WHY DO YOU THINK PEOPLE BULLY?
By Amaka
@ammyluv (611)
Abuja, Nigeria
March 16, 2018 4:43pm CST
Hi everyone,
I hope you guys are having a fun filled day. As for me, it's almost time for bed here.
During my high school days, I was bullied a lot. There was this girl in my class, she was so brilliant that the teachers in my school loved her, but she was a bully.
The whole class were afraid of her. I would carry her school bag for her. She would eat my food without asking for my permission. We practically worshipped her foot. She would take the little money that I have with me and would always ask me to sing for her.
I wouldn't tell anyone at home not even my siblings. I was dying in silence! I lost confidence in myself and I felt so little. She kept up with it for a very long time. I would do errands for her and her squad.
One day, I came to school and she asked me to bring my food that she was hungry. Something inside of me muttered a word. I openly told her "No", but she thought I was joking. I insisted and took my stand. She looked at me and then walked away. I held my heart thinking she will probably kill me, but that was the end.
She never bullied me till we left school. She somehow became afraid of me and wanted to be my friend by all means. But, my strength renewed.
Now, looking at it, why do people bully? Why can't people speak up just like in my case. Till this every minute, I still can't figure out why I wouldn't speak. It's not as if she warned me never to speak to anyone, but I just didn't have the will power to speak up.
Yes, I was able to challenge her at some point, but not everyone has the courage to do so. Secondly, owning the fact, that my country is not a well developed country where you can easily report to the authorities.
It wasn't a good experience!
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17 responses
@marguicha (225486)
• Chile
16 Mar 18
We could not report anything like that when we were children then, not even to our parents. I am sure that there are many reasons to be bullied. Maybe we should go into how their families are.
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@marguicha (225486)
• Chile
17 Mar 18
@ammyluv I was bullied most of my early childhood. It was terrible and I felt alone in my misery.
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@ammyluv (611)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar 18
@marguicha I felt the same way too. I'm thankful those days are over
@JudyEv (348064)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Mar 18
Children who are bullied have a terrible time. It's even worse now I think with cyber bullying. Worse isn't the right word but I guess with cyber bullying there is no let up from it. I'm glad you were able to stand up to this girl in the end.
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@toniganzon (72548)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
There are several reasons why people bully. The only ones I could think of are one, insecurity, and two, they're also being bullied in their own home and it's their way to retaliate by bullying others who are weaker than them.
@toniganzon (72548)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
@ammyluv Bullies know exactly how to bully because they'll never touch anybody they know they couldn't handle. They can easily see who their victims would be. If you wouldn't speak up the first time, there will always be a next time.
@ammyluv (611)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar 18
@toniganzon "Bullies know exactly how to bully because they'll never touch anybody they know they couldn't handle." This is deep and made a lot of sense. I can now understand better
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@Namelesss (3365)
• United States
16 Mar 18
When you are bullied it is always implied that no one talks about it. Bullies bully because they can. That girl was likely a little tyrant on the playground in grade school and likely anyone who popped her got into trouble. So the victims learned to be silent and the bully learned she could get her way.
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@mohit459 (12564)
• Haldwani, India
17 Mar 18
@ammyluv and never pay attention to such as these people always criticise you for everything you do.
But don't listen what they say.. people who can't do something on their life always criticize others so that they may also feel demotivated..
So cheer up..
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
11 Apr 18
Many times it could be because they are being abused at home and seeking some form of attention, or sometimes thinking this is the way to get back at people, especially those who might be Shy or different from them. Many times they will never know the damage they've done unless God wakes them up
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
1 Apr 18
@ammyluv
Amaka, good for you for standing up to her. I think people may bully someone because they could have been bullied so they find someone they can manipulate. They like power over another person. They do not care. Those are things I feel why they bully someone.
@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
Bullies are lack of attention it's just their defense mechanism to bully people so they could get the attention they needed.
@Blacklisted9322 (70)
• Trinidad And Tobago
19 Mar 18
I have tried many times to figure out why people bully people and the best that I can accept, is that hurt people, hurt people.. it’s a quote I read somewhere a while back, and it makes sense.
@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
17 Mar 18
Your pain was my pain . I was also bullied alot during my school days.
@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
17 Mar 18
@ammyluv Just like yours. I found it very difficult to have friends. My school life was the worst one. I am more happy in my college life
@Betxie1221 (469)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
maybe they bully because of lack of attention in their home... usually that's their reasons...
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
17 Mar 18
It might be the upbringing and the person’s surroundings. One is not born with hate but if that person sees that doing painful things to others is a norm or is okay, the person will do the same. It may be because of lack of attention in the family that they look for attention by bullying.
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
17 Mar 18
I was bullied also. I think people bully because they themselves have self esteem issues. They may be abused in their own home. Could be a myriad of reasons, but it doesn't make it right. :-(
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
17 Mar 18
I faced intense bullying too - many bullies do it just because they can - and some schools just see it as part of growing up, expecting the meek qiuiet kids to toughen up so the staff often ignore it until the situation gets out of control
