and full of ups and downs... take care and have a nice day...

Honestly yes, I do believe fighting makes a relationship better. If you try to avoid all confrontation and force yourself to never release your feelings, the emotions and problems get bottled up rather than vented and resolved, which leads to festering anger and resentment which destroys relationships. People are naturally completely agreeable and truly never fight may get along well, but I personally find that kind of life utterly bland and boring. I fight with my husband constantly, I always have. While perhaps it seems completely horrible to other people and sometimes the fighting is truly horrible, I think that never fighting would not only be boring but I think avoiding issues rather than addressing them with your true emotions is extremely detrimental.

I think having a fight with your bf/gl is normal in a relationship. Without it your relationship will be boring in a way that you won't be able to know what when your bf/gf has to agree with your and when he/she disagrees with you. Fights are only spices in one relationship. These are challenges on how you will be able to win or lose the fight or if one really has to win or lose.

You're right. A fight is a negative thing to be an ingredient in a relationship. First, it's a reality that no relationship is perfect. And no human is perfect, either. There will be arguments but those things should happen in a natural way and not intended. Never will it add colors to the relationship. It will add up a reason for break up, for sure. Have a nice day!

Yeah, I think so. What I mean is, not a physically fight but just a word fight. Having misunderstanding in a relationship is a good sign, why? Because it only shows the real personality of each other which is quite enough to build a solid and strong relationships.