Congratulations!!!! You Have Received A Best Response...

Yesterday I noticed a discussion was started and five minutes later the first response, which was the only response received the best response. Although discussions are never closed as anyone is free to respond to the discussion even after we are long gone, I find that when a member apply a best response it is because the member no longer wants to discuss further so unless I had something outstanding I will not respond. Which I can only speculate that others will do the same. I am one who can wait 3 - 4 weeks later before I add a best response, as I have a wider range of friends that are not always online and do participate. I will in int interim apply positive ratings along the way so that this way the best response is not difficult to select.

hi yoyo you did it and I am proud of you.great discussion. I responded to one and almost changed my mined as the discussion was only fifteen minutes old, and she had given probably a friend the br. five minutes after it had posted. That to me is really so as had she waited two weeks she wou ld have got a lot of responses and a much better choice of who to get the br to let alone if she commented back to each response she would make a lot better earnings.

Very seldom have I given anyone a Best Response to one of the discussions I start within the first week. I feel it is only right to give all of my friends here time to respond back in my discussions and give their thoughts and opinions and then choose one. Ocassionally someone here will post something right away that really helps me and I will choose it then, but most of the time I find it best to wait.

No, i won't give a BR just because someone is a friend of mine, since i don't think it's fair to anyone else who may respond to my discussion.As far as giving one too soon, i've seen this many times and people who do this don't realze that when others see a BR chosen early in the discussion,they may not respond at all and just skip over it. As for me, i wait a good amount of time before choosing one and at times i don't choose one at all, and that's when my responses are so similar, i feel i just can't choose who to give it to, so what i do in cases like this is just rate my good responses positive(+).

Choosing the best response is at the personal discretion of the person who starts any discussion.Some suggest that the starter should wait for sometime to sect the best response.Some others say that it is not necessary to wait.The moment the starter feels it is a good reponse he or she marks it.I agee with them...

Hello! =) I am new here and I can get quite confused when someone says one thing and another says another thing. But anyway, I learn along the way and that is what matters, right? =) In the matter of choosing best responses, the first things I heard people saying about it was this: Some people are disappointed that there are those who apparently do not choose a best response to their discussions. This gave me the impression that one should always choose a best response. At least that is apparently what is expected. But I was new and at that time the first discussion I made had only 2 responses. And somehow, choosing a best response among only 2 responses did not sit quite well with me. =P So I thought I will choose a best response only if I get more than 2 responses. The question now is when to choose. Admittedly, I did not check the guidelines or FAQs then to see if it said anything about when to choose best responses. So I made my own rule. =P I tried to figure out how discussions appear in the different tabs (new/recent/started/responded/etc...). It seems to me that when someone responds to or comments on a discussion, it gets bumped to the top of the list. (Correct me if I am wrong here please.) So if there are no new responses or comments for your discussion, it will go further down the list until it goes to page 2 or 3 or 4 and so on. And I thought that, of course, the further your discussion is from the first page of the list, the less likely you are going to get any more responses. Would you agree? (My question to you people is this: until what page of the lists in the tabs are you willing to go through to look for discussions to respond to?) And so with that, I came up with this rule for myself: I will wait until it is at least one full day after the last response/comment before I choose the best response. That way, it will actually be variable. It can range from only a few days after the discussion was started, it can be weeks, or maybe more. Having said that, your discussion made me look in the FAQs, and this is what's recommended: "Do not select a best response right away, wait at least a week before choosing a best response. This will give myLot users plenty of time to respond to your discussion topic and will give you a variety of responses to choose from." [italics mine] Just a few more things I'd like to comment on... I noticed that some said they tend to skip discussions which already have a best response. I do hope most people won't do this, at least not for my discussions. Because to me, just because I have already chosen a best response, it doesn't mean that I am not interested in any new responses. As long as you post a new response and not just a comment to a response, I will get an email notification and see it. Also: does this mean that some people only respond to discussions to vie for the best response? I do hope not. Personally, I respond when I have something to share. I don't mind not getting best response. I also do not try to see if the chosen best response is better than mine, because that is ultimately the choice of the starter. What is best for one may not be best for another. And that's it for now. Sorry for the super long response. =P

Hi Yoyo I agree People are to quick now to give the best response but well if that is what they want to do there is not a lot we can do about it I still respond anyway whether the best response has gone or not

I have some waiting that I need to award. I used to make it my policy to wait at least two weeks. I am rewarding more quickly now, in about four days. My usual routine is to go through while I am reading and make notes about who is closest to what I had in mind or answers the questions I had the best and most thouroghly. There have always been people who award BR very quickly, and sometimes to their friends. They do not realize that there is really nothing for their friends to gain that way. One person told me, at one time, that the person with the best response should always be the first person who responded because their response made the discussion valid. For a while I went through any of my discussions that were unresolved the last week of the month and resolved them all. I think some people do not award a best response, because they cannot choose, or because nothing stands out to them.

I recently gave a best response by accident, and since I'm over a year behind on awarding them, I guess that may be the only way anyone will get one from me! I agree, that people that award them the same day as the discussion might want to wait at LEAST a week...

i DON'T GIVE A BEST RESPONSE TILL I QUIT GETTING RESPONSES TO MY DISCUSSIONS. I give it to the one i like best but will have to admit it's usually a friend on here.

Hi Yoyo, Welcome back to myLot, I too have just been back from a long hiatus. I've seen discussions started like a few hour ago and then the best response has been chosen already out of 3 or less responders. While it's the starter's choice to award the BR anytime he/she feels like it, I also agree with you that it's best to choose after a while (say 2 days or more) coz by then most of those who were interested in the topic would have already responded.

I have only started a few discussions, so I have not awarded many BRs. I have gotten quite a few though, and I am always suprised. I have noticed some people wait months to pick a BR and some people award them right away. Maybe they are given to friends because I can see no other reason to award it before all the responses are in.

Better late than never..... This issue has been bugging me a bit too. Sometimes it really puts me off that a discussion started 1 hour before already has BR awarded. Unless I really feel strongly about the topic, I ended up not responding to the discussion. It seems like the discussion starter already got what he/she wanted and therefore do not wish to receive anymore ideas or views. Not that I think I deserve the BR or anything, it just makes me feel like my views are not welcome there. One new member awarded me BR in a span of one hour, I ended up telling her that in future, she might want to hold off awarding BR. I don't know how she takes that, hopefully in a constructive way. Don't get me wrong, I was, and still am happy to receive that BR. myLot advised us to wait at least a week, so as to give every member a chance to read and comment on our discussion. I think that is about the right time period. In my personal case, I leave it for a long long time. Sometimes it is because there are more than one response deserving the BR, and sometimes it is because I forgot

Hello mate, I usually mark my best response after a week or 10 days. I give time for most of the people to respond and share their views. Sometimes the wait is worth and sometimes it goes in vain. But then, I'll wait. I too receive the best response after a week or after a couple of weeks! Cheers! :)

I never give a Best Response less than 10 days after I post the discussion. I think at least 10 days gives members who only have time on the weekend to participate in myLot. I have heard that some people do not respond to a discussion if the B.R. has already been awarded.

I actually wait a while....and I like to read the responses and figure out which contributed the most to the topic...in fact I have some very old discussions I need to finish giving a best response!

happens a lot here. i think some do that. just BR their discussions right away. i usually wait till a day im not as busy, then go back to my unresolved. read through the responses and decide. sometimes im not even sure who the person is. i just like the response. but i usually dont get to mine for months. so theres plenty of time to impress me anyway, i think most oldies here do it that way to.

Hi yoyo, Like everyone i too like getting best response for my responses to any discussion and if i get it i donot go to if i deserve it or not but if i donot get it , then i do try to see if the one who got it, did he responded better or not. SOme people are in hurry and make a reputation to give BR quickly in hope people would respond to their discussion quickly if they have this reputation. I usually waited a week or so when i used to post discussions. Now i have come back after a long long time i find lots of things not same here.

I have no fixed policy. I have awarded two responders after a few hours : the discussions were asking for practical things, and I awarded the first good answer for me. Generally I am waiting between 1 week to 1 month to give a Best Response, and I have a handful of "unsolved" discussion, where I can't give a BR because there are too much good responses or no good responses. And, finally, I can have forgotten some discussions.

I choose my BR when almost no one is already posting replies. I choose a reply as a best response if it really moved me.