Do you feel frustrated with silent treatment?

I hate my wife when she keep silent when there are problems that we need to solve quickly.

no I like silent treatment, in fact after a heated argument me myself refrain from talking. this enables both parties to think and reflect on the actions done. Eventually among siblings.. we talk after the silent treatment or the silence. but we don't talk about everything that had transpired, we talk anew. In this way we knew we were forgiven and everything has put in the past and forgotten. Start anew again without mentioning the past.

Hi, at this stage, it is very common to be panic but it is important to remain cool and solve the problem with patience. If the solution is not there, then we should consult it with the experienced personnel. Have a very nice day.

hi Shavkat, I am quite used to that silent treatment. My mother did that to me from the age of 14 when I had the audacity of saying let alone doing something she didnt approve of. My husband is great with this too. both overlook that the effect of that silent treatment wears off quickly. There comes a time when it wont matter any more and you just shrug it off and learn to live with it.

It doesnt bother me. years ago, when I was married and my ex would try and fight with me. Id just ignore him... he hated that. so much. But he learned not to try and pick a fight with me..

Silent treatment is fine with me. Whenever I and friends argue about something, we choose to keep silent for a while but it doesn't mean we're enemies. We just needed time to calm and wait for the time to have a good talk. Usually, when feeling is intense both parties may be able to say rude things unintentionally and could hurt each others feelings. Even if sorry can be done later, damage has been done. So to save hurting each other with bursting emotions, I go for silent treatment:D Works for me.

The silent treatment is one of my pet hates and I simply don't put up with it. If family does that, I will keep talking to them until they respond. I will give them some space to begin with, but after I feel they've had time to cool down, I will then wade in and tell them, I refuse to be on non-speaking terms. If a friend does that I will keep talking until they either respond or tell me that they no longer want contact with me ever again. If that's the case, then I will accept it, but if I see them on the street, I will say hello and not ignore them. It is up to them whether or not they say hello back. Life's too short to hold grudges in my opinion. _Derek

It is really frustrating when the issue was not resolved. And it should be taken for granted though there are times some claims it only a small issue. As bigger issues always starts small. And because it is only small, then, a silent attention is sometimes being given. Thus, this move is not a good one, who knows this could lead to a more complicated issue after all. However, there are times that being silent is much better as this will shut off the issue after some time. Anyway, in anything, perhaps, weigh the situation first.

Well, I must say that I did not understand much of what you wanted to express in your own thread. You spoke of the silent treatment. I think you meant that when you ask for help, no one will answer and for this reason, your problems are not resolved? Or did you mean that sometimes it is better not hear too much talk from people who end up in the meantime resolved with to nothing?

I can't say I feel frustrated but I do make my mind up about that person if that happens/would happen. If people (my friends/family, etc) are not able to behave normal, accept me the way I am or respect my opinion I tell them my opinion and delete them out of my life. I don't like people like that to waste my time, take away my positive energy. I just don't need friends like that.

Nothing ever gets resolved by remaining silent. Sooner or later one partner will end up leaving the relationship. Communication, trust, and love can not be built upon when there is silence.

I don't, I feel calm when everything is silent after arguing. I don't like follow up talks, I just want to be in one corner doing something else and not being disturbed. In this way, my mind is getting clear and my emotions are getting calm then eventually everything is fine with me.

Well for me when I argue with others and I'm certain that I'm the one whose right and they also know that, that makes me angry and makes me want to kill everybody :P but sometimes I'm be silly with others and I know that their right and my opinion is wrong. But when I am right and they are certain that their opinion is right and they just be silent or just shut up and don't talk about the argument any more. so sometimes it is frustrating.

We often face this dilemma. When you are arguing with a person over a topic, & after much talks & discussions they suddenly stop talking. There may be two case: 1. They have understood what you said, but they don't want to admit it. 2. They don't think it worth continuing the same topic. I myself many a times have discontinued discussions as people with whom you are discussing don't tend to understand your viewpoint. They just want to put their view & want us to submit to it. There is no use in continuing such one-sided discussion. A healthy discussion requires great communication skills. One has to be a good listener too in order to put forward your viewpoint. We need to understand other's point of view & then contradict, if required. Two-way communication is not that easy as it seems to be ;-)

I think that in a way the silent treatment is a good method. If both parties are extremely mad or even a little mad being silent keeps people from over-stepping the boundaries and saying something that they can't take back. Like I tell my daughter often, you can' take back what you say to another person whether you mean it or not and some of those things can't be forgiven.

I think its not fair when the problem has not resolve yet and silence remain there. So annoying, I will definitely went up to the person and talk it over.

I use this method all the time - its a lot more effective when the second party is just too stupid to argue with. If save a lot of energy and time.There is no use having an arguement with someone thats too thick to see another persons point of view

I guess it's because they don't want to escalate the argument further. If you know someone to be like this then there is no need to be frustrated. This is just a detente. Once everything cools off then the next logical thing to do is to get closure.

It is not good to leave someone guessing.People who close off during an argument can be frustrating indeed.What you need to do with such people is to change your approach.Your discussion or is it your arguments, should be engaging.Try to allow such a person to advance his arguments too.Sometimes the reason why some people shut off is because they are being dominated in an argument.Most likely you do not give chance to others to talk.I have done that before too.If someone tries to dominate a discussion and especially so if their view point is inferior to mine,i tend to keep quiet.The biggest asset that one can have in an argument is to listen.Get what the other person is saying and then advance your point too.Some people may cut off in an argument if you become too emotional to a point that you lose your temper.Normally a non violent person will keep quiet to avoid physical confrontation.

i completly agree with uh .even being silence is freaking hectic. if someone posses any wrong compliment or thing .. n after wrds stays completly silent frm his point too answer..it feels like .. to quarrel out n sort the mess out with them .. but unfortunatly we cannoy do so.. as they are our closed ones or known ones :))