Jump into Conclusion = Jealousy over Petty Things

I am irritated when my spouse ask me who call or even text. I think she didn't trust me for what I am doing right now. But before she was not pregnant yet, she don't care who texted me or called me but now she was change and I hate that attitude being jealous without proven evidence.

hmm depends on the previous situation... women and some men have intuitions. i don't where it is coming from but certainly we feel that there is something "not right" to some thing. then we begin to suspect. Maybe if I feel something not right to the person I would ask what the text was about and if he did not give me the straight answer I will freak out. He can lie, anyway, why just keep quiet. hmm i think it is wrong to lie.. hahaha.. anyway, he can reason out what ever it is if he doesn't want me to know but he could not just say drop it.. the more i will suspect that something is wrong. but usually i don't ask... he tells me.

I think being jealous is silly why waste your time and immotions on being jealous when there is probably nothing to it. My father in law used to say if a body went to someone else they wasnt your to begin with

Some people are more sensitive and predisposed to overreacting to small things, turning the and into an elephant. It's how they are structured and it takes a lot of effort to control jealousy, anger or frustration, as well as judging people before listening to what they have to say. I prefer not to judge and jump to conclusions immediately, although it happened to me and I was hurt. I mean I learn to be calmer and just the hard way. Ever since I prefer to learn all the circumstances and facts before I jump to any conclusions at all. And no, I won't freak out.

Jumping into a conclusion,in my opinion, is a tendency that shows the immaturity of a person.I had this tendency too.I was a middle school student then.I and one of my class mates were best friends.Something happened and we fell out.The enmity between us went on growing.One day I reminded that he had once borrowed a story book from me that he had not retuned by then.I quickly jumped to the conclusion that he was not going to reurn it to me.I got upset with anger,went to his nome,called him and asked him rudely to return my book instantly.He brought the book and said,'When you had lent me the book,it was torn and in a very bad condition.I have binded it.' He was right.The book was really in a precarious condition.And when my classmate returned it to me,it was hard bound and looking beautiful.I was ashamed.That was the day when I gave up my habit of reaching a conclusion without thinking properly.

Everything that is done in excess will always result to bad endings; that includes being overly jealous. Jealousy in itself is okay in healthy doses, it's such a good feeling to know that someone is scared to lose you. But if this jealousy blinds the person to see reason and even harms their loved ones then it is time to sit down and have serious talks. Instead if jumping into conclusions, it's best to have a talk and sort things out. Who knows, there might be nothing to get jealous of in the first place.

yes it is natural to get jealous but there should still be a basis. being overly jealous also puts your relationship at risk. just about too much of everything i not good if you ask me and that could only mean there is little trust in the relationship.

As the saying goes, "Don't start none, won't be none." In other words, if you don't want a problem, don't start it That works with the jealousy thing too. Going with your question, maybe I would , well I don't like to say "freak out" because it makes me think of someone going bat sh1t crazy and destroying the city in a vodka induced rage. I might certainly not be happy though, but it depends on certain factors. For me to have a negative reaction to that, my partner must done something before to cause me worry. maybe always hanging out with some man/woman that we both know has feelings for them and being overly secretive. What if that person is the one who sent the messages? In that case it doesn't really help to be told "its nothing " or "drop it". Maybe there was really nothing going on the whole time, but it did appear that way due to the partners behavior and failure to understand the others feelings. I do agree, people get jealous over petty things, but its not always as petty as it seems.

It has been my nature not to jump into conclusion the first time I encounter something "fishy". I always wanted to be equipped with facts and evidence before i could go on and blab all night! That way, I know when I am always right and he has no reason to deny!

Not me perhaps because I am used to it or not interested in it, but my husband is freaking out. Making up his own story and behaves like a 4 year old (goes to bed sheet over his head etc etc). Strange thing is he is the one who will never introduce me to someone else, is never sharing his working day with me (what shall I tell you every day is the same), etc. But if someone is asking me about where to buy a simcard....

That will freak me out if he says to drop the issue, fortunatley for me whenever I ask him something like this he answers straight to the point. I hope men just stop being stupid, if they are happy with their family then stay contented, if they're not happy then tell the truth.

It is a good discussion but it is really hard to answer. I know many people think that if you are over jealousy to the one who is hitting on your partner,that means you are not mature enough.But imagine that if a girl keeps sending the messages or doing something to please your boy friend and this time,your boyfriend doesn't refuse her directly.Don't you feel angry? As for me,I surely feel annoyed. But it is right to avoid overdoing it.Because the more you get jealous about it,the more impatient your partner feel. He will lose the desire to talk with you as you are jealous and can't not trust him anymore.And may be the result is he will go to find the one who shows concern for him.Finally he will break up with you and you will lose him because of the endless jealousy. If he really love you,no matter who gives him the signal of love,he will not be affected.

No, if you love your partner then you must trust him that is the essence of love. Each one of you is at your own lookout for the good of family but if trust lost then what is the reason to continue your relation?

hmmm jealous,why we should be jealous in something that is not worthy for us to jealous, as long as we trust each other and maintain a good communication there will be no an excessive jealousy

There would have to be more than just a text, call, or message for me to get jealous, and I've never been in the habit of freaking out. I'm usually pretty calm about things. I would respect the others privacy. Besides, they might be planning a nice surprise for me.

I am not the jealous type. I think that being jealous is a waste of time and power. If you don't trust the person than it's not worth being together. And in my opinion, this goes for any kind of relationship. Spouse, friend, work, anything. I find that jealousy it's constraining and at least for me, it's like strangling. Being under a microscop at all times, having to answer to stupid questions, not being able to go out with who I want and when I want, it's a big sign to stay away from that person. Confining someone to one's opinion it's too much energy going into the wrong direction. It is natural to want to be and to get attention from your partner, but everything has a limit. If your partner is not behaving properly it means that he/she does not consider you as a true partner and it;s time to say goodbye. That's my opinion.

My hubby used to be jealous like that and that was even before we got married. He would always want to know, who was calling or what the text message was from. And it would annoy me beyond any kind of measure. But I too would ask him about certain things as well. I think that if that person that is being asked has nothing to hide, then why would you not tell them who the text message is from. But no I don't think that people should jump to conclusions also. I mean because it could be a simple phone call or message from a family member, friend, or even a job. So there should be no jumping to conclusions, unless you have proof that they are doing something behind your back and it can be proven. Otherwise there should be no reason to jump to conclusions.

Yes it is natural to get jealous, but that does mean that we must make a fool of ourself whenever we feel like that. Sometimes, all you have to do is look on the bright side and try to control your feeling rather than letting it control you. Trust is earned and in order to get it you must be able to give it in return.

I usually don't jump to conclusions. I tend to be more calm and reasonable. However, I dislike when someone will not communicate with me. I don't like when someone just says "Don't worry about it." or "Just drop it." or "It's not important." Because I wouldn't ask about something or say something unless it mattered to me.

I agree with you, most times i become jealous, if any of my freinds get message from my old friends instead of me, but now a days i am learning to overcome that emotion, act maturely.