Hats Off To The Bride.

Wedding, Doffing hats
By Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
United Kingdom
July 13, 2018 2:13pm CST
Does this sort of thing happen any more? We recently had our 53rd wedding anniversary, so I decided to look at our wedding photos. I came across the one above where I had all these men doffing their hats to me. I wonder if this was unusual as I've never seen any other similar photos. If you are married did you have anything like this at your wedding?
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
13 Jul 18
Yes they used to do that sort of thing in 1865. The old traditions are sadly dying out Janet. Happy 53rd to you and hour husband,. Next big one for you is diamond!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
1865??? I'm not quite that old Gary I hope we make the Diamond
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
@garymarsh6 Thanks Gary
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
@jaboUK Haha well spotted! Slip of the finger Janet I sincerely hope that you will both make your Diamond wedding!
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@xFiacre (13012)
• Ireland
13 Jul 18
@jabouk Congratulations! Never witnessed doffing on such occasions. What is common though is the groom's party wearing kilts whether or not they are of Scottish descent. At the less decorous weddings the men invariably lift their kilts and show their bottoms. I refuse to attend kilted weddings because there are some things I don't need to see.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Jul 18
I'm with you about the kilts, though I do think men look nice in them. I can do without seeing what's underneath though.. (I'm coming to see if you've written any more of your African adventure ).
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@Juliaacv (51190)
• Canada
14 Jul 18
As the bride I did have photos taken of the guys all holding me up. But I do love your picture much better, a lot more classy. Happy anniversary (belated)
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@Juliaacv (51190)
• Canada
14 Jul 18
@jaboUK I have to learn how to use our scanner and then I'll share. Although they are old photos and might bring quite a lot of laughter to anyone who views them.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
@Juliaacv I haven't got a scanner - I just take photos of the old photos and get them on here that way.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
I'd love to see your picture too, and I'm pleased that you like mine. Thanks for the good wishes ;
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@LadyDuck (471497)
• Switzerland
14 Jul 18
I married in a Catholic Church, the men had no hat on their heads, I was greeted with throwing rice when I stepped outside the Church. I was going through my wedding photos a few days ago. I found two full albums in my mom's apartment. Belated Happy Anniversary Janet.
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@LadyDuck (471497)
• Switzerland
15 Jul 18
@jaboUK Usually men in Italy did not wear the hat when they knew they had to go to Church. I am going to scan some of my photos, where I am alone, I know that my husband does not like that i share his photos online.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
15 Jul 18
@LadyDuck I can understand your husband not liking recent photos being put online, but those from long ago - surely he wouldn't mind them? Not many of us are recognisable in old photos.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
The men didn't wear their hats in the church - it's funny that it's ok for the women to do that, but not the men. They wore them before and after the ceremony. Do you feel like sharing some of your wedding photos? I'd love to see them. Thanks for the anniversary wishes Anna
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
13 Jul 18
no we did not.But a lovely gesture there.I love the poto
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Jul 18
It is a nice photo, isn't it? Unusual.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Jul 18
@amadeo I felt very proud
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
13 Jul 18
@jaboUK yes it is very nice.Glad that you have it.This is so different. How did you feel when t his was happening
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
14 Jul 18
That is such a nice photo, and a lovely gesture. Was it outside the church? We don't have that custom here . No hats for one thing, some communities have a head gear called turban
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
This was actually taken in the grounds of the hotel where we held the reception.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
@responsiveme Thanks Arundhati
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• India
14 Jul 18
@jaboUK very grand and all look so happy. Glad it was a sunny day for you to take this pic
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
14 Jul 18
That's a great photo. Did not know wearing hats was still in fashion. Thought it was an ancient style.
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
14 Jul 18
@jaboUK Fifty three is not ancient by my standards.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
Well this IS ancient! People still wear these sort of clothes when going to the races at Royal Ascot and Epsom.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
@allknowing It's all relative Grace - 53 years is a long time to be married
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• China
14 Jul 18
Happy 53rd wedding anniversary to you and your husband! The photo jogged your happy memory .I have not seen the sort of hat in real life excepting in films.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
Thank you Chang, it was quite normal for men to dress like that at weddings.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
14 Jul 18
Not something we do here in the states but I think it is a lovely tradition. You are a gorgeous bride and happy belated anniversary.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
15 Jul 18
@jaboUK lol I think we would all like to look as we did on our wedding day!!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
Thank you Iz - I wouldn't mind looking like that now.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
15 Jul 18
@BelleStarr Too true
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@DeborahDiane (40292)
• Laguna Woods, California
24 Jul 18
@jaboUK - Wow! I have never seen that in the United States, even in old pictures. However, it is a charming custom!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 18
It does seem to be unusual - so far none of the commenters have seen anything similar.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
25 Jul 18
@DeborahDiane Of course I remember her, please give her my regards Here's a picture of my husband (centre) with his father and brother wearing their hats.
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• Laguna Woods, California
25 Jul 18
@jaboUK - I just had lunch with @ElizabethWallace (remember her) and told her about your post. She said she could not even recall a wedding where the men wore hats, so she thought your picture must be very special.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
14 Jul 18
You made a very beautiful bride! The men didn't wear hats to doff at my wedding. I was raised in a chair by the men and paraded around.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
Thanks Dianne, I would love to see you in that chair
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
14 Jul 18
@jaboUK With me screaming in fear? No way!
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
14 Jul 18
Does that gesture imply same thing as 'bowing'? Belated Happy Anniversary
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
Not quite bowing, more saluting.
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@NJChicaa (119610)
• United States
13 Jul 18
We got married at sunset on a beach in Mexico. Only 16 people there plus the judge. I love your picture!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Jul 18
Your wedding sounds very romantic
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@NJChicaa (119610)
• United States
13 Jul 18
@jaboUK It was wonderful.
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@Kasjnak (4489)
• Romania
14 Jul 18
Nothing like that at our wedding, but that is one great photo! My congratulations for the 53th anniversary, I hope there will be many more for you!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 18
Thanks so much, I appreciate you saying that.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
15 Jul 18
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@Kasjnak (4489)
• Romania
15 Jul 18
@jaboUK no problem, it was my pleasure. I really love this photo .
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
22 Jul 18
Happy belated Anniversary. This is a very interesting photo. I would frame it and hang it on the wall for a conversation piece. I got married at the local magistrate. Nothing interesting there.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
22 Jul 18
@jaboUK I did. So much easier than having to stress over all of those arrangements.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
22 Jul 18
Thanks Shellyann. I expect you enjoyed your day even if it wasn't a church wedding.
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@Inlemay (17713)
• South Africa
23 Jul 18
I think that is a lovely gesture - I have an old guy at bowls what when I draw a good shot he tips his hat for me
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 18
My husband always does that when greeting a lady.
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@Shiva49 (26680)
• Singapore
23 Jul 18
That shows respect and appreciation, I believe. It is well deserved indeed; after all, you have crossed half a century. In our rituals, there are some carried forward from days when marriages were conducted when both the bride and groom were still not adults. They include some games and songs to encourage the couple to know each other. Now one waits to get settled in life and sometimes they unsettle a settled life sadly! Lots have changed now with the rich overdoing each other in terms of extravagance - siva
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 18
I've read about marriages between children in your part of the world, it seems a strange practice to me.
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@Shiva49 (26680)
• Singapore
23 Jul 18
@jaboUK It is no more in practice except, maybe, in tribal communities. The girls have put their foot down and are more independent than previously - siva
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
8 Oct 18
@jaboUK I have never seen anything like that before. Wow, 53 years. That is a very long time. Congrats o that.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 18
Thank you Hanni
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
9 Oct 18
@jaboUK You are welcome.
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@nela13 (58667)
• Portugal
20 Mar 19
You were a beautiful bride
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar 19
Thank you, I appreciate you saying that.
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@nela13 (58667)
• Portugal
21 Mar 19
@jaboUK You are welcome
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Mar 19
Oh wow what a wonderful memory. I have never seen this done. So much has changed these days. Nothing like that any more I am pretty sure. Now those were gentlemen and a beautiful bride.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
20 Mar 19
What a lovely comment, thank you Carol
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
20 Mar 19
@jaboUK You are very welcome my friend.
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