Can’t They Just Wait ?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
April 20, 2017 2:51am CST
Last night at about 9:30 in the evening, we heard all our dogs barking at the front gate.
There were two men by the front gate. They were looking for my brother-in-law, who earlier went out in his car together with the boy helper, to throw our garbage at the designated place.
They said that my brother-in-=law, side swept their motorcycle, parked outside too, near where my brother-in-law always parks his car at that vacant lot , fronting our house since he would always still go out at night. He would finally have it driven to our garage, once he decides he won’t be going out anymore.
So my hubby talked to the two guys to wait for his brother to come back.
However, in a little while, here they come again, asking for the plate number of my brother-in-law’s car.
My hubby got annoyed and told them to just wait because he will surely pay the broken side mirror. He further said that we are neighbors, why would they make a blotter out of this small incident, when it will just be paid, as to whatever was damaged.
So when brother-in-law came back, he apologized and gave them money which they dictated, for the side mirror of the motorcycle.
Would you be like those men, make an issue out of it, when all they have to do is just wait for my brother-in-law to come back and make him pay, since anyway our houses are just side by side?
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34 responses
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
it seems like your brother-in-law was aware of the incident. why didn't anyone text him that there are people waiting for him?
i agree, though, that they acted as if it was a massive hit-and-run and your brother-in-law has become a fugitive! hahaha!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
Actually, he is not. He just came to know about it when he arrived. He knows it could really be him who hit the side mirror, because the motorcycle was there in a bit far place from him. Though he has to manuever going out from that place so its most likely he hit it.
We didn't text him anymore, because we know that he will soon be coming back with our helper.
Yes, as if it was a big amount. It was just for 550 pesos or $11 , for the side mirror. 
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@allknowing (136579)
• India
21 Apr 17
Wonder why they were suspicious - very odd considering you are neighbours.
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@allknowing (136579)
• India
21 Apr 17
@cacay1 Most neighbours are bad. We too have one (lol)
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@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Apr 17
@allknowing bad neighbors cannot wait for the person.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
why didn't they complain to the barangay hall? if the amount they asked is not right for the damage, that could be a case of harassment. i believe the situation should be documented. did anybody take picture of the 2 men? or the motorcycle that was sideswiped by the car?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
@ridingbet They didn't They were the ones who stated the amount. 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD i hope they won't go back to your 'bayaw' when the amount they asked is not enough.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
20 Apr 17
They sound like bothersome people who make mountains out of molehills really.
Mind you it would be like that here.
Lucky for us there is plenty of Parking Space but even so they will park right next to you if they feel like it.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
21 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD
A situation like that I have come across before more than once. He even kept ringing me up various times of the night and three years later he had not forgotten.
He based it all on that someone had said that they had seen my Hub park by him and he assumed that it was him because of the say so of someone else.
This Country works like that very much afraid it does.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
They are not actually our neighbors. They are just visitors of our neighbors- one is the brother of the male spouse, who is abroad working.
So that's why they don't actually know my brother-in-law to be an honest man. He didn't even know he hit the motorcycle, though he didn't complain when they told him so, because he has seen the motorcycle to be there too, when he parked his car earlier on, coming from his office.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
20 Apr 17
They are anxious ..But are they normally friendly neighbours before the accident?..
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
Actually the owner of the house is the brother of one of them . They go there to visit once in a while.
Our neighbors are kind. I always would go there when we discuss some concerns like the street lights to be replaced when busted. We ( 4 neighbors) share on those things.
So, they thought my BIL won't pay them.
@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Apr 17
@epiffanie Maybe those neighbors are afraid not to get paid,
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@Iam_jauntyjen (5017)
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21 Apr 17
they should have waited instead. How much did your BIL pay?
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@Iam_jauntyjen (5017)
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21 Apr 17
@cacay1 i guess it was not overpriced. I remembered our former neighbor who charged my husband 75pesos for a mineral water
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
20 Apr 17
This was very bad in their part
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Apr 17
@amitkokiladitya Yes. But aren't we sometimes too, but not in that way.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
21 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD some people are so impatient
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
I hope so too. My BIL after having told about it, paid them when they stated the amount. He didn't like to be bothered by them anymore that's why.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
If it was my car that was side swept by your brother in law, it is indeed an issue. Why? Because I was taught that when accidents like that happen it is mandatory to report it to the nearest police station for a blotter report to be prepared not because I am planning to sue your BIL but because it is required by the car insurance company so I could have it fixed at no participation cost. It doesn't matter whether it's my neighbor who did it or a stranger. It is a must.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD It's not a question of whether he is honest or not. The insurance company requires a blotter report. That's my reason to have it reported and nothing else. Or else I won't be able to have my car fixed with the insurance paying for it.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
@toniganzon Oh i see. Even just a motorcycle, it is like that?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
Actually, my BIL didn't know he hit the motorcyle. I am sure if he knows, he would have knocked at our neighbors and told them he will pay for whatever damages because they will just be coming back after they have thrown the garbage at the place of disposal.
Much more, if it is a car he accidentally hit. He will let pay for it. He is an honest guy. He is now the assistant manager of Land Bank and will be awarded a loyalty award for having been with the bank for 28 years, comes November.
Those two men were just actually there at our neighbors overnight. So, they are impatient to be paid.
@jobelbojel (35646)
• Philippines
22 Apr 17
Those men aren't neighbors because of their attitude. I would wait for the person instead of rushing things.
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@jobelbojel (35646)
• Philippines
25 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD that explained why they acted like that.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
You are funny. Actually, it's okay with us when they first told us about it, because they know it's my brother-in-law's car not my husband's, since ours is at the garage. Not being used if not important and long distance places. Gasoline is expensive , remember. 
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
20 Apr 17
They definitely should have waited and talked to your brother-in-law when he got back. There was no need to bother you and your husband or to involve you in the matter.
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@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Apr 17
@Happy2BeMe , That is true, they are barking up a wrong tree.
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@diosabella (4789)
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21 Apr 17
I don't want to be rude or saying bad things to other people but nowadays a lot of people wanted to make easy money out of every one. Making a big deal of something that is so small.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
@diosabella If they come back , they will be reported to the police already.
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@Gunchie (69)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
21 Apr 17
I think this is the turn of the times where idealism in big cities, which is always lacking tolerance, suspicion, and no room for mutual protection. Try interacting neighbors to change from mutual suspicion to mutual preservation of the environment. Hope this helps
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
Actually , the two are just visitors, maybe there for stay overnight. So, they don't know that our BIL is a good person, who will own up to his mistake had he know about it. Had he known that he accidentally hit the side mirror, he would have actually knocked at their gate to settle the matter.
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