Stop worrying about others approval

Growing up, I was always worried about what others thought of me-how I dressed, how I looked, what I liked. I can't exactly recall when I stopped worrying about what others thought-I know when I was a young (pre-30) adult, I often fretted about my home. I was embarrassed by how ugly it was, or how small it was; it wasn't until I started an in-home party business and saw how small some of the homes were, or how they weren't magazine show homes, that I realized how lucky I was to have a roof over my head. I miss my ugly home that really wasn't that small at all. Nor did I live in a bad area. But it WAS mine, and didn't look like the other homes on the block. But it was just my first home-both my daughter and I grew up there. I went through a lot-while living there, I lost both my granddad (my father's father) and my mother. Memories of my pets are from that home. Now, when I chose my next home, it will be with my boyfriend, who I'll be marrying next year (I hope!). My must-haves are different than before-I can no longer climb steep stairwells, so no more old 1800s-era homes; everything needs to be on a single level. Our children are grown, so we'll need at least three bedrooms in the off chance that they're both here for a visit. And because we've both got health issues, we'd like to have it pretty much move-in ready. I'm also still learning to be comfortable in my own skin-that's probably going to be a work in progress for some time...

The piece of advise from other people is only suggestions. You are still the one who will be the decision maker. Would you agree?

That's our problem nowadays. We always think of what other people might think or might say in every action we are about to do. I guess that hinders our happiness. We can't really be ourselves. You're right. We should stop worrying other people. We should enjoy our lives and do everything we like to do. We are smart enough to know our limitations. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.

That is a true statement, and I absolutely agree with it. I hate how other people look at me with their head turning, as disapproval. As long as I didn't do anything wrong, and I didn't hurt anyone on the road, why I would care how other look at me? I just do my own thing, and they do theirs. I follow my own principle and my standard.

i have seen such people who is much concerned about what others think of them, thats too wierd , thats not in our hands ,we cant make everyone happy all the time

We live on our own.We need not to follow some standards set by others.Sometimes we need not to care how others look at us,If we do not learn how not to care we will be living a paranoid life. We will not be truly happy.We will not learn the value of freedom of life.Ignore them all as long you are not hurting any body.

you can't please everyone. there will always be someone who disagrees with you. it is good to be yourself and try to stop getting the approval of others.

That kind of thinking is very rampant in our place. People here always worry about what others say. In fact, their actions are dependent on what others will think. While this is in a way good, however, this also has its drawbacks because you are not free to do what you want.

Yes, it's true to most people except those who are social climbers. Those people who wants to strive for acceptance... sometimes they do not think they are good enough so they will change themselves in different ways..

yes that is correct because most of the time we spent waiting for others approval and worrying about their standards,so we must learn and let to live for ourself than anything else in this world always

Hi friend, i agree with you. We must be good and loyal to our self. We don't gain more benefits with other persons approval, if we are started to do things for other persons sake and their approval it don't get any end, so do things as per your wish and don't worry about other persons thoughts and opinions. If you do your work properly without disturbing others, you will get your own reputation from others

I wished that I wasn’t so concerned about what other people thought of me. But I didn’t know where to start so that I could stop. Until I realize that I need more self love... And now, I feel better about myself...

life is too short to worry about what other people think. What matters is that your happy and your being honest with yourself.

At times we should be reacting keeping in mind as if we are in the shoes of the other person but this does not mean we should always seek approval from every body before we proceed. We should follow our heart & set up our own thought process. It we try to seek others approval/ make others happy we would be a sad person at the end of the day.

I agree that one should think about what others think of oneself, but only to a point. The main thing is to do what one thinks is right according to one's standards and hopefully people will see that and judge you accordingly.

I have spent way too much time in my life worrying about what others think of me. It is a hard habit to get out of. I don't know why I am so concerned with what people think of me.

i AGREE WITH U 100%. I have never cared alot or worried about what people thought of me. The only thing i ever worried abouit was if they were telling lies on me. That never went over well at all.U can't judge people & they shouldn't be judging u. We are the ones that have to answer to anything wrong we have done. Noone else can do that for u.

this is the challlenge tha I am facing on right now. my colleague told me that if i would always think what the others will say then I will turn into a psycho and I can never be a manager. I just dont want people to talk behind my back and say bad things about me but then it really is true that you cant please everybody

I totally agree with you. I never worry about what others think unless it is your boss reviewing your work. That is different. People either like you for who you are or they don't.

I used to be like that. I'm in a family where they really expected everything from me, and even if I tried to talk about it, they didn't wanna realise that I'm not perfect. Nothing was good that I did... when I did excellently (which I mostly did, because I'm a fighter type), that was natural for them, and when I failed, they told me I was useless and lazy and I'm gonna be nothing. That kind of created that feeling in me that I have to the best and I'm worthless if I'm not living up to expectations. I know it was a bad thing to do, because aftzerwards, I felt worn and burnt out, I got nihilistic, when I fed up, I'm not 100% healthy mentally (but I see psychologist now). I didn't have too many friends, and the first time I had a proper romantic relationship was this year, when I was almost 23 (I'm 23 now). And it was probably because I was never cintent with myself, I hated how I looked (because I was told by my parents that I was fat), I hated the way I was (I mean, I hated that I can't excel in everything that I do, and I felt worthless)... and I think that kind of sat on my whole charisma. Now it's a lot better, thanks mostly to my fiancé/boyfriend, as he proved to me that I can loved unconditionally, and my flaws can be a turn on for people, and I don't have to be social expectation perfect to be liked.