How do you feel about promises?

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By Hope
@1hopefulman (45120)
Canada
June 2, 2018 9:00pm CST
Is it important to keep one's promises? Does it matter whether one keeps them or not? Do you keep your promises? How should one feel about making and keeping a promise? How do you feel about people that don't keep their promises?
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Jun 18
I keep my promises but I don't promise lightly. I have to be sure I'll be able to keep my promise before I make it. And I also keep secrets. I never, ever divulge a secret.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
@JudyEv I'm sure that everyone appreciates that you are a person of your word.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@JudyEv , many said promise is a promise and should not be broken, but so sad many do not fulfill a promise especially love.
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Jun 18
@cacay1 Yes, it is sad when people break their promise.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
3 Jun 18
Hi Felix. As much as I could I try to fulfill my promises but most of the time I fail.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@mlgen1037, It is not easy if someone tells us " No words of honor." The reason is so numerous hard to elaborate one by one.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Hi Louise! Is it because you promise too much?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@1hopefulman Yes and I thought I can make it but most of the time I am unable to do it. I feel terribly sad.
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@LadyDuck (471992)
• Switzerland
3 Jun 18
If I am not 100% that I can maintain a promise, I do not promise. I think it's very rude and impolite to promise easily and do not maintain. We already have politicians who do this all the time.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
I feel as you do! Once a person does not keep one promise then they have lost the trust of honest people. Everything they say after that is suspect.
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@LadyDuck (471992)
• Switzerland
5 Jun 18
@1hopefulman Exactly like you, I do not trust anymore someone who breaks a promise.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Jun 18
@LadyDuck , You got that very wise decision, in that case no one gets hurt in case a promise fails.
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@rakski (125766)
• Philippines
3 Jun 18
I don't make any promises I cannot keep.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
@rakski I wish there were more people like you! How do you feel about people who don't keep their promises?
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@rakski (125766)
• Philippines
3 Jun 18
@cacay1 because I do not want people to have false hope. If I can, then I wont
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@rakski You are a very good girl my dear.It is hard to face a circumstance if fail a promise.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
3 Jun 18
I don't make promises if i make i will keep it.it's hard to keep the promise in all situations...As promise is a trust one should not break it.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
Great! How do you feel when someone makes a promise to you but does not keep it?
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Jun 18
@Icydoll, it is indeed hard to promise if not fulfilled. It hurst if a promise is broken, heart will be broken.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
6 Jun 18
@cacay1 yeah it's hurt a lot .
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
Did you make a promise you couldn't keep? I have no respect for people who don't keep their promises. I never make a promise I can't keep and that is why I never make promises. Not even a New Years resolution. I like to remain true to myself and others.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
People have great confidence in my word as I am a person of my word. I also rarely make promises as I know how unpredictable life can be and I hate to disappoint anyone.
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@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Jun 18
Keeping promises is so important. Usually I don't want to make a promise easily as I am afraid I can't do it. I have to make sure I can keep it so that I will say it. In general, I will just say I'll try and it is already enough for me.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
4 Jun 18
That's exactly what I so as I know how I feel when somebody makes a promise and then they don't keep it. I would rather that they don't make me any promises because if they do then I expect them to keep the promise unless something serious happens and then I expect them to tell me what happened and why they are unable to keep theor word.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Jun 18
@youless , very true, it is not easy to be called not keeping a promise.It would hurt someone.Better not to ppromise at all.
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@momalisa65 (1971)
• United States
3 Jun 18
Yes, I keep my promises. Jesus said to let your Yes mean Yes and your No mean No, So I try not to make promises I may not be able to keep. If someone asks me if I can do something, I always say I will check and get back to them. I say no to lots of things when I am not certain I will feel like doing them when I’m very busy. It is not a good feeling when someone makes a promise and does not keep it. It makes me not really believe them the next time.
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• United States
4 Jun 18
@1hopefulman Yes brother, he does.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
4 Jun 18
So true! I would rater that someone doesn't make a promise then that they do and not keep it. Yes, God expects us to keep our word!
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
3 Jun 18
I feel really strongly about promises. When one makes one, one should keep it. I try my best to do that too
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
Great! I think all the people that keep their promises answered this post.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@lady1993, There are promises that need a must to fulfill in a workforce and in a relationship to avoid troubles.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
6 Jun 18
If I make a promise, I keep it. I don't really know if anyone hasn't kept their promise to me. I wouldn't be pleased if they broke one.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
7 Jun 18
@DianneN I know!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Jun 18
That's great! That's the way everyone should be. Make a promise and keep the promise.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
7 Jun 18
@1hopefulman Unfortunately, not everyone can be trusted to keep a promise.
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@Shiva49 (26765)
• Singapore
5 Jun 18
"My word is my bond" has been my way all the time. If I cannot keep a promise, I will feel more let down than the one I promised to. If they have a valid and convincing reason, I move on. Otherwise, I would feel let down - siva
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Jun 18
@Shiva49 I feel the same way!
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Jun 18
@Shiva49, very well said.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Jun 18
A promise is an agreement meant to be fulfilled.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
4 Jun 18
That's what I always thought but some feel it is just something they say without attaching any meaning to their words. Apparently Emperor Napoleon I said: "If you want to get on in this world, make many promises but don't keep them."
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@JohnRoberts, That is true, if fail a promise the person will say : No words of honor."
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@Kandae11 (55131)
3 Jun 18
Some people make promises they know they can't or won't keep. Some make promises which they manage to keep. Others make promises and fail to keep them because of unexpected happenings - I'd rather not make a promise if I am not sure I will be able to keep it.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
@Kandae11 When I give my word on something, I always say that I'll do my best but make no promises as I know that life is unpredictable and I alway promise less than I know that I can do.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@Kandae11, you are certainly right, but there are promises that must be fulfilled no matter what like in a work place-a promise to substitute a class for example, and a promise to visit a sick friend or relative. These cases are hard to break.In my case, I do not promise something beyond my reach and capacity to avoid conflicts.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Jun 18
"Promises are made to be broken". this is what some people say, I admit sometimes I made promises and I didn't keep it.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@Jessabuma, me too, there were promises made and broken but reasons are so valid and excusable.I better do not promise to avoid troubles
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
Yes, and some other people say: "A promise is a promise." We should only make promises that we can keep. Though there can be some difficult situations at times that make it impossible for us to keep it but then we should give a good explanation to the person that we promised. It is only right and fair. What do you think?
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@cacay1 yes I agree with you, we should not make promises that we can't keep..
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@popciclecold (39461)
• United States
7 Jun 18
I think if all be possible to keep your promises, but sometimes life intervenes that can prevent it.
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• United States
7 Jun 18
@1hopefulman Yes I would too
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
7 Jun 18
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
7 Jun 18
Yes! True but when some unforeseen situation occurs then we can approach the person and make other arrangements so that they are not totally disappointed and devastated.
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
4 Jun 18
Hey Felix! I'm back. I don't like making promises as I don't want to give false hope to people. I don't want to disappoint them. I like giving them surprises. When I use the expression 'it's a promise,' people knew that I only say it in jest or when we're just kidding around and having some silly conversation. But when it's something serious, I don't make promises. I just tell them I'll try to and I will try my best. I don't want to disappoint people as I don't want to be disappointed as well.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
Welcome back! I'm like you! I don't want to give false hope and I don't like to get it either. When I was working I had a motto that I kept to myself that I would always promise a bit less than I knew I could deliver and gained the trust of my customers that they often referred their friends to me.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
@toniganzon I do my best!
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
@1hopefulman And that makes you a real trustworthy person.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
I always keep my promises and if I fail, I have to explain to avoid conflict and pain. It is so painful if someone does not fullfill a promise especially a promise of love.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
4 Jun 18
I feel the same! Better not to promise than to promise and keep one's word.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Jun 18
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Jun 18
@1hopefulman , I agree with you, better not to say any promise at all.Let the time directs our destiny with faith and trust.
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@andriaperry (117133)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Jun 18
I take promises as never. if I say I will do something I do.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@andriaperry, it is not good to promise and just break it, better do not promise to avoid some arguments in the future.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
@andriaperry I'm sure that everyone you deal with has a lot of confidence in your word.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
5 Jun 18
Promise is a bonding word!!! One lady told me i promised her a TV!!!! I didn't promise anything!!! I said I would get her a TV or see about it or something like that!! But not promise!!!! Big difference!!!! I try 2 say I will do something if I can!!!!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Jun 18
Yes, people expect us to keep out promises and our word. Then we have peoples that are unreasonable in their expectations.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
7 Jun 18
@db20747 It was a cool day but I had a wonderful spiritual day away from the computer. How was your day?
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
6 Jun 18
@1hopefulman How R U Felix 2 day!!!
@lynnief (1203)
• Australia
3 Jun 18
I always try to keep promises. I believe it is part of trust. If someone didn't keep a promise to me, unless there was some unavoidable circumstance that prevented it, I would find it very difficult to trust that person again.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
That is a very true observation that keeping one's promises and trust go hand in hand. How can one trust someone that doesn't keep their word?
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