I'm in a rage!
By Sharon Elton
@sharonelton (28882)
Lichfield, England
October 28, 2023 9:36am CST
After my dinner/lunch today, I was uploading some YouTube videos to premiere, when somebody rang the doorbell. I thought it was my brother David come to fetch my nephews presents, but no. It was the roofing man come to see if my step-dad was in.
I went and told my Mum that there was a fella at the door asking for my step-dad. She was in the dining room asleep snoring at the time. She went to talk to the guy at the door while I went to chase a couple of rats away that were eating the birds food that was dropping to the patio. As soon as I opened the patio door they scurried away! I went to where they had been and I saw a tail disappear into the hedge so I know where they're coming from.
I went back into the living room to finish off uploading my YouTube videos, and my Mum went upstairs to get my step-dad to come and have a word with the fella at the door. They were talking about the roof and that, and then they came into the house and went into my bedroom without my permission! 
THAT is what I'm raging about! When they came out of my bedroom they didn't even close the door properly!
They reckon there's damp up the corner of my bedroom because of the roof, but all I can see are shadows. What do you think? (Picture above.)
THAT is what I'm raging about! When they came out of my bedroom they didn't even close the door properly!
They reckon there's damp up the corner of my bedroom because of the roof, but all I can see are shadows. What do you think? (Picture above.)15 people like this
16 responses
@Vikingswest1 (6304)
• United States
28 Oct 23
It's perfectly normal for a roofing contractor to physically examine the job site. Inside and out.
I'm assuming that since your Dad was speaking to the roofer, he allowed the access to your room.
I see a possible moisture issue in those shadows in your photo. It's difficult to know from a photo. A physical inspection would be required in order to determine the extent of the issue.
It's important to determine just where the roof is suspect so it can be addressed before water damages multiply the condition.
Someone must have called this roofer, right?
I understand how you feel about an intruder in your space, but I would be very cautious of a roofer that DIDN'T inspect inside and out.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
Sure, but he should ask first if he wants to see my private bedroom! He asked last time he came, but that doesn't mean he can just walk in this time without asking! It's rude, intrusive and disrespectful! It's not my step-dad's business to give access to my room! He should ask permission too!
No, the roofer came on spek claiming he thought there was something wrong with our roof. No-one called him! And now he keeps on coming round asking if my step-dad has decided what he wants to do. He told my step-dad to call him if he wanted to do anything about it. He should wait till my step-dad calls him, and if he doesn't call presume my step-dad doesn't want anything done!
My brother came round yesterday and looked at the roof, and he asked before he went in my bedroom to look at my ceiling! He said he couldn't see anything wrong and not to bother going ahead with what the roofer wants to do because he thinks he's just touting for business. Which just saved my step-dad £650!
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
@porwest The roofs not likely to collapse.
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@snowy22315 (180767)
• United States
28 Oct 23
They should have asked. I guess since you weren't in there, they didn't feel they had to.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
I know, you're right! They should have asked! That's no excuse! It's my private space!
That's no excuse! It's my private space! 2 people like this
@PinkFloydFan (1095)
• United States
28 Oct 23
@sharonelton That's another reason I moved out!
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
@PinkFloydFan Oh, I'd love to move out! If only!
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@LadyDuck (471547)
• Switzerland
29 Oct 23
@sharonelton 
I do not see water here, may be it's just a bit of humidity.
I do not see water here, may be it's just a bit of humidity.2 people like this
@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
@LadyDuck No, all I see is shadow. The roofer guy must have very good eyesight! 
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
Thank you very much, yes, it was extremely rude! Yes, they should.
Thank you. I'm glad it's not just me.
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@paigea (36317)
• Canada
29 Oct 23
@sharonelton I was watching it this morning when I read your post.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
Yes, it is pretty annoying. Thank you very much. I will, thanks. I should put a lock on my door!
Yes, that is indeed Paul Gross from Due South. Love a bit of Due South me. 
Yes, that is indeed Paul Gross from Due South. Love a bit of Due South me. 2 people like this
@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
@paigea Ah. How lovely! Which episode were you watching?.
Which episode were you watching?.2 people like this
@porwest (90911)
• United States
29 Oct 23
@sharonelton Just curious who owns the house? Do you pay rent to live there? I guess it helps me to have an opinion one way or the other.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
OK. Thank you very much. No, they didn't ask anyone. And it's not up to my Mum (she's my real Mum not my step Mum), It's my room not my Mums. It's my private space and they should have asked first wether I was in there or not.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
Yes, it is. You are so right!
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
Yes, men are ignorant! I could say something but it would get flagged on MyLot as a "Bad Word".
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@RebeccasFarm (89883)
• Arvada, Colorado
28 Oct 23
Um..I am sure I do not see any damp spots..
And what a nerve of them.
Watch out for that..could be just making it up.
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@RebeccasFarm (89883)
• Arvada, Colorado
28 Oct 23
@sharonelton Yeah..maybe not let them do any work.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
@RebeccasFarm Yes, my brother advised us not to do anything because he can't see anything wrong and he thinks the guys just touting for business!
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
Thank you. I'm glad it's not just me. I
It was a bit of a nerve, yes!
That's what my brother says.
That's what my brother says.1 person likes this
@xFiacre (13024)
• Ireland
28 Oct 23
@sharonelton Workmen can be very disrespectful in that way and swagger about a house as if they had some right so to do. And if they are doing some work and need to make use of the facilities they don’t see the need to pull the chain after themselves. I’m more concerned however about the rats. Now make yourself a nice camomile tea and slow down.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
Yes, they can! Yes, they do!
The rats are a pest.
I've had my camomile tea now, thank you very much.
The rats are a pest.
I've had my camomile tea now, thank you very much. 2 people like this
@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
Yes, they should have asked. Yes, I should! Not that I've got many clean undies left!
Not that I've got many clean undies left!2 people like this
@Fleura (30401)
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 23
Now I know you didn't call this trader but they just turned up and claimed your roof needed work, I'm really concerned they are a scammer. Read this information from the consumers' rights organisation 'Which?' about doorstep scams:
Especially the part about 'doorstep scams' - and show it to your Step-Dad as well.
I'm copying the most relevant paragraph here just to highlight it:
Rogue traders
The scam: a trader will come to your home and offer to do some work for you at a special rate – this might be new paving or a new driveway. Another common tactic is to claim that you have a hole in your roof or your damage to your guttering – usually something that you can’t easily check yourself. They’ll say that it’s very urgent and put pressure on you to get the work done immediately.
The reality: it’s highly likely that they’ve made up the problem. They might pretend to fix it or do a shoddy job. They’ll then charge you an extortionate amount for the ‘work’.
https://www.which.co.uk/consumer-rights/advice/doorstep-scams-and-how-to-avoid-them-aWers5g8JA3V
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
30 Oct 23
We have a sign in our window saying NO DOORSTEP CALLERS but he just seemed to ignore it. I know about these kinds of scams. I've seen them on TV.
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@Fleura (30401)
• United Kingdom
30 Oct 23
@sharonelton That's good, make sure your step-Dad isn't sucked in!
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
30 Oct 23
@Fleura Thank you very much. Yes, I'll make sure of that. But he's not a push over, I have to say!
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@porwest (90911)
• United States
29 Oct 23
@sharonelton I am not being mean here, but how can you assess a roof problem potentially being there if you are not yourself a roofer? The reason you call a roofer is they know what they are looking at. 
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
28 Oct 23
Yes, it is very annoying and I can't see any problem.
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@LindaOHio (178706)
• United States
29 Oct 23
It could be dampness/mold forming because of a problem with the roof or gutters. Sorry they went into your bedroom without permission. Have a good day.
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@LindaOHio (178706)
• United States
30 Oct 23
@sharonelton It's good that he took a look at it.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
30 Oct 23
My brother reckons he can't see anything wrong, and the guys probably touting for business, so he advised us not to go ahead with whatever the roof man wanted to do.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
30 Oct 23
@LindaOHio Thank you very much. Yes, it is.
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@Orson_Kart (6775)
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 23
Reading through this discussion, I can see the roofer just called touting for business. Like others have said, I’d be wary of such cold calls. It’s usually obvious if there is a problem with the roof, and often it can be just blocked gutters than can cause damp in the corner, if indeed there is any damp. Either way, your step-dad should not be letting a stranger into your room without your permission. I’d be hitting the roof too!
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
30 Oct 23
Thank you very much. I'm glad you agree with us. Yes, we won't be having any work done on our roof. Unless I damage it when I hit it!
@RasmaSandra (79886)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Oct 23
One's bedroom is always sacred and they certainly should have asked permission to enter yours, I see no damp.
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@sharonelton (28882)
• Lichfield, England
29 Oct 23
Thank you very much. I'm glad you agree with me.
No, I don't see any damp either.
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