Is Marrage Anything More than a Piece of Paper

Look, if it aint broke dont fix it! seriously....if neither of you are interested in getting legally married then dont bother...marriages these days seem to be more for the guests than the actual couple and I think thats b.s especially if the couple never really wanted to wed in the first damn place but were presured into it...Sounds to me like you two HAVE commited to one another and to your kids and if youa re all happy then leave it at that...

Hi, it s all come down to ur understanding n wordview towards the meaning n perspective of marriage. Marriage as i believe is something sacred in all religions, and also scoiety throuhgout human s history. It was, and it s still n firmly believe will ever remain so till the end of this world. If u juz look at marriage as the formalization of ur relation with ur spouse, then so it be. Worse still when people see it as a burden n troublesome since it brings u all the legalobligation n duty particularly when divorce happen.Look at marriage as the TRUE, SERIOUS, n WELL-THOUGHT manifestation of luv that u enjoyed with ur spouse. A true luv will make u to have all trust n hopes towards the succesfull of the marriage. U r hoping that it will give u happiness until the rest of ur life. The gud thing bbout it is that, it s not a MERE HOPE but confi9dence towards it. If u put the unnecessary reserve of 'worrying' n non confidence towards the luv u urself vowed with ur spouse, then i serious beg u to seriously re-consider ur relation with ur spouse, it s NOT A TRUE LOVE. Believe in ur love, n GET SERIOUS bout it. What s so problem bout marriage anyway, it juz doesnt make sense altogehter to vowe ur love but then 'fearing' towards the loyalty of ur luv n also ur spouse's.Again GET SERIOUS

They only diff I see is health insurance that dont pay for the partner Insurance people thing ya have to be married before they pay for the babies and other health problem. any how thats what I have seen

I think the marriage is a way of saying i trust you. I was divorced also and afraid of marriage and am no longer. My man would have been fine the way things are cause he loves me with or without the piece of paper but by my agreeing to marry him i showed trust. He knows now that i trust we will grow old together. If you are sure its right then it shouldnt be an issue to make it official. If you look at it as just another piece of paper then why not go ahead and make it finall it wouldnt hurt lol unless hes a biter.

It's not just about a piece of paper. Marriage is something sacred. It is a religious belief. In Islam, marriage is half of a person's belief. Getting married is something that I think all people who are with someone who strive to do, because it validates your relationship in front of God, and in front of the world.

I don't think it really expands on your love for one another or anything of that nature, but it just binds you to one another legally and serves the same purpose for religious reasons.... other than that, I don't see a real difference and this is an entire different topic, but I think it's crap that people who don't want to marry cannot recieve the same government treatment as those who do....

For me marriage was not about the paper work at all, it was about us showing each other as well as everyone else how much we loved each other and wanted to be together. We had been together for almost 3 years before we got married and had lived together for over a year, we even had a 3 month old daughter and my son called my husband daddy before we ever were married. Just because we lived together didn't really show us how much we cared for each other, my husband really showed me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me when we got married. Even though we only went to the court house, it was somewhat of an emotional security for me, to know that if he was willing to make this commitment then he really wanted to be with me forever, and I know that it doesnt mean forever because of divorce ect but if you knew my husband you would know that he meant forever. So yes to me marriage is alot more than a piece of paper.

Commitment first before any documents or marriage papers. Anyway, what is marriage without commitment? If you cant just commit, then why marry and make your relationship legal? Legality means that you have the sole right over your partner. And for security purposes also. YOu have someone to call your own 'cause you legal proofs to show. if you both done all those things that i think you are already both committed to each other, then proceed to the next step, make it legal and made known to everybody that you have legally binded each other.

Well, in law, marriage is pretty much a few pieces of paper. To me, it sounds like you and your boyfriend have a good relationship going, and your kids and families get along fine. If you don't want to marry, don't. The legal thing marriage does is that if one of you pass away, the other can inherit whatever was left (should you have no will). In religion however, marriage is a commitment/promise to your spouse to care for each other and stuff like that- stuff you seem to do anyways. To get married in a religious point of view is just to get your marriage reconized by the church/your religion.

See if you aren't willing to get married then maybe you aren't that committed. I mean what is the big problem with getting married. It's not cost, you can do it cheat at the Justice Of The Peace. Is it that you are afraid of officially being committed to someone? Remember right now your boyfriend could leave you and cause severe emotional harm to your children and you couldn't even get support from him if he was helping you financially while you lived together. At least you can get that when you get divorced. Also what if you are in a hospital and on life support, guess what your "boyfriend" has no legal right to be in the room. He also has no claim to the property have if you would pass away.

i think a piece of paper never makes a difference .......relationships are not bound of paper

"For me" it is more than just a piece of paper. It is something sacred. It is supposed to be the bond of a stonger relationship. It's what's formalising an informal engagement. Once upon a time it really was something. It really was important. But generations change. Things and people are becoming less traditional. Or must I say, people are so into their own opinion nowadays. So into independency. Why would people settle on a bonding relationship when they can in fact go on without the official seal? To most, it is just impractical. Why? Because we witnessed failed relationships. Our own parents, our neighbors, our friends...celebrities...politicians...How easily they can just get away from relationships even with that paper. There's divorce anyways. But filing divorce could be really such a hassle. Wastes ones time and finances. so, why the need? better not wed. I find nothing wrong with living together. We are all entitled to our own opinion and decisions. In fact, it is better than putting up with already failed relationships pretending their still workable but in truth it's already marred long before. And the kids suffer. It's all a matter of open-mind...really. I am neither pro nor against it. Just that I can tell the advantages and disadvantages of everything because I keep my eyes open. It may seem that it is just a piece of paper because people don't believe in it anymore. If we don't have faith in something it becomes useless. It becomes none important. We are the ones giving value to something. So, the bottom line is, it could or couldn't be anything than a piece of paper. It all depends on how we take it.

I some times think that marriage is nothing more then a piece of paper. So that the men can controll you. There are some men that think if you sign that paper your signing over your life to them. They can do what ever they want to you. Not True. I don't even know why we have to sign that Paper any ways. Whats the point..?

I agree with you. It is completely just a piece of paper. Now of course for insurance and finance purposes, its worth a little more but in terms of your relationship, no. Marriage is a commitment, which is in the heart. A piece of paper cant make you commit or not. Plus, think about homosexual couples who cant legally marry but consider theirselves married becuase they have commited relationships and families together, just like you!

I do think that paper matters a lot yea especially when your kids grow up and register in school yea , the school will look upon kids with single parents as "Most probably will cause trouble " so it is better that you at least get the paper if you both still love each other and for the kids yea

In our country we value marraige a lot, We dont believe in this live in relationships, even if the marriage goes through any rough patch yet the couple stick together, divorce is also rare and family attachments are more here, so i guess we believe in marraige

MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN . THIS IS A PROVERB . MARRIAGES ARE NOT SIMPLY PAPER. IT IS SOMETHING WHICH U CANNOT EXPRESS OR SPECIFICALLY SAY. MARRIAGES ARE THE ACTION OF UNITING TWO SOULS AS PER THE DIRECTION OF THE CREATOR. AGREEDTHERE MAY BE SOME DIFFERENCE OF OPINION BUT THIS IS NOT TO BE TAKEN INTO NEGATIVE SENSE. THERE IS NO END IN CHANGING THE WIFE OR CHANGING THE HUSBAND. IT MAY BE ALLOWED IN FOREIGN COUNTRIES. BUT THIS IS NOT CORRECT. THE INNER MEANING OF THE MARRIAGE IS TO LIVE WITH TOGETHER AND FOUND A WAY TO LEAD THE LIFE IN TO THE PATH OF THE CREATOR AND GET HIS GRACE

Maybe if you really love each other you have to get married to legalize your relationship.

Marriage is not just a piece of paper it is a commitment for life, if people are unfaithful then they are doing something wrong. marriage was ordained by God he did not want man to be alone so he had made the institution of marriage so that families will be formed and he considers it as a sacred thing which he blesses and sanctifies.

I think marriage IS just a piece of paper - not have a marriage certificate doesn't change the way you feel about the other person. On the downside though - that house you bought together could be a problem if you do go your seperate ways....maybe you should check into the legal ramifications of that? Good luck in whatever YOU decide - do what feels right in your heart :)