Broken Marriages

From all that I have heard and seen in the people around me...no one wants to do the work. Unwilling to meet the other half way. Also they seem to enter into marriage thinking that they could get a divorce and be done. Shouldn't do anything thinking about the way out at the very beginning! Our lives tend to pull and tug at us and many just do have the skills taught by parents to cope with the adjustments and difficulties and how to manage them. Seems a dim view, however, we people are quite capable of learning when given a decent chance.

Communication is one factor the other is weak foundation of it. Many couples nowadays jump to marriage as if it just like going on vacation. They think its all about happiness and laughter. Some are trying to make it like business investment that looking for partner who can give them financial security and suddenly after marriage realizes that love cannot be filled by money.

I think a lot of the problem is communication but I also think that a lot of people embark on marriage without giving any thought to how hard they will have to work to keep the marriage going. I've been married for over 30 years and we have both had to compromise. We still have love and respect for each other. We've often had arguements but have sorted them out.

i say lack of quality time and boredom in the relationship is a major factor. everybody needs to be taken cared of, loved, wants a feeling of being special to someone. once you don't feel these things anymore with your partner you want to give up sooner or later. i say having variety of ways in showing you care for a person keeps the flame of love burning and making relationships more worthwhile.

I wud say the key factor for the broken marriage is the lack of understanding, lack of compromises from both ends and ofcourse not believing each other... According to me the partners suspecting each other for extra marital affair is also one reason for the broken marriages.. Do you people believe??

i think todays life major area for breakdown marriage is understanding nothing else

There are alot of things as well, but I would say communication is the major one. I wish I could always make my marriage work until the day I die.

Maybe financial stability is also the major breakdown in marriages.

I definately agree with you, I think it is the lack of communication. And to add unto that, lack of understanding. When people refuse to communicate with one another, there are many misconceptions that evolve and many misunderstandings. And if they can't communicate, then there's no room left to understand one another, and the marriage just falls apart.

Money is a major issue in many marriages, including my own. I think another major reason people give up on marriages so often these days is an unwillingness to realize your life is not just about you anymore. Even if you have no children your life is no longer just your own, and a lot of people are too selfish to give this up. There is nothing wrong with that, to be selfish is human nature, you just shouldn't get married if you can't give up your "all about me" life. Therefore like you said communication plays a big role. If you can't communicate you shouldn't be married.

I would say that the men have all turned in to big sissy's now a days and don't do like the old timers and protect and care for their familys like they use to when i was growing up. Im sure there will be someone with a problem about this response and im sorry this is what my experiences have been. Of course the women have got more trashy and hateful too.

I would agree with you there. Many people are afraid to discuss problems with their partner and this is how couples grow apart. I think there is a lot of stress in a marriage in todays society compared to in the past. They are so many areas where problems can develop such as money, children etc. There is less romance in the past- things can get boring fast. This could have led to unfaithfulness which is another big cause of marriage breakdowns today. A lot of people these days rush into marriages which could be a contributing factor.

Communication and personal preference and complete honesty. All these three I would say are the problem from the start. Before the marriage, it is often that the couple talk more about their ideal marriage life. I want this I want that, I expect you to be like this and expect from me that I'll be like this, but they never talked about how would they do it to the most minute details, and in that way, miss communication happens. They don't compare or patch up their personal preferences with full honesty. And more often, people in love are having a narrow vision in life and neglecting some and more often, important and precious details in life of a married couple.

Comminucation is the #1 reason...my opinion

My take, to sum it all in 2 words is, irreconcilable differences..

Communication & understanding are sometimes the major cause of broken marriages. If the couples don't have good communication & understanding, their relationships can't stand.

Yes! I agree totally with you. And the second major area to me is financial. Communication: Male and female do not have the same ideas in their heads. That's why they talk differently and the way they see things are in different perspective. I've always argued with my husband about major philosophy in life. but as time passes by, I learnt to accept his ideas and learn to share them so that we can find a middle way solution to our disagreement. sometimes we just make jokes about our differences so that we would just forget about it and take it lightly. I think that's the best medicine!

The major area in breakdown of a marriage for me is if one of you is cheating your partner..Contentment should be present.

Broken marraiges may occur because of not having a good communication with each other. The couple need to talk about the family, about the kids, about the expenses in the house, about their feelings to each other, if the love still grow everyday or its fading.

Yes, I do believe it's the break down of the marriage begins with the lack of communication. That it opens the door that leads to needs and wants of each partner going unmet.