why does it seem like my fiance doesn't care about our wedding?

For men it's different it's a big deal to us women. Even though he doesn't seem to excited about it he probably really is. Men tend to be more calm and cool about things like that, my husband didn't really make a big deal about our wedding and he went along with everything i wanted, even though it was very small which is what we both wanted it all worked out. It's your day and he probably just wants you to make it has you want so your happy!!

Guys just don't get into that sort of thing. Brides are usually the ones who take care of the whole wedding, while the guy just kicks back, nods, and smiles.

don't despair. mine was more indifferent than yours when we got married 12 years ago. it also made me alternately depressed and angry. on the other hand, because of his uninvolmenmt, i was able to plan the wedding just the way i wanted it to be, with all the frills and many, many extras which would have earned his thumbs down had he known them beforehand. maybe, it's just as well for you, too. besides, men are made like that - seemingly uncaring. but they do care.

Most blokes are like that. Way back when I got married my fiance only was interested in the marriage celebrant and the cake and suit hire. All the rest was left up to me. Now my daughter is getting married in 9 weeks she finds her fiance doing the same thing. He is interested but for some reason they think that women do those sort of things better. You will do great and end up having a beautiful wedding. After it is all over you will think to yourself I have done a great job. Congratulations on your forthcoming nuptials.

the post marriage period is very sensitive one.both the boy and girl are excited but according to me the boy is also a little tense and a bit confuse concerning his future. he has to be bound under certain conditions and he will have to take every step of his lif thinking about his wife and family. he is also concerned that if he is not doing it to early in his lif when the whole future awaits him.so it can be this thing for not him bein so excited.

Sorry to say this but guys just aren't wired the way us women are. We dream about our perfect wedding from the first time we have a crush on a guy. Guys put off thoughts of marriage as long as they can. They also know from experiences they've heard from their friends that mostly the bride does most of the organising. It's not that he doesn't care about you or the wedding (if he didn't care he wouldn't be marrying you right?), it's just that he assumes (wrongly so in this case) that the organising of wedding is what women enjoy most apart from the actual day itself. Good luck and try not to be too stressed about his lack of interest in the arrangements. I'm sure things will work out fine. x

Men are men are men are men! Its the "bride's day" so in their minds all they have to do is get the tux ready and the ones for his pals the groomsmen and show up. Thats how they are and mine was the same, LOL! You have to relax, you are overstressing and tho its unfair, he's leaving everything in your capable hands to design the wedding you want to have. Men dont like fuss and feathers, as they say and avoid it at all costs. However, the only thing he would be concerned is going overbudget if you two are footing the bill. If its your family doing so - he's not worried, its someone elses's problem. He's a man!

Men and women don't think the same way, moreso with weddings. Relax, the fact that he's not stressing or as "into it" as you are doesn't really mean that he doesn't care. Women are more likely to stress about the details of the wedding. Men are not vey much into the details.

some guys are just that way or it could be that he thinks if he makes an opinion you wouldnt like it. i think he cant wait to get married and maybe hes just nerves. i wouldnt worry to much about it

This happened to me too! I was so exited planning and all for the wedding and my fiancee ws a lump no care whatsever! I think they are programmed to turn into mush when we say wedding! Ha Ha well I guess just eep trying let him know it's important for you to remember his role in planning your wedding and if he doesn't help you'll be scarred forever! put the guilt on sister! have fun Congrats ahead of time! Cute baby!

In a way, too little interest is better yhan too much - what if he wanted to control EVERYTHING? But I understand your point. Do you ask him direct questions? Or perhaps you are too stressed. Relax, it will be here soon enough and then it will be over... BTW - Congratulations!!

It sounds to me that you're both doing the normal thing...you're doing the arranging and he's sitting back seeming not to pay the least bit of attention. Have a talk to him, ask him if he's okay with the arrangements you've made; is it the kind of wedding he wants. Explain to him that you're a little unsure of yourself because he's not seeming to take any interest, but if he's okay with it, that will make you feel better. The bottom line is communication, communication, communication. If he says he's feeling alright and just doesn't get into these things, then feel comfortable, relaxed and happy. And have fun and best of luck!

I wouldnt take it personal, guys dont get into it like we do...its not something theyve been looking forward to since they were a little girl they just want to be there have it be a great day and everything but they arent about the planning at all!

His reaction is not a cause for worry. Some persons react like that it does not mean that he is not excited.Women tend to be more worried about things go on however taking up the topic in reasonable intervals would be good .As for any important preparation is necessary & the right way to do it.

I think it's a male thing. Most of us just want the wedding but are more concerned about it being perfect for the bride.

Because he has a p*nis that's why:) Most men are like that (note I didn't say ALL). They don't like to be bothered with that kind of stuff, and not to sound mean, but he's probably in denial that he's getting married lol! It's just not registering in his mind yet. If it were up to him to plan this, first of all, it would probably not take place until the year 2020. And second, when it did take place, it would probably be in a friends backyard, with hamburgers barbecuing on the grill, a couple kegs for everyone, and a big screen tv with the game on. So just relax, tell him the stuff you're doing and planning, and leave it at that. Don't force him to "get into it". And don't get mad at him over it either. You might end up scaring him. That way you're still including him in it, but don't shove it down his throat. And don't get upset that he's not responding to it the way you want him to. He's dealing with this in his own way. And to most guys, they just can't understand what the big deal is:)

Guys seems don't like to always butt in or should i say they don't really want to be stressed out on things :) for the ladies, they seems sometimes exaggerated but its just because they really want to best on something.. For you and your husband, congratulations. Dont over stressed yourself, its natural to be excited but dont let your excitement carry you up on something that will make you overexpect on things. Just be moderate :) Its right that everything will work out fine, relax. you need a beauty rest :)

Guys have this personality wherein they do not want to intact of details, they let their partner take care of it, maybe, its just the personality og your fiance, if that's the case maybe you should go ahaed and talk to each other so you can tell him your burden.

Hi there! Well, you see, weddings...it's just a girl thing. Don't take your fiance personally. I have gotten married last 2004 and I've been there. I fussed over the tiniest details and wanted my then-fiance to do the same, but it just doesn't work that way. All brides want their wedding to be perfect, I understand that, but men, well, the thought of getting married is probably enough to bring them jitters, hehe. Let him in on what's going on in your wedding plans but don't force him to take an active role on that. If, for some reason, you will be needing his help. Ask him. Don't hint. Men are clueless when it comes to that. And if all else fails, just tell him how you feel. I tell you, there will be a lot of times when you'll just be crying out of stress from all th wedding preparations. Just remember that a wedding is just a day, a marriage is a lifetime. Perhaps your fiance is more excited in that (post wedding). Cheers : )

Men can sometimes be insensitive when they are stressed out. You should communicate this problem of yours to him more specifically. I'm sure he'll reciprocate if he does love you much. Maybe you two should take a breather from all the wedding thing and just enjoy each other's company before that big day.