does time really heal all wounds?

Philippines
October 9, 2006 11:59pm CST
i used to believe that it did. but six years after my dad died, the pain of losing him is still as fresh as if it happened just a few seconds ago. now, i'm beginning to wonder if time really heal wounds?
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
16 Dec 06
Am not sure if time heals the wounds of the loss of a loved one, but it does become a little easier to cope with. I believe that it is a way of keeping the memory of that person alive inside you, and some days something can trigger off a memory of that person, I have just learnt to cherish these moments instead of feeling sadness.
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• Philippines
17 Dec 06
thanks for such consoling and beautiful words.
@caramello (4377)
• Australia
17 Dec 06
My pleasure.
• South Africa
21 Nov 06
I doubt it but it helps to make it easier to live with. My dad passed away 5 years ago and it still hurts at times, but I found what helps is to go somewhere you'll feel close to him and just spend some time t6alking to him. When you do it the first time you feel like an idiot but after a while it becomes easier and you talk to him whenever you miss him. Sometimes I can even smell my Dad when I do it. I believe they are just in a different dimension and they are still close to us.
• Philippines
22 Nov 06
thanks for sharing this. it's been 6 years in my case, and it still hurts big time. the pain has never waned a bit. i'll try your suggestion, though.
• India
10 Oct 06
make good friends or better find a very gud friend, share ur pains with them and get engaged in ur life... it really heals...
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• Philippines
21 Nov 06
thanks, your raised some good points.
@skysong60 (117)
• United States
10 Oct 06
no, time alone doesn't heal anything. it's what you do with that time that makes a difference. and that doesn't always mean trying to forget what happened.
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• Philippines
21 Nov 06
good point. thanks for responding. i appreciate your opinion.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Time does help heal wound to some extent, but most of the time you can never really forget them. The important thing is learning to move on from them while continuing to make yourself a better person.
• Philippines
21 Nov 06
thanks for sharing this.
• United States
20 Nov 06
Yes I do.and if not heal i would say it numbs it..I lost my gramma and my babies daddy..and its been 5 yrs now for both..lost them in the same year..I get sad when i think of them..but the hurt isnt as raw as it was when i forst lost them..i also keep in miund although there not here wih me..they will always be with me in spirit..and when i start to feel really sad on some days..i will just sit and talk to them like they are there./.my belief is that though i cant hear them they can hear me..and it really helps..its my own therepy..and i know someday i will see them again..and btw im am sooooooo very sorry for your loss..and when i lose my dad it will take even longer to heal..but it will get better in time..it just takes some people longer...if u ever need to talk..your welcome to email me any time..take care!
• Philippines
21 Nov 06
wow, thanks for sharing this. i hope talking about this helped to relieve whatever emotional baggage remains.
@achilles7 (1276)
• India
26 Oct 06
Yes time cures everything.It requires enough time.
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
how much time is enough, though?
@121970 (66)
• India
10 Oct 06
No it does not. The most time can do is numb the surrounding area. It might sound cold but the whole "time to move on" thing actually means abandoning a memory. People feel guilt on doing it deliberately so they allow time to weaken their memory and claim that time has healed their wounds. We need to forget what causes us pain and sometimes the only way to do it is to let enough time pass so the brain lets go. This is also the reason why people involve themselves in different things to occupy the mind.
• Philippines
21 Nov 06
yeah, so true, isn't it? actually, i have come across your response before, and i rated you for that. i'm rating you again for this. thanks.
@nickel1191 (2790)
• India
21 Oct 06
thats what iv heard!!!
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
any experiences you'd like to share?
@somesh1984 (1295)
• India
21 Oct 06
ya time is the biggest healer of emotional wounds
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
thanks for your comment. care to share more?
@manzician (4727)
• India
21 Nov 06
I think so.. Time is the best healer...
• Philippines
22 Nov 06
thanks for sharing...
@hizzle13 (644)
• United States
21 Nov 06
I don't think so, theres always a bit of you that still hurts.
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
yes, i have to agree with you. thanks for responding.
@hdbueg (611)
• United States
21 Nov 06
No, I don't believe that time heals all wonds. Physical wounds yes time will heal, but mental and emotional no. An elephant never forgets.
• Philippines
21 Nov 06
do appreciate your comment. thanks.
@coolcager (496)
• Costa Rica
16 Dec 06
i dont know. hehe. But i think it does when the right time comes and you are ready to move on and you already accept the fact that you know. or maybe you really do love you dad and you spend good and happy times together when you where still a child or a baby. But honestly time will heal.
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@mitra8801 (268)
• India
21 Nov 06
u could have given him proper treatment
@mitra8801 (268)
• India
21 Nov 06
u could have given him proper treatment
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
Yes, I believe that time heals all wounds. I've had several heartaches. Not all are from failed romantic relationships, though. A few are from friends and family. They hurt big time. I never imagined I could ever recover. But I did. Twas not a quick one, though. It took time. Time healed my wounds but of course the memories will remain.