Have you seen that family with 16 children?
By estherlou
@estherlou (5015)
United States
January 29, 2007 5:38pm CST
It is a new reality show I guess. I just caught a couple of episodes of it the other night. A couple has either 15 or 16 children (all theirs...with 2 sets of twins) and one on the way. They have spent the last several years building their own home and boy is it huge! I want to know...how in the world do you afford to feed and clothe that many kids? I didn't catch what he does for a living, but she MUST be a stay-at-home mom! My goodness!
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@apky12 (769)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I think they have 17 kids now. I've seen it through the years. He is in politics in Arkansas. She is a SAHM and she home schools. They make their own clothes, know how to play an instrument, they have an older take care of a younger, etc. I just don't know how this woman's uterus has done this!
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@mom2chriskel (1060)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I've watched all the shows and she is such an inspiration. To think I can get overwhelmed with 2 children and she has that many and still is sane. One of the amazing things is that they have no debt! Can you believe that?
It looks like they have a new website:
http://www.duggarfamily.com
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
30 Jan 07
I have seen that show. She is a stay at home mom. The two oldest are from her first marriage. They spend $150 on food per day. I don't know how they do it!
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@mom2chriskel (1060)
• United States
30 Jan 07
That must be a different family because they all belong to the same 2 parents--at least the Duggar's do.
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@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Acutally, I saw them interviewed once before the show. She said she's just going to keep having babies until God tells her she should stop. And smiling the whole time. My question is when do they find the time to keep making all those babies. And how does she keep her sanity. She always looks like she's had a healthy dose of valium.
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
1 Feb 07
When I read your comment, I started laughing! People like them must be born with lots of patience! I was a crazy person with just 2 kids. My husband would have liked more. I just can't even imagine!
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@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Yes! I am amazed that anyone can remain as calm as she seems with that many children! I shudder to think about meal prep for that many, and laundry...OMG! I imagine though,that there is a lot of help from the older children. One thing that would worry me, I wonder how you keep up with emotional needs. There are times when one of your children is needing an extra bit of emotional attention due to something in their lives (usually blown out of proportion!) and if you aren't very keen with your observations, you'll miss the cues. How can she possible notice?!
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@Itallie (65)
• Italy
30 Jan 07
That's a really good point. Children love the attention of their parents, and if they aren't getting enough of it they will sometimes act out just to get that attention they desire. They don't care that the new attention is negative, at least it's something. I can't imagine when the couple has alone time to work on their marriage and their commitment to each other. A house that full could not possibly have any privacy!
@toots1115 (138)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I know a family who had ten kids and it was alot of hand-me-downs and making alot of their clothes. I could never imagine having that many kids. I think I would go a little crazy!:)
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I watched a show similar to your but I don't think they had as many kids but the woman was pregnant also and she had like 10 kids. The older kids helped with the littler ones and they were all home schooled as a matter of fact they had their own school room built on to the house. And the mom made alot of the clothes she didn't buy. My mom had 8 kids my mother in law 12 But in todays world you just didn't think it was still done. It's not the smartest thing to do have so many kids. But I guess if they made it back in the old days and they had harder times back then, then that woman with all them children will in this day and time. When does she have time to sleep? Seems like whenever she does get the time she ends up pregnant. I hope this will be her last I can't imagine what a strain that has put on her body and all.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
30 Jan 07
They must be either Mormon or Catholic, and he would have to have a Good job to be able to keep on affording to add on to the house all of the time, and keep on having children. Maybe he is something like a Doctor, and can you imagine if they are adding on to the house all of the time how big the house would have to be, and what it is worth. Where can I find out more about this? This sounds interesting.
@jolanda33 (720)
• Netherlands
30 Jan 07
wow sometimes i go crazy by two kids! i guess this family don't use any birthcontrol i think! here in the Netherlands i knew a family same number of kids, uses two houses!
thet where not alowed to use birthcontrol(the church say no, but i don't know wich one)
i think they save the clothes for the next one, and i think she let her oldest ones help her with the household!
no way she can do all that by herself!
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@Bev1986 (1425)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I saw a special on the family last year... it amazes me that her body can handle having that many kids! lol! Honestly, I admire them. I think it would be so neat to always have someone else in the family that they can turn to. If you're mad at one sibling, just go find another!
I've always heard that the more kids you have, the easier it is because you have more help. I only have two girls and we wanted 5 kids, but it just wasn't meant to be...
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@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I've heard that too but I wonder how she managed when they were all babies. I had 3 under the age of 3 and it was crazy because they were all too little and needed my help. Even now--I have 4. My oldest 3 are 6, 5 and 4 and the baby is almost 10 months. The older kids are a little help but they still need me to do a lot of stuff for them (although they can now get their own lunches).
I just saw a special on another family. They have 14 kids (13 boys and 1 girl) and she said the hardest time was when #5 or #6 was born because all the other kids were toddlers/preschoolers and she didn't know what to do with them all. The home videos were cute of all the boys playing together. They have their own softball team that all the guys play on (they all still live at home and the oldest was like 24).
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@dragonstar13 (1465)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I am one of 13 kids. My parents were both raised on farms, my mom was one of ten and so was her mother. When I tell people how many siblings I have, they immediately say, you must be Catholic. Actually, I am, but the large family was my parents choice, not the church's. They wanted a large family and probably would have had more, but after 14 pregnancies (Mom lost a set of twins) the doctor said it was time to stop.
To respond to some of the comments I've read -- nope, no privacy. We lived in a small (1100 sq foot) 2 bedroom house when I was born. My parents then moved us to a larger 2 bedroom (about 2000 sq ft) which my dad remodeled to make 5 bedrooms. We had two sets of bunk beds in the two larger bedrooms and one set in the smaller. One bathroom. When flu season would hit, we lined up outside the door with coffee cans in case we couldn't wait our turn to be sick. And when it wasn't flu season, we just lined up outside the door waiting our turn.
Mom was a stay at home mom and Dad worked 2 or 3 jobs all the time. He also dabbled in real estate investment. The family home he bought for 1200.00 is now worth in the 7 - 800,000.00 range. As a machinist and one of the first numerical control programmers, he held several patents.
We wore hand me downs, bought bread from the day old bakery and cut coupons. There was a family in the neighborhood who had 16 kids; the father would go to the grocery stores and buy the old produce and then sell it for a big discount. Mom would buy some, we would cut the bruised parts off and make soups, stews, applesauce and banana bread.
We didn't spend a lot of money on entertainment, we made our own -- hide and seek, baseball, tag and other games with kids in the neighborhood. We sometimes had a TV in the house and sometimes not, but that was not unusual. In those days -- before computers, video games, dvd's and cable -- kids played outside and used their imaginations.
Everyone had chores to do, the older kids were responsible for helping the younger ones with chores, bathing, dressing, etc.
It was a lot of work and we all worked together as a team. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I can't imagine being an only child or only a couple of siblings.
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@ScrappinHappyMom (914)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I have watched all the shows on them and other families with large numbers of children. I have discovered the secret first none of them live in a high cost of living area like Denver, LA, New York etc. The Duggars for instance I watched them on show when they were shopping. They purchased entire flats of canned green beans for $10 whereas here were I live a flat of 24 cans would cost $24 dollars. Also none of the families purchase new cars, new clothes, new toys etc. For instance the Duggar family goes to the second hand store on the day when the whole store is 50% off to buy clothes. All of the extras that the rest of us think are essential they cut out. You won't see anyone drinking StarBucks or have a cheeseburger. The last key I think is something my husband and I admire and are working very hard to accomplish, these families have NO DEBT they pay cold cash for everything if they don't have the money in hand it doesn't get bought. They have no mortgage, car payments, or credit cards of any sort.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
30 Jan 07
My husband comes from a family with 13 kids in it. His dad was a farmer and his mom stayed at home to help on the farm with chores, did the cooking, cleaning, etc. Christmas and other holidays are very interesting for me over there because I come from a family that only had 2 kids.
@vicky_lane4987 (980)
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30 Jan 07
16 children is so not healthy for a family. dont get me wrong i would love to have loads of children, but that many cant be good for the children anyways. as not all of them will get the same amount of attention? its like that film "cheaper by the dozen" but in real life lol
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@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I haven't seen the show on this family, but I have read a few articles about them. I know the mom is a stay at home mom and also homeschools the kids. They never by anything unless they have the money so they don't have any debt. I know having that many children is not something that I could do. I love children, but that's just not for me.
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
30 Jan 07
lol...the Dugger family!?! Well, I have a little over half that many kids and I would absolutely LOVE to live like they do! I commend them for having that many and being so well organized. And look at how nice they are all together, my kids kill eachother...they are living the "dream"!(probably only in my eyes though! lol)
@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I haven't seen the show, but I have seen the title as I scroll thru the channels. The guy MUST be some kind of wallstreet tycoon or lawyer or something I can't imagine. I have 2 kids and money is tight...I am a stay at home mom, but my husband does make a descent living. we still struggle.
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@carmella (496)
• United States
30 Jan 07
WOW!!! And I thought I had a lot of kids with 8. I don't know how they can afford so many kids. Even though I had 8, I only had 6 in the home at once, my older children were moving out the two youngest came along. I would go insane with that many at one time. I'm sure mom stays at home, can you immagine how much she would have to earn in order to pay the baby sitter? Amazing, the woman must be a saint!
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@kingcheeko (405)
• Bermuda
30 Jan 07
Wow....that is alot of runts running around. My father grew up with 12 siblings,and i thought that was alot of children...lol
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