Should I start dating again?

I don't know if a new male attention would help me feel better about myself but I don't want to use people to heal. Because it's unfair.

@flapiz Don't take a breakup to mean you should feel bad about yourself. You don't need a partner in order to make you feel better. You already have what you need to feel better. You have moved on from a relationship that wasn't working. That's a good thing. You recognize it. Many people stay in relationships like that. Move past it and look forward to the new opportunities ahead. There might be a good match for you in your life right now. It would be a shame to miss out because you felt you had to wait. If you're honest with new people about the healing you feel that you need, they may just be willing to help you. You wouldn't be using them, they would be helping YOU. It would be fair that way.

@Vikingswest1 I will definitely be honest to the new person I meet because I am emotionally still healing. You are very wise.

@flapiz To me that would be the best thing. So many people end up in bad relationships because as soon as they get out of one they jump right into another. Don't be in a hurry, you'll know when your ready to start dating again, no one should push you into it.

@Gillygirl I think I would just tell them to not worry about you, worry about themselves and their relainships.

Thank you. I'm planning to meet up friendly dates and see if I'm ready enough. I don't feel like I am there yet emotionally I want to process my grief properly.

@flapiz Good deal! Just don't close yourself off. Be open to new opportunities when they come knocking and don't take any pressure from anyone. You know yourself better than they do!

@kareng I know I am trying to be more open this time as a week has passed and I don't feel like my ex misses me.

It does make sense. I will try to meet people and see how I go but I won't pressure myself to jump to the next relationship yet.

@flapiz It's definitely not an easy period. Take some time to focus on you. Don't feel bad about yourself.

@dodo19 It's strange cause sometimes I'm perfectly okay and then there are days where I feel really miserable.

I know. Part of me wants to date part of me still hanging on. And I feel bad about myself.

I'm still praying my ex would wake up. He did text me asking how I was and that he was thinking of me. And he's more than happy to Mail my things or if I would like to come over to collect them. I don't understand him and to be honest I don't know what to reply.

@moffittjc I don't know he could be civil without telling me that he still thinks of me with the OBVIOUSLY. It feels so confusing for me.

@flapiz Wow, he breaks up with you but is still being nice to you. At least he's being civil about the whole thing. Of course, that doesn't do much to help you understand the situation any better. But it was nice of him to ask you how you're doing.

Reti he's giving me super mixed signals I'm really confused.

@reti_9 that's what I'm doing as I have to preserve my self worth.

@flapiz distance to the people who make you confuse its not helping for your situation. Focus the good things that happen in your life.

I definitely don't want a rebound but I do think I want to see what's out there and just meet people.

@Shavkat too soon for that.

@flapiz Socializing is fine but not to be intimate.

Thank you Ana I do want to just meet people not with the intent of dating. Just to see what's out there. I'm going to a birthday party in Bristol this weekend. I hope I meet someone interesting.

@LadyDuck yeah I am single after all why not act like one.

@flapiz - This is a wonderful idea, meet people and have fun and when you will meet someone you really like you can decide if it's the time to start dating again.

Yeah if I find the zing I will try but yeah won't hurt to meet people even just as friends.

Yeah I don't like hooking up. It makes me feel dirty and lonelier. I would like to genuinely meet good people though and see my options.

I'm trying indeed to keep an open mind as I'm still pretty in love with my ex. We just broke up a week now.

@ihasaquestion I am planning to explore Bristol well!

@flapiz I see. Well, go out with friends and enjoy. Try to keep yourself occupied.

I don't know where I got the three months rule.

@CarolDM yeah I'm just going to listen to how I feel.

@flapiz You can read anything but it is entirely up to you.

A lot of practical people tell me the same.

@Faster16 I've decided to meet people but not with intent to start a relationship but rather to see what's out there.

@flapiz maybe it's the best choice for you

Part of me thinks that dating will get my mind of things. I want to feel beautiful again.

I don't want to force it but I am curious to try it and see how I'll feel.

Enjoying being single includes dating and meeting new people no?

My mind is telling me to date my heart is telling me to wait a little.